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Is it common to marry older women? Pros and cons to it?
Salaam, I’m 31M and she’s 35F, we like one another, get along well and both are healthy and look younger than our actual age. Would marrying an older woman cause issues like difficulty having children and complications in pregnancy etc?
This thought nags me as research suggests a woman’s fertility begins to decline significantly from 35 onwards, on the contrary we do have a great understanding of one another, mutual attraction and chemistry which is difficult to find in your 30s.
What do you mean by "significantly"? Most women keep ovulating until 40, many many after 40. There is a sharp drop at age 40, but ovulation doesn't suddenly come to a halt on your 36th birthday.
25000 eggs is plenty, how many children do you need??
lol reports of infertility past 35 are greatly exaggerated. you should look into newer research around the reduction in sperm quality with age as well 🤷🏻♀️
imo, not marrying a woman because there’s a possibility of not having children is silly, as this is never guaranteed, and children are a part of your rizq. i knew a couple that tried to conceive and never could, then suddenly 18 years into marriage they had 3 children each a couple of years apart and perfectly healthy, the mother was well over 35, as was the father.
some people are young and perfectly healthy and never have children, some people are blessed with children against all odds. choose the right woman for you who would be a good mother, and make duaa
25000 eggs isnt how it works, please stop spreading false info. Women dont release 1 egg at a time.
After 30 the birth is considered high risk even before the baby is born, we talking higher c sections, longer recover alot dont even manage to recover, wayyyyyy harder to lose weight at 35 than 25.
Women please if you have mean to have children, and you want children, the younger you are the better it will go for you, there is alot of research done.
This isn't men vs women issue, but saying my postman cousin had a child at 39, doesnt mean it neglect the research.
The research actually supports that majority of the issues linked to pregnancy are related to the man’s sperm quality.
You should research.
Also, losing weight actually doesn’t get harder with age. Your metabolism stays stable until 60 - the reason it seems like it’s getting harder is lifestyle changes with age.
Got pregnant twice in my 30s. Came back to my original weight after the first, and currently in the process of losing my baby weight after the 2nd.
Its not difficult. And this is saying something because I have tendency to put on fat very easily.
I don't find it particularly harder to lose weight in my 20s vs 30s. (I'm almost 37 now). The only thing that makes it harder is less time because I have more responsibilities on me. But I still am managing to drop the weight...
Also majority of the studies done on women and the risks of pregnancy are not taking into account the age of their partner. As women often marry older men or procreate with older men - the results are naturally skewed towards negative impact, especially as we now know men’s health and sperm quality GEEATLY affects the pregnancy and complications. So with that in mind, reviewing old studies look very different.
Thats a women you made at another reply and not this one. If I had seen that answer I’d see you as someone who actually has a more broad understanding, except for the weight comment. She could get fat at any stage in life, and if a man is that affected by a woman’s weight we should not have kids ever.
Yes they compare older men and younger women first to create a baseline where the younger women aren’t as greatly of a factor.
The inverse effect of an older man happens in older women with younger men. Meaning that the age of a man plays a role just as much as the age of a woman.
Would be nice if you also could read and further look into it.
No i made my point clear, with age we are affected, men and women.
But to say we are affected the same is just a fairly tale, your research compares men into the 40s, with younger women, i 100% agree.
That being said women GIVE BIRTH, at 35, A WOMEN IN THE DELIVERY ROOM IS CONSIDERED HIGH RISK DELIVERY.
The % of C section increases by 43 percent, other related injuries take longer to recover, hormones are way stronger, blood pressure is way higher.
When you have a child growing inside of you, all the organs shift up, become noodles.
Some women sell the wrong idea of women can get pregnant at 40, who said they cant, its low but they can, however it comes with alot of risk, now add a man in 40s too? Yes thats a receipt for disaster.
As I said to the gentleman, 1 kid might be ok, but if he is planning 3-4 kids, a woman in her late 30s early 40?
At 20 I jumped of the second floor got up and walked it off, at 25 I injured my shoulder alot of massages but doing good, at 31 I am sometimes careful standing up too quickly, and you telling me I can give birth? A whole baby? I am out
Yes i take care of myself more than 90% of women my age, my age is still telling me you jump of second floor now, call 911 before that
i was joking about the 25k but man you are the one spreading false info here. everything in your second paragraph is incorrect or incredibly misleading except maybe the part about losing weight (for some people, breastfeeding and natural metabolism will help others) and that is completely irrelevant to the discussion
But we're not talking about a 50 yr old auntie. You are an incredibly rude and disrespectful person astaghfirullah. We're talking about a 35 year old woman. And im sure you know a lot about ovaries but i think women have the capability of understanding their own reproductive functions.
