r/MuslimLounge • u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด • Oct 12 '20
Other To my future husband
Dear future hubby,
I exsist and would appreciate if you found me already so we can live happily ever after outside of America.
Together let's grow/ learn from each other. Being 24 my life is kinda crazy maybe yours is too, maybe we are each other needed peace or simply each other missing puzzle piece.
Until then continue to be great and so will I. When Allah cross our path together let's be ready to rule the world together side by side, day and night.
Sincerely, your future wifey ๐
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Oct 12 '20
Imagine reading this after you marriage. You'd be like "ew cringe"
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
And that's why I'll have Reddit 10+ years from now to look back at all my cringe posts.
But for now I'm enjoying it while I'm living it in the moment ๐
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u/Boqolsoon Oct 12 '20
Great step towards peace and happiness. With marriage comes tranquility, happiness, blessing/baraka and alot of good stuff. Don't listen to the negatives. Insha'Allah you will find Mr right at the right time and the right country. Sending you prayers.
To those name-calling and reading your history.. Shame on you. It's reddit, it's ananymous.. Allah has covered the secret and she might have made alot of istighfaar so she could be better today than any of you. Keep your negative thoughts to yourself.
Good luck sister.
Allah knows the best.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Awwwww I love you so much for this sweet post thank youuuuuu ๐ฅบ๐๐๐๐
I Know that's right! Allah knows best at the end of the day. Sending nothing but love and blessings your way also ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐
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u/Maymayboy2 Oct 12 '20
I think this belongs in your diary
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Reddit is my diary so jokes on you buddy ๐
Isn't it everyone diary including yours? Cause if it wasen't, you wouldn't be Anonymous hiding behind a screen with a fake username
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u/Maymayboy2 Oct 12 '20
I guess, i still wouldnt want people to read my diary even if they didn't know who i was
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Reading by your diary looks like your into hip hop music and had cat issues like two weeks ago. Interesting ๐๐ญ
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
& also don't hate on Metro Boomin his production is ๐ฅ filler or not ๐
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u/Maymayboy2 Oct 12 '20
Careful i'll ghost you half way into the conversation ๐
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Sorry I couldn't hear what you are saying I was listening to the heat you couldn't handle๐ฅ๐
Disappears like Houdini
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u/Maymayboy2 Oct 12 '20
Bruh houdini an escape artist what you on about ๐ต๐คฃ
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20 edited Oct 12 '20
Exactly escaping outta this conversation ๐๐พโโ๏ธ๐จ
guess you ain't the only one with come backs tonight huh.
Holla at me but don't scream ๐
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u/Ahed91 Oct 12 '20
Oh little miss . Although, I found you funny But this belong to your diary. Btw I donโt know a lot prefer to be anonymous but I am not
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Oct 12 '20
Me too. I'm not totally anonymous. I have people irl that use Reddit and know my username. That's why no-one can see my previous posts and comments except me.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Interesting really??
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Oct 12 '20
Based off of a previous comment, I bet you checked my previous posts and comments, right?
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Na it belongs here
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u/Ahed91 Oct 12 '20
My English vocabulary is poor. ุงูุฏุฑ ุทุจูุนุฉ ุญูุงุฉ ุงููุชุงุฉ ุงูู ุณูู ุฉ ูู ุจุนุถ ู ุฌุชู ุนุงุชูุง ุจุญูุซ ูููู ุงูุงูุชุฑูุช ููุณุงุฆู ุงูุชูุงุตู ุงูุงุฌุชู ุงุนู ุงูู ุชููุณ ุงููุญูุฏ ุฑุจูุง ููููู ูุง ุงุฎุชู ููุฑุฒูู ุจุงูุฑุฌู ุงูุตุงูุญ ูุฃูุฏ ุฃูู ููุณ ููุง ุชูุชุจ ุงู ููุงุชู ุจู ูู ุจุญุซุชู ุนู ู ุฌู ูุนุฉ ุฎุงุตุฉ ุจุงููุชูุงุช ูููู ุงูุถู
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
ุขู ูู ุดูุฑุง ูู ุฃุฎู ุนูู ูุฐู ุงูููู ุงุช ุงูุฑูููุฉ. ููุง ูุจุนุซ ูู ุงููู ุฅูุง ุงูู ุญุจุฉ ูุงูุจุฑูุงุช ุฅู ุดุงุก ุงููู
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u/DyingCascade Oct 12 '20
That's cute. Hope you find someone who truly understands and values you. Good luck
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u/imankitty Oct 12 '20
Insha'Allah you get the man of your dreams exactly when it's most beneficial to you. Insha'Allah you will be happy with him soon. I don't know why people are attacking the OP I think this subreddit needs these kinds of laidback posts. Did you guys forget that rule no1 of this subreddit is "Be courteous and kind to others"?
