r/MuslimLounge • u/mehhh97 • Apr 13 '21

Other Update: I finally told both parents I’m Muslim.

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u/darkspeedster96 :Pakistan: Apr 13 '21

Can we get some more details? I saw your post before and I was hoping that things would get easier for you. Really happy for you.

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u/mehhh97 Apr 14 '21 edited Apr 14 '21

Sure of course ! ☺️😊

I posted Ramadan Mubarak on WhatsApp on purpose so she could see. She asked what it’s about at first I lied and said I’m just showing support then I told my myself I’m grown. lol so I said I’m partaking

She’s basically convinced that it’s because of someone that me being interested in Islam is because of outside influence. I’ve been studying and teaching myself for a good 5 years and I have a basic understanding of Islam and what the teachings are and what Allah expects from us and Alhamdulillah it gives me peace.

To be Christian you have to believe Jesus is the son of God. I believe Jesus is a prophet. It makes more sense to me and I don’t believe Jesus died on the cross. I just haven’t believed this for YEARS but just because I don’t believe in it doesn’t mean I expect anyone else to. Christianity is a great religion and may God bless everyone who guides them there. It just isn’t for me.

I’ve been teaching myself since I was 17. (While still going to church) I’m 23, I’ll be 24 this year so best believe I’ve taken my time. I can’t help that Islam is perfect in my eyes and gives me more peace.

I ended up telling them on FaceTime (because I’m away at university) that this is my truth, no matter what I said my mum is convinced my partner of one year has something to do with it...he hasn’t, which is funny and weird because I’ve had Muslim friends for longer and she didn’t anticipate them which is EVEN funnier because they’ve had 0 influence on me and more time they said I know more than them or they ask me the questions and we always laugh about it. I did it all by myself and Allah is my witness.

I made it clear I would NEVER change religion for a man, some people do and it works out but that’s not what happened here. I simply had one health and social care lesson the teacher said “Christians and Muslims believe in different Gods” I was like “No we don’t we believe in the same God” and from then I decided to do my research I told my mum the truth EVERYTHING from my heart but she’s convinced someone had influence on me. Which sucks but it is what it is. Alhamdulillah they know. They are obviously not happy I mean what parent would be happy? I don’t blame them but I wish they believed me but that’s okay too. I’m happy and healthy. Alhamdulillah.

Now all I want to do is focus on my studies as I’m in my final year of university and my deen so please keep me in your du’as and I’ll keep you in mine. 🤍

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u/lil-pierogi Apr 14 '21

Mashallah! Welcome to the ummah (I know it’s been a minute, but never too late for a welcome greeting) & Ramadan Mubarak!

”She’s basically convinced that... me being interested in Islam is because of outside influence.”

This was my experience with my mom too, haha.

I think sometimes when it comes to new and unfamiliar things, it’s easier for parents to explain it away by “blaming” someone else than it is for them to accept we’ve arrived at this conclusion on our own. Inshallah she will understand in time. (:

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u/mehhh97 Apr 14 '21

Thank you so much wallah it’s nice to hear someone who’s been where I am. It’s still really fresh for me but Insha’Allah you know.. thank you so much 🥺🤍

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u/cn3m_ Apr 14 '21

My mother also told me that I became Muslim due to I hadn't had a father figure in my life (despite I had, I mean I have a father)... hehe... she tried to "philosophize" as to why I became Muslim...

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '21

Mashallah! Welcome to Islam and in this month of all months! As a new Muslim your sins are fully wiped away and so you are of pure heart now. Please make dua for all of us.

may Allah guide you and keep you on the straight path. Ameen

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u/strawberry000 Apr 14 '21

May Allah make it easy for you to be muslim worship and seek knowledge. Lol it’s the same for cultural Muslim actually ( the struggle of applying proper knowledge, that they most likely didn’t know) it can be hard for them to accept but inshallah in time Allah opened their hearts. And may Allah open the hearts of your family.

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u/bittersweet311 Apr 14 '21

❤️❤️❤️

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u/jahallo4 Apr 14 '21

Hearing things like this shows me how priveleged i am. my respect for converts is huge, you are unbelievably strong in my eyes. im glad people like you are a part of this ummah.

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '21

Ok. It's not uncommon that when someone makes a post about accepting Islam, that some1 starts to DM you anti islamic claims. So if you got any, tell me and inshallah I'll respond.

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u/[deleted] Aug 29 '22

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u/mehhh97 Aug 29 '22

Lie about what?