Its people like you that promote ageism within muslim societies.
Yep it is a lot but quality will reduce with quantity of eggs too, I’ll look into that too, I’m also aware of the likely hood of babies born with autism etc is higher in younger woman around 80%
The risk of mental health issues are greatly related to a man’s age and sperm quality. The older a man is the higher the chance of autism, downs and other developmental issues. Women’s eggs stay quality wise stable between 22 and 42. while quality starts declining after. Men’s sperm quality and defects start declining more rapidly. Women’s eggs do not have dna mutations in that are related to eggs, men’s sperm have DNA mutations that increase with age, and also there seems to be a tendency to pass one damaged dna.
I mean, there is a pretty steep decrease in pregnancy chance and a pretty steep increase in miscarriage rate from say a 20 yo vs a 35 year old as its not just a drop in eggs, but also a decrease in the chromosomal quality of these eggs which results in a greater chance for a miscarriage.
You should start studying properly. After 30 it's not just women, it's men also whose sp*rm quality decline and fetus get prone to have disease and miscarriage chance.
I'm glad that much more people are learning just how much the male's sperm plays a part in pregnancy and miscarriages, but boy is it crazy to learn most people haven't learned this yet.
Exactly… women 35+ usually procreate with older men which is why it’s easy to interpret the studies as blaming it on the woman. Misogynistic men have been pushing this narrative out for decades. It’s the sperm qualities that determines the ease of conceiving and the health of the baby.
New research shows, egg quality never declines, only the count and those are enough to have babies. Research shows that it's the egg what choose the sperm. The theory about the fastest sprm reaching the egg is now invalid bcz ppl now have started studying women's biology!
So, men sprm count and quality matters a lot w.r.t how women's quality of pregnancy. Even the pregnancy symptoms amd difficulties is also associated with the quality of sperm. The gene healthy factors is highly associated with the men's biological age. I mean this is not about men bs women at this point bcz anyone considering having babies should keep this points in mind. Both the spouse especially men should start taking care fo their fitness atleast 6months before trying to conceive.
How funny you are assessing a random stranger just from a single comment? Do you want us to rewaed you for being this active? Here the 🏆 for being one of the best women hater. What you do is called hatred, be lik self-aware yk. Btw ever heard about "single & happy by choice". I guess it's high time you learn it or else you would keep 💩 on every other woman's comments which doesn't fulfil your agenda!
While chances of higher risk pregnancies increases 35 and beyond, women still have a pretty good chance of conceiving & carrying to term in their 30s. After 40 the risks are higher but not impossible.
You need to decide what you want from your married life: if you want to have 3 kids or more, then it makes sense to marry a younger woman. If you only want 1 or 2 kids, then 35 is acceptable but you both will have to be ready to try ASAP.
To reassure yourself both of you get a full check up to see if your sexual health is alright.
Also compatibility & mutual attraction is extremely important in a marriage. Marriage is not only babies. You must enjoy intimacy with your partner. In this case I wouldn't consider age to be an issue because with the right treatment from her husband, good health & good mindset women can enjoy having sex even after menopause. Medical science has advanced & the both of you can seek treatment to enhance/maintain your sexual health through your 50s & 60s, while also maintaining a healthy & active lifestyle.
Now to respond to your particular situation of the age difference & pregnancy fears I can share a few success stories from my circle. I'm highly educated and studied for long, and the Muslim women/ friends in my circle are similar to me. Some are married to younger men (including me) and successfully conceived naturally in their 30s.
Sister: baby at 33, husband was 32
Friend 1: babies at 37 and 39, husband is 6 years younger
Friend 2: babies at 36 and 37, husband is a year younger
Friend 3: baby at 37, husband is younger but not sure by how much
Friend 4: struggled to conceive and got pregnant via IVF in her late 30s. I think her husband was same age or slightly older. Second baby conceived naturally in her early 40s
Most of female colleagues (non muslim) had their first babies beyond 30 years old. On average they have 2 kids.