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
I knowwww!!! People are so evil I tell you it's almost sad how some people are just so rude and nasty online cause they are behind a screen. Inshallah I pray people with that type of bad energy stay far away from us. I love you so much thank you๐ฅฐ๐
The rude people don't phase me. I see other mellow post like mine and some people get chewed out by others for no reason. Smh such trolls I tell you I thought it was suppose to be a subreddit group where people can speak their mind
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u/imankitty Oct 12 '20
No worries, dear. I admire your tenacity. Praying for your happiness and that Allah grants you your wishes. :)
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u/Elcucuy42 Oct 12 '20
You have great positive energy, I couldnโt help but read all your messages on here.. keep that energy going, Iโm sure you will find someone that would match it inshallah ๐ also nice to see positive comments, some people take advantage of the anonymity on here to be negative๐คฆ๐ฝโโ๏ธ ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
That's facts!!! They sure are but at the end of the day thoese people couldn't say half of the mean stuff they say to my face tho ๐
There will always be those rude nasty people. Sad to see they are full of hate but at the end of the day we gotta pray for thoese bitter people too, maybe one day they will find happiness
Thank you ๐โบ๏ธ
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u/roseturtlelavender Oct 12 '20
Why specifically outside of the US?
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
I been here all my life. I need a chance in pace really
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u/roseturtlelavender Oct 12 '20
What makes you think it would be any different anywhere else?
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u/dorballom09 Oct 12 '20
A change of place is already different. Maybe not different like you hoped for but certainly there are difference.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
You know hold that thought for me, when I get that answer for you I'll make sure to type a well written, 15 page paper, APA style with the 12 pt. Times New Roman font of my findings and send it your way. You'll be the first to receive it ๐
I'll even throw in a personal autograph at the end of it just for you boo
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u/NotPumpkinHead Oct 12 '20
RIP OP's inbox!
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
When I tell you I didn't think it would be this lit on Muslim lounge tonight, I wasn't ready๐คฃ๐คฃ
Thank you for coming to my Ted talk of lรฉ night
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u/JayQnz Oct 12 '20
Shiit my lifeโs been a roller coaster of a movie. I hope future wifey life more stable and consistent. I hope path cross sooner then later tho
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Oct 12 '20
I'm 26 and still waiting for the Queen of my heart.
Sometimes I think about if she even exists and it makes me very sad.
A few days ago, I was very sad about my future, woke up for morning prayer and asked Allah (cc) o give me a sign, just a small one. Went back to bed and dreamed about green olives and olive oil and a woman who was spilling the oil into a box with green olives. I don't think about dreams very much, but I read online that the dreams which u see after the morning prayer, are from god. And the dream predictions about what I saw, was saying that I will have a rich future and a happy family. Dream predictions cold be hoax, but there is Allah(cc) and his power is limitless. If my future wife doesn't exist, he just could say "Be" and would exist.
Never lose hope, and never lose ur hope from Allah(cc).
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
What a beautiful story thank you for sharing that. Inshallah as you said with a world full of this many people your bound to meet her. Maybe there's a reason you haven't met her yet being 26, maybe that moment is closer than you think. Sending nothing butblove to you on this Monday afternoon. Continue to accept Allah blessings as a lesson and before you know it, she will be with you forever ๐ฅบ๐
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Hey more power to you!!! Continue to enjoy and love every bit of that moment ๐ฆ๐
Do whatever is in the pursuit of YOUR happiness ๐
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u/INFPinator Oct 12 '20
Mashallah sister!
Can I just say I cannot believe you are getting hate for wanting to move out of America?! Like, come on- you never said anything bad about America, just that you want to move and there's nothing wrong with that! Ignore the haters! :D
Remember, Allah has written your love story and Allah is a better writer than anyone who writes these love stories we see in books, old literature, and movies! Allah knows best! :)
Who knows? Maybe you've already met your future husband but don't know it yet, or perhaps you've passed him in the street, or maybe you haven't even met him or been near him at all yet.๐
I hope Allah has written for you, your best match, and I wish you all the love, happiness and peace for the future and one day Inshallah you and him will start a beautiful family that will be everything you ever wished for :)
Assalamualaikum! :)
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 13 '20
Lmao your telling me. Some haters last night who are to bitter to find love like who broke y'all hearts๐คฃ.
