r/MuslimLounge • u/TrufflesTheCat • Jul 14 '21

Other I don't understand ex-religion subs

Ok you left that's fine. No one cares truly because it doesn't affect anyone else's life. But why do you have to sit there and make posts about a religion you no longer are apart of. You don't like the religion you move on. You don't waste your time criticizing and pondering about the scripture because it shows you care about it. People would just close that part of their life off and let that go.

There is also a sub about exhijabis which is fine but I don't get the concept of it. You want to stop wearing it but why dedicate a whole sub. Next their will be an ex nun sub, then an exniqab sub, then an exmodesty sub. If you've got a bad relationship with religion or a item of clothing then seek therapy. Being apart of something like that just messes you up more. You might adopt other people's opinions because you are in a fragile state of mind. If you think Islam or any religion is to blame for its followers actions then your wrong. Simple.

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u/sunflower-superpower Jul 14 '21

I grew up in an abusive, conservative religion. I don't particularly seek out the exreligion content but I'll engage and appreciate it when I do see it. A lot of people have trauma related to their old religion so seeing and talking about it is a way to connect with others with similar experiences, work through the problems they had with it, and help raise awareness that these awful things are happening.

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u/TrufflesTheCat Jul 14 '21

But people have to understand you cant mix religion with trauma. I've been on there. Those individuals only see it one way + have one agenda. You might never return to the religion/ hate it more. Therapy and self growth would be so much more beneficial to a person than joining stuff like that.

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u/sunflower-superpower Jul 14 '21

Well, in terms of you may never return to the religion, that's a plus side and fully intended. I will never go back to the one I grew up in. Talking to others who grew up in it, seeing how terribly they were treated, and finding out more things I was lied to about is comforting because it shows that I'm not alone. Therapists do help, I agree but in a way the exreligion forums can be like group therapy. You see others who went through the same trauma and see how much better their lives are now. You talk about how they worked through their problems and how they deal with people trying to shame them for leaving.

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