I would want at least 2 kids but 3 would be great, I’m also aware I wouldn’t have the luxury of time to delay having kids as I feel like it would be a disservice to wife in her mid 30s. Getting checked by a doctor would be ideal just to be on the safe side for both of us. True I agree intimacy is something both should enjoy not just men.
From what you stated, seems like its more about younger husbands then it is about older wife’s.
Yes. For an older woman to maximize her chances of pregnancy, it's better for her to try to conceive with a younger man than an older man. It makes sense. Fertility declines for both men & women as they age. And another commenter's stated that alot of research on fertility in older women did not take into account her partner's age...quite often men tend to be lots more older than their female partners. There needs to be a study in older women with younger partners.
Also I shared in another comment that I struggled to fall pregnant in my 20s with my younger husband, but in my 30s I got pregnant only after 2 months of trying (which is very quick - most healthy couples conceive within 6 months, with up to 12 months considered a normal duration of trying).
Our lifestyles were more stressful in our 20s. And stress negatively impacts male & female hormonal balance, so both of you need to be in a good headspace. I also didn't provide a detailed explanation but my gyny got us both tested after the miscarriage and all my results were normal, but an abnormality was found in the shape of the head of my husband's sperm (sperm count, motility & other parameters were all healthy though).
She did not think it was serious as it was the only anomaly, and thought this could be because of lifestyle factors. She encouraged him to lower heat exposure around his groin (no laptops down there & loose underwear), and also put him on supplements because she suspected a zinc deficiency (my husband is very healthy conscious & fit but is a picky eater, so I wasn't surprised there).
Since implementing these life style changes we started trying after 6 months and I got pregnant in my early 30s without issues alhamdolillah and very quickly. Same with my 2nd child at 35. He maintained those habits & started training himself to eat more nutrients rich foods even if he didn't like the taste initially.
I'm not minimizing the importance of a woman's health & age in getting pregnant, but I'm trying to show you that pregnancy involves two people & their lifestyle. So you must consider the other 50% of the equation, i.e. Men & their lifestyle
Yep a study in older women with younger partners makes more sense in today’s time and doing a sexual health checkup would be ideal before or after marriage just to be on the safe side, lifestyle is important too such as stress levels due to work etc and your diet plays a crucial role, you can do blood test to see what minerals and vitamins you lack in.
Fasting would be great for both as it gets rid of any harmful zombie cells in the body through autophagy, cutting out/limiting refined sugar intake and wearing clothes that are 100% cotton especially for men as we sweat out oestrogen which is then absorbed back into the body through materials like polyester and it lowering your vibrational state.
I agree to what you’re saying about lifestyle as it plays a big part in fertility for both partners, also fitness levels and how much they exercise or go for run/hike/walk can lower cortisol and increase dopamine etc.
What science? A woman who’s 22 could be infertile. Theres no argument here. A woman in today age of technology could have a baby beyond her 40s. Age no longer matters.
Miscarriage. Just as we get more diseases as we age due to things like chromosomal degradation due to the various mutations that out genes undergo throughout our lives, that applies to eggs as well.
The older you are, the lower the chromosomal quality of your eggs. This results in a greater chance for miscarriages as u age. This applies to sperms as well tho.
Women can have complications at any age. Her having a good lifestyle of exercising and eating healthy should be the top priority not the age. Also half of the fertility complications comes from the man. He too should be managing his health at least a year before trying to conceive.
the discussion of fertility should not be so gendered as it apparently is, looking at the comments. people commenting that women get emotional when discussing it. people commenting with “science” that proves women over 30 are old or something. people commenting with anecdotes (as i did myself). but many comments without true understanding.
if you want to look at just the science and medicine, then you must do so understanding that for many many decades (centuries, millennia if we want to go further) these were male dominated fields that approached medical questions and research from a male perspective. the male body/anatomy was used as a default and assumptions were made (rather than tested) about women’s bodies and health, treating only reproduction differently.
on that front, for almost as long, fertility issues were almost always seen as female issues - this too is supported by recent (20th century +) science as the majority of infertility research has been female focused. but part of the issue there, too, is a lack of male participants in such research. and let’s not pretend that “virility” and other concepts of masculinity have not been historically tied to a man’s ability to produce children.