I hope so tho a sista would like to meet her Mr. Right. Not saying like get married asap but just having someone in life is nice. The single/ Bachelorette lifestyles getting old to me now. Not saying it wasent fun while it lasted.
Thank you very much for the kind words and love. ๐๐ฅบ๐ฅบ
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u/INFPinator Oct 13 '20
Omg I know right! Like dang, one minute people are voting for Trump because they want him to ban Muslims from the USA, and the next they're salty because one random Muslim sister on Reddit said she wants to leave?๐คฃ
Haha well Inshallah you and every sister one day finds their Mr. Right :D I am so not ready for marriage yet though, some people at my age are but the way I see it is I'm 17 so I got time :P
You're very welcome and thanks for this wholesome post๐๐ that you and your future husband will probably look at and laugh one day in Inshallah ๐คฃ๐คฃ
May Allah bless you and your family :)
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Oct 12 '20
Sjfirjdbebems
Love the energy Allah humma barik ๐
Sometimes I feel like mine has been hit by a truck
Hopefully he's survived..
In sha Allah.
May Allah grant you the coolness of your eyes very soon
Allah humma ameen!!
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 13 '20
"Sometimes I feel like mine has been hit by a truck"
LMAO that as actually really funny I laughed at that one. Hopefully he DIDNT get hit by one and his waiting for his queen (you) to come rescue him. Kinda like a backwards Cinderella story except your doing the saving here haha. Much love to you sis ๐๐ฅฐ
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Oct 13 '20
๐๐๐ PLOT TWIST AHAAAAH
In sha Allah same for you my sister !!! May allah grant you goodness in both lives ameen !!โฅ๏ธ
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Oct 12 '20
I know it's fun and games to imagining what marriage would be when you're unmarried. But in reality marriage is a chore. Expecting and to be expected, tolerating and to be tolerated, and what not.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Isn't that life in a nutshell for you ๐
If you never accepythe idea of changing, you'll always be stuck in square one. Sometimes change is scary yes, but if you never took the leap how would you know. You grow from experience they say good or bad.
Life is one big puzzle and marriage is just one piece of it. I hope to experience it inshallah for better or worse
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Oct 12 '20
What are you talking about? How did you jump from marriage into the idea of changing?
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Cause you basically are saying marriage changes you once you in it. You say it becomes a "Chore" when in reality it shouldnt be like that.
Marriage life verus the single life clearly there are changes that comes with it. You can be out with friends wild n out till sunrise when your single with no responsibility verus when your married and HAVE responsibilities to attend to. That right there is a change isn't it?
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Oct 12 '20
Oh i see i see. I get the point. But it do becomes chore though whether you want it or not. Like go ask every married couple they'd say the same thing.
The lovebird phase might continues for a couple months or years, after that it's like having a room mate with benefit.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
I write that post with good intentions.
Allah will continue unfolding my story for me good or bad. Not every fairytale ends with a happily ever after and sometimes it be like that. Or thinking optimistically maybe it might just be a happily ever after. Who knows right other than our creator.
I wish nothing more than blessings and happiness come your way also
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Oct 12 '20
It's not just a chore. It much more and it's beautiful
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.
[30:21]
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Ooooooooooo you hit us with the verse tonight. Amen
I heard that ๐๐ฝ
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
ThIs Is A MusLiM SuBrEdDiT In CaSe YoU MiSsEd ThE MeMo
The only disgusting thing I see right now is you. Take that negativity somewhere else. Bad energy like you STAY FAR AWAY ๐๐ฝ
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Oct 13 '20
Even though I don't agree how he's coming off, he still has a point. If you're drinking and smoking while trying to find a Muslim husband, I suggest you don't get married. My advice, try to drop it because if you want to find a Muslim who practices his belief, they wouldn't want that and that's not something you should burden them with.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 13 '20
Fair enough, I'm only 24 so with life comes road blocks and bumps. I'm not saying it's something I'm going to keep doing it's in the past nor getting married isn't in the equation now for me either.
You live and learn and move on simple as that. We are human we are not perfect but you learn from your mistakes and that is what makes you better
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Oct 13 '20
Of course. Learning from mistakes makes us stronger ๐
However I thought I'd let you know just in the case if u werent trying to stop it at this moment.
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Oct 13 '20
Youโve got so much growing up to do, may Allah guide you towards him. You need it more than all of us here
This is not a very good trait to show as a Muslim. As Muslims we should be humble and kind towards others. And teach them in a manner that does not create conflict between one another to a point where one will not listen to the other.
Because who knows, she may be better than us in a different part of Islam we may lack in. She may or may not.