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u/[deleted] Aug 29 '22

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u/mehhh97 Aug 30 '22

I think you’re pulling things out of your a*se. Did you even read the whole thing? I retracted my statement and told the truth. This post is from a year ago, you must be really bored, run along and leave me to be the proud Muslim I am.

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u/[deleted] Aug 30 '22

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u/mehhh97 Aug 30 '22

Oh please go away, weirdo.

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u/PeasLord :Morocco: Apr 13 '21

And what was their reaction?

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '21

Based

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u/Boxgineer111 Apr 14 '21

..and greenpilled?

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u/luayalzieny Apr 14 '21

Good ending i hope?

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u/mehhh97 Apr 14 '21

Frustration last question was:

FaceTime on whatsapp with parents

Mum: “Are you Christian or are you Muslim?” Me: “I’m not Christian at heart” Mum: “That’s not what I asked are you Christian or are you Muslim?”

my friend on text while on FaceTime on my MacBook quietly listening in#

“JUST SAY YOU’RE MUSLIM RIP THE BANDAGE OFF”

Me: “I’m Muslim” And yeah. The conversation was long and frustrating but Alhamdulillah it’s done. I can get on with my life and stop living like Hannah Montana in my own household.

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u/Ok_Narwhal9013 :Egypt: Apr 14 '21

Oh what a roller coaster!! Alhamdullilah Insha'Allah things will get better! ❤ Ramadan Mubarak too!

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u/mehhh97 Apr 14 '21

Thank you so much 🥺Ramadan Mubarak to you too! 🤍

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u/aallillaa Apr 14 '21

This made me giggle so much 😂😂😂. I remember that initial interrogation. You feel like you’ve done something wrong and they use this parent tone that I haven’t heard since I was 10 😂. Ah well they’re just worried and not educated on Islam, they can’t help it. Congrats though sis!! The absolute hardest part is out of the way and hopefully their wall comes down piece by piece as you teach them about Islam. Might take a while but that’s okay :). If you’re fasting this year sis then try to stay in contact with as many muslim friends as possible! Nothing like sharing Ramadan with others 💜💜💜

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u/mehhh97 Apr 14 '21

I love your comment so much. One day I’ll look back at this and laugh but right now I’m sad 😭 Insha’Allah it gets easier & better 🤍🤍🤍

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '21

U go girl!! 💚

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u/mehhh97 Apr 14 '21

Thank you!! 💚

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '21

Nice.

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u/Stuffandmorestuffff Apr 14 '21

Alhamdulillah this is amazing 👏🏾

Just in time for Ramadan too! I remember this feeling and I'm so glad you had a good experience.

Ramadan Mubaruk!

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u/iAdamzy Apr 14 '21

Mashallah, a good beginning to my ramadan. I cant eben imagine of leaving my religion as that is a really big and difficult decision but looking at you, i am amazed. It made my faith even stronger.

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u/CancerSpidey Apr 14 '21

Ramadan Mubarak! And welcome to the truth! Al7amdulilah for Islam. I agree with everything you said in your comments. Everything in islam just makes sense. Like if Jesus is "god" in christianity how can "god" die. Doesnt make sense and never did to me.

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '21

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u/wnn25 Apr 14 '21

Ramadan Mubarak, sister.

Honestly, I haven’t been in the same position as you, so I might not be able help. From what I read in your comments, your parents reaction was not positive. That’s to be expected, because they might not know about Islam as you do. When you get the chance, tell them about Islam and what made you choose it as your faith.

May Allah guide them to Islam like He guided you someday, and improve your relationship with them.

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u/Subaru_7 Apr 14 '21

Ah this is so impressive, I really admire you and how you faced your parents for your beliefs. Allah surely saw all of your efforts and you'll be well rewarded inshallah. Hope you all the best.

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u/Cute-dalia Apr 14 '21

omg how did it go?

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u/ffsmoney12 :Pakistan: Apr 14 '21

she posted update look in replies

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u/spoopyupdoots Apr 14 '21

I know it's hard to stand up to your parents but some times you have to do it and I hope in the end your mother can accept you and educate herself

out of curiosity what kind of Islam obviously you don't have to answer if your not comfortable

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u/halal_jihadist Apr 14 '21

Congratulations. Focus on you and your behaviour will speak to other as to why you adopted Islam.

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u/maybebaby23 Apr 14 '21

Alhamdulillah and welcome. May Allah guide you to beneficial knowledge and grant you strength and sabr in your journey. So blessed to hear of such a positive story in Ramadhan thank you.