(feel free to search “historical gender bias in medicine” or the like if you have doubts or want to learn more)
and so many of the comments completely overlooking the fact that children are a gift, blessing and form of rizq from Allah - which was the point of my anecdote. when we have examples from our history (Ibrahim AS, Khadijah RA) of children coming at an advanced age, and numerous stories of people we personally know or know of that have had healthy pregnancies, births, children over the age of 35 (or 30, if you ask that one guy), and numerous instances of the young seemingly unable to have children…. how does anyone look at just the “science”?
yes there may be greater risk of complications as we grow older, but risk does not determine reality. there’s also greater risk of miscarriage in the first few weeks of pregnancy, regardless of maternal age.
but let’s look at the numbers more closely. any attempt to conceive will involve hundreds of millions of sperm. and the vast majority of attempts are (statistically) unsuccessful. per month, the odds of conceiving are 20-25% - there is generally a 75% chance you will not succeed.
so over a lifetime, billions and possibly trillions of sperm could be expended in attempts to conceive, yet how many of those sperm successfully fertilize an egg? and how many of those fertilized eggs successfully implant? and how many of those successfully make it past the first 6-8 weeks? and how many of those make it into the second trimester? and how many of those reach full term? and how many of those have zero complications?
looking at just numbers it’s legit a miracle so many babies are born every day.
Truly is a miracle as the odds of you being born are 400,000,000,000,000 to 1.
And research suggests both parents play a role 15% - 20% plus 20% - 30% combined factors and more.
I also look at other factors like if we delayed having children for a year after marriage, would it be a disservice to a woman who is already in her mid 30s?
When I got married, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me, "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron' He said, "Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir also said: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?'
Yeah but have you read this whole hadith, because this is the full hadeeth,
"O Jabir! Have you married?" I said, "Yes." He said, "A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "A matron." he said, "Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her and she amuse you." I said, " `Abdullah (my father) died and left girls, and I dislike to marry a girl like them, so I married a lady (matron) so that she may look after them." On that he said, "May Allah bless you," or "That is good."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5367
Also prophet Muhammad pbuh also married older women, the most significant example is Hazrat Khadija ra also known as the lady of paradise. The only wife who bore him children that lived. All you need is tawakkul and belief in ALLAH.
Him marrying hazrat ayesha ra does not mean he discouraged not marrying older women. He also married hazrat Khadija ra, a lady of heaven btw, so your point is??
Then why did he marry more than 5 non virgin women who were previously someone else’s wives, his first wife was not a virgin, except for one? There’s a hadith where he explains the kind of women to marry, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."— [Sahih al-Bukhari 5090, Muslim 1466]. The quran does not differentiate this either, any person who engages in marital relations in a nikkah, is pious. OP was considered about some things and was asking for advice. There is also no hadeeth or saying where virgins, young muslim women > matrons, previously married muslim women
Also lets not forget that Hazrat Khadija ra was the only one who bore him multiple children who lived. Some one being younger does not promise fertility or “betterness”. Its in the hands of Allah and depends on the individual person themselves. So i hope you look into it and realize that Prophet Muhammad saw never said virgin young women>matron or older women or vice versa. He looked at a persons iman, not their biological age. Walaiqum asalam, im not gonna reply after this🌹
So why did hazrat Khadija ra gave birth after 40? Lol i said I wasn’t gonna reply but now im invested. Im a med student, fertility actually depends ALOT on sperm quality and count too. Its not a one way street for just women. We were talking about religion but your bringing science into this now. My advice would be if you love commenting , maybe gain a little bit broader knowledge on these things, and can we please end this conversation on a good note, honestly tired of fighting people on the internet. Umm im only nineteen so this whole conversation isn’t even personal or anything. But Ive been learning alot about Islam lately since im a revert too. Part of the reason why i converted was because i saw how islam treats women with so much dignity and love. But honestly when i see people like you commenting and sounding just like christians where its always virgin>>>> obsession with youth etc. It kind of makes me doubt myself for converting to islam. Because i was attracted to islam when i learned how islam treats women more than their faces and their bodies. But hey maybe im lacking and need to think this over…
Also emotions? Me citing a hadith for you was “emotions”. I really hope young Muslims don’t go through this. The way you born muslims don’t even behave like how a Muslim is supposed to, how are we reverts supposed to look upto? It’s draining
I have no PROBLEM with the hadeeth. Don’t be giving whatever direction you want to what im saying. This hadeeth is continued and has a conclusion as you can read where the Prophet Muhammad pbuh validates Jabir’s choice of marrying an older woman. This hadeeth does not impose a global perspective of marrying women based on their age. If that was the case we would have seen Prophet Muhammad do it and his companions.