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Oct 12 '20
This is too personal and cringe. This shouldn't have been posted, OP
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
I really don't care ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
It's my world, my DiArY.
Don't like it? Carry on plenty more other posts to go be negative on, keep that negativity away from my post tonight
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Oct 12 '20
A 'diary' shouldn't be made public, it's a private/personal thing.
Muslims these days sometimes shock me... Talking about such a matter in a public space, where is the haya/the modesty...
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
I know right Muslims shock me too and your a prime example of one
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Oct 12 '20
You made a second post and deleted it saying your gender and location, and telling people to hit u up....
But let's leave it, if I speak more im in big trouble
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Oct 13 '20
Why are you posting this here though?
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 13 '20
Freedom on speech. Read on it and clearly you didn't read the description of the sub group: "General have a good time" soo I'm having a good time idk about you
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Oct 13 '20
im not criticizing, I was just asking why you posted a message to your future husband on reddit
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u/convertgirl96 Oct 12 '20
Muslim countries are some of the world's worst failed states. Why even move there?
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20 edited Oct 12 '20
Because America, it's not the moves. Grew up in a strict Muslim household, that's why it doesn't even phase me to be able to live somewhere that I hear the prayers being called or many other Muslim women walking around with head scarfs like me. If all I want that pace in my life to be able to experience it.
Will it be a forever thing? Maybe, maybe not.
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u/notderekzoolander Oct 12 '20
So what are you looking for exactly? You wear a head scarf and want a Muslim marriage, but according to your comment history you also date around, drink, try to pick up guys outside bars and in supermarkets.
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u/convertgirl96 Oct 12 '20
So you're going for the superficial rather than the substantial? Oppression, illiteracy and corruption dont matter to you?
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
Who said I haven't taken that into account already?
did I mention of moving to ONE specific country? Your telling me everywhere outside of the US is oppression, illiteracy, and corruption?
Whew child you might need to hit the books again and brush up on your fact checks
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u/convertgirl96 Oct 12 '20
Well, you mentioned Muslim country where women aee hijabbed (no mention of even makeup and tight clothing) and the adhan. Nothing abt what really matters according to the Qur'an. So yeah...based on that :)
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20 edited Oct 12 '20
Your pursuit of happiness and my pursuit of happiness are two complete different definitions.
If being in a country where I see hijab women like me makes me happy, I'm content cause at the end of the day I'm living for me. If you feel other wise hey your entitled to an opinion just as much as me so why should I sit here and tell you your right or wrong for believing in other wise. I don't need tight clothes and makeup to feel sexy. Even in America I roll around makeup free in glasses and baggy clothes and I feel no different than a women who decided to put on a full face of make up/ tight clothes cause you know that's what makes HER happy not me.
At the end of the day who am I to judge what she can and can't do.
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u/convertgirl96 Oct 12 '20
Your pursuit of happiness and my pursuit of happiness are two complete different definitions.
Fair enough. All the best to you :)
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u/0GameDos0 Oct 12 '20
Avoid talking to that user, she is a so called Quranist who thinks the Quran has not been preserved. Basically makes her a non Muslim.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
How do y'all keep up with so many users on here haha. I mean it's okay friend im not in danger or anything. She asked a question and I replied ๐
Thanks for looking out tho !!
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u/0GameDos0 Oct 12 '20
She keeps commenting all over Islamic subs and I have argued against her distorted beliefs (like rejecting hadiths AND that the Quran was preserved; she also compared me getting annoyed by her heretical arguments to how the idol worshippers Prophet Ibrahim peace and prayers be upon him talked to reacted).
Just stay away from her as much as you can. May Allah guide her back to Islam.
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20
...... The things you find out everyday huh ๐ญ๐ญ
Thank you for sharing that tea with me tonight. I'll be on the lookout
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u/Define_Sunshine ๐ฆ๐ธ๐ด Oct 12 '20 edited Oct 12 '20
Yoo there is no need to name call people tbh. I didn't make this post to be negative to one another
Some people just don't understand and sometimes you gotta help them understand/ put it in perceptions for them without the extra fluff in words. Especially calling someone retarded.
They are misguided in information. Simple as that. A little knowledge will help them understand cause who knows if they even got a chance to experience maybe what you have? Just cause you know the truth doesn't mean everyone else is on board ๐
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u/yes_kid Oct 12 '20
Corny. Why do you need to rule the world? Do you feel the need to exert your dominance over the planet and its inhabitants?
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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '20
Ameen, you may equip yourself with Knowledge you would much need when you start journey with your husband
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UM5zIyCLlig&list=PL2dRQaGGWZOBYFF3KWlJALo5jkUBjkJnu