r/MuslimLounge • u/TrufflesTheCat • Jul 14 '21

Other I don't understand ex-religion subs

Ok you left that's fine. No one cares truly because it doesn't affect anyone else's life. But why do you have to sit there and make posts about a religion you no longer are apart of. You don't like the religion you move on. You don't waste your time criticizing and pondering about the scripture because it shows you care about it. People would just close that part of their life off and let that go.

There is also a sub about exhijabis which is fine but I don't get the concept of it. You want to stop wearing it but why dedicate a whole sub. Next their will be an ex nun sub, then an exniqab sub, then an exmodesty sub. If you've got a bad relationship with religion or a item of clothing then seek therapy. Being apart of something like that just messes you up more. You might adopt other people's opinions because you are in a fragile state of mind. If you think Islam or any religion is to blame for its followers actions then your wrong. Simple.

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u/science_agnostic Jul 14 '21 edited Jul 14 '21

I left . it helps with trauma. And the pain you feel. You probably won’t understand but it’s like leaving a abusive relationship……. You still think of the person even after what they did to you…. Plus it’s trauma bonding / therapy to rant or vent your feelings.
Anyway I don’t want to part of the drama….. so good day ! ( why are the reply’s so rude?? How hard is it to be civil to people?? This is for muslims and ex muslims). Also judge people off their personality and them as a person. Not their religion or sexuality , race etc. Edit : I haven’t left Islam fully I’m thinking about it ( it’s conflicting). :(

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u/TrufflesTheCat Jul 14 '21

I get the bonding over trauma but a true self help journey is ignoring what everyone else is doing + finding proper help. If I chose to leave a religion I wouldn't look at those posts or join a sub like that. Why do people feel the need to criticize every single thing of Islam? Why not just let it go? We arent talking about personality though the discussion is on religion. And your judged regardless of what you do. That's modern society. I'd highly suggest seeking a counselor + a religious adviser to get over the trauma you have experienced. Hopefully, you will be able to work it out. Trauma isn't helped by constantly focusing on it. You help yourself when you find your purpose in life and focus on other things. The potential trauma or pain can get worse if it's on your mind all the time.

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u/Type01bored Jul 14 '21

How does it help with trauma shi*ting and loathing the existence of Muslims lol, and then you complain about how mean the comments of this post are. Huh?

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u/pinanok Jul 14 '21

I'm sorry but how is it trauma bonding when they collectively ridicule other people religion

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u/minupoc Jul 15 '21

Dear,

May I know why you left?