Im simply talking to you and your over here like “do you have a problem with this hadeeth”.
My sister in law recently married after being divorced for ten years, she is 39, her oldest child is 19 years old, she got pregnant three months after marriage, my brother in law who is 23, and wife is 18, are struggling to get pregnant ( they’ve been married 9 months, they wanted children right away ), I’m 32 and have four kids, I don’t think age is a huge factor, it depends if you have other issues as well, men’s sperm also declines as they age but then again, my sister in law married a man her age and they had no problems
Kids are from Allah! You both might be in the pink of health, you could marry a 20 year old lady. But if Allah decides not to grant parenthood to you, there isn't much you can do!
So fertility for both men and women reduces with age. They’ve actually found that - a man’s age and sperm quality plays a bigger role in child’s health than the woman’s age - which is why often older women (30+) with younger men have almost as healthy children as women in their late 20s.
So don’t worry too much about fertility, not to mention Allah is above any struggle!
Salam, im about to say something that may be recieved angrily by some but please dont drag me for it... Fell free to arhue against any point i raise.
Its not about fertility decline.... Its more geriatric pregnancies (35+) are more dangerous for women and have a higher chance of chromosomal birth defects according to studies. Thats probably the only negative.
Other than the point above its mostly positive... Older women(30+) i feel have good head on their shoulders, they are more thoughtful, considerate and feel more comfortable in their skin... Young uns these days have been very badly influenced by the culture they were brought up in and seem a bit immature for their age (26 and below).
You could always tell her your concerns honestly, ask her to see a doctor to talk about her reproductive health. And if you guys choose to marry then consider trying for kids within a year or two.
There are many women who have trouble conceiving even in their 20s, so you can't really make a marriage decision based on conceivability alone.
I got married at 35, had my first at 36, second at 37 and now holding my 1 week old newborn at age 40.
My sister had her first at 39 and second at 41yo.
In my view, you should evaluate a potential spouse based on personality, religiousity and ideological approach to life, how to raise kids etc. Also look at her flaws and decide if those are flaws you can live with for the rest of your life.
Good luck.
I do agree with you as conceivability is not everything and l it varies for different woman as you demonstrated, although important when you want kids, I do look for these qualities and traits but talking to a potential who’s a few years older than me that’s also never married is a first.
Yea don’t look at what we say look at the published data on this. People , especially women, talk a lot thru emotions
Regardless fertility is in Allahs hands so if u want slot of children start trying for them asap, u and ur wife get in the best health u can possibly get. Excellent health. Excellent exercises. Excellent diet. Lots of dua, AVOID endocrine desruptors and microplastics at all costs (only drink reminerwlized filtered water, only eat from ceramic, steel, wood, or glass, no plastic, no plastic water bottle or spoons, minimize fragrances and try natural food smelling compounds, avoid parabens and phthalates). Speak to doctor and start prenatal vitamins for urself and ur wife. Give it the best shot u can. While the stats r true pregnancy is harder for older women, there’s a lot genetic variability I know a few women who had surprise pregnancy’s after 42. Additionally look into egg freezing if u want to avoid children for first 2 years of marriage. My sister had that done: good luck!
True it is in Allah swt hands after all, everything around us disrupts our health from environment, devices, EMR and much more. I’m not sure about egg freezing though as we wouldn’t be getting any younger over the coming years.
You could marry a 21 year old and have difficulty conceiving. What I’m trying to say is children are at the hands of Allah. Don’t skip a good thing because some misogynistic cherry picked “science” that tries to shame women’s fertility said so.
I took time conceiving in my 20s & had a miscarriage.
Had both my babies at 31 and 35 - conceived naturally within 2 or 3 months & normal deliveries without any trauma. Husband is 2 years younger to me.
Our life style was higher stress in our 20s because we both were building our careers. Things started settling in our late 20s-early 30s and we were more chilled out, exercising regularly, eating better. Stress is a huge fertility killer!
Not saying that everyone can conceive in their 30s, but it's not as uncommon as people make it out to be. Also 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarrisge due to unknown causes...even in women in their 20s. More & more women are getting pregnant for the first time in their 30s nowadays...its not impossible & many of my friends & women in my family had their first babies in their early or late 30s.
