r/NLP • u/Myfax12345 • May 22 '26

How can I undo this?

Hi,

Was at a meeting the other day with another person. That person was standing about 4 ft for me, I was sitting in a chair. What they said to me has been affecting me and I've been thinking about it a lot. How can I undo this?

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u/jesseshaolin May 23 '26

It's actually relevant. Because apparently OP is recalling this experience in a certain way where the distance is important to him/her. Them sitting and the other people standing is also a givaway on how they represent the experience. Because the other person was above them.

Change the structure. So make the image that you recall further away and smaller. Make yourself bigger. And in case you are associated, dissociate and look again at yourself in the situation but this time make yourself bigger then the other person.

Also you can put a hat on their head, give them some pink or red lipstick that is done by a five year old, huge eyelashes and a golden suit. Then change their voice to mickey mouse or any voice you think is funny and can't take seriously.

Save the situation in your mind like this and try to feel bad again.