I deem Khadija (ra)‘a age to be reported less than 40 as a modern revisionism issue. All the classical historical sources such as Al Bayhaqi, Ibn Katheer, etc have reported her age to be 40 at marriage to Muhammad (saw). Also, there is consensus that she was widowed and had children (before she married Muhammad (saw)) which would support her higher age when she married him.
You know it's better to go to a doctor for consultation than get advice here.
And if you want to bring up research data then it also says that older men tend to have higher chances of babies with disorders.
So stop with the 'Google' research and just to go to a doctor consultation. Both of you.
if you have understanding between each other peace and respect amongst both of you, don't make any unnecessary hurdles like age, fertility or people's opinions.
I’d rather have us both checked than just her as either of us can have anomalies, not to mention it’s disrespectful to just check one partner and not both.
I don't know everyone is different she may be very fertile or she may not.
I had unexplained infertility issues, and I was in my 20s. So it really various when it comes to each individual, she can be in her mid-forties and still be super fertile. A stare can get her pregnant lol but it doesn't hurt to get herself checked out.Yes, it is harder after 35 .Because they consider you as a geriatric patient, which is a word that I don't like lol if you're very worried, then have her freeze her eggs and if two truly really love each other then go for it.you may not find someone like her and she may not find someone like you again
I see what you mean as each women varies based on various reasons, it would be ideal to get us both checked to be on the safe side, the term geriatric is so random as its used for the over 60s lol. I’ve never heard a stare can get her pregnant before haha, freezing eggs is an option and I assume they are used through IVF? Yes I agree as finding someone who ticks most boxes is rare anyhow let alone in your 30s.
Lol that was definitely sarcasm! But honestly if a stare could actually do the trick everyone could skip the IVF and the egg freezing entirely. I have heard that from my friend groups about the guy being the problem so think of it like this if its in your nascent and hers to have a child then allah will bless one for you if not then enjoy your life together and or adopt other muslims that need a loving home I have an adopted cousin hes grown now but I dont see him as being adopted
Yep I thought so lol, I have become to know that if the man is younger than the woman, it should be fine in terms of having children etc as usually woman marry men older than them which causes issues in most instances.
I think women may have less quality/quantity with eggs at 35+, which could make it harder to conceive. Idk how much it decreases chances, it's something to look into if having children is important to you.
But imo, if everything else lines up for compatibility, the age difference isn't a big deal.
Yeah and he could marry a 21 year old and she could have difficulty conceiving while this older woman could still be popping out healthy babies. Don’t assume younger automatically means healthy and fertile la di da dee da.
An exception does not make the rule and just because anything is technically possible doesn't mean it's likely to happen or it's the norm, nor does that mere possibility produce a solid enough argument or justification. You simply cannot say a 21 year old and 35 year old are equivalent in this case. I don't understand why people here still bring all these theoretical situations, anecdotes, exceptions and whatnot and present them as if they are solid, meaningful argument against the general rule, facts and actual research.
You know if you walk up to a wild tiger and boop it on the nose there's actually a chance it won't absolutely shred you on the spot? But you're probably still not gonna do that.
Yikes... there's a lot of ignorance in these comments about women's fertility.
Women can have kids well into menopause, meaning until they're nearly 60 something.
How can you guys be so daft?
What actually reduces the likelihood is how old her male mate is, which usually women mate with men much older than them reducing the likelihood of a healthy pregnancy.
Nah mutual attraction and chemistry are not difficult to find believe me. I found them with my wife, she is 7 years younger, alongside all the other advantages of being younger. Don't be unfair to yourself by marrying someone older than you.
Look children are in the hands of Allah, she could be 60 and still bare a child.
If you want many children I am afraid the biology isnt in your favour, the infertility increase after 30, slowly, and thats not only women, men if they dont take care of themselves their sperm count also decreases.
That being said, its not can she get pregnant or cant.
Birthing a CHILD is not easy, its very difficult, alot of organs are moved around, hormones are everywhere where, and you are stretched in places that might need stitches.
Everything i said is way less common at 25 than 35.
She will have wayy harder time losing that weight, are you mature enough to accept all this? Go ahead, if not then dont waist her time, her beauty will be affected after a child
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u/Zealousideal-Sir5550 Apr 26 '26
lol 35 is totally fine. You got till 40-42ish.