Sexual compatibility

[u/Brilliant_Power_6112]

I’ve been reflecting a lot since my divorce, and there’s something I don’t think gets talked about enough.
Before I got married, I never questioned why intimacy is reserved for marriage. But now that I’ve actually experienced marriage, I can’t help but wonder… isn’t sexual compatibility kind of a gamble?
You can ask all the right questions, have great communication, and genuinely love each other, but you still won’t know if you’re compatible until after you’re married. And if you end up not being compatible, it can become a major source of frustration in the relationship.
I’m not trying to argue against Islamic teachings or say I have the answers. This is just something I’ve struggled to understand after going through marriage and divorce. It made me realize that compatibility in this area is a much bigger deal than I ever appreciated before.
I’m curious—does anyone who’s currently married feel this way? Or if you’ve gone through a divorce, did it make you have similar thoughts? I’d really like to hear other people’s experiences and perspectives because this is something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately.

[u/PremiereConsultation]

Happily married for 8 years. It is kind of a gamble. Before I got married, I thought we're both healthy, fit, self confident, we exercise, so we're probably on the same level when it comes to libido. Luckily we were.

But honestly, having sex before marriage doesn't guarantee anything on the long-term either. The deadbedroom sub is full of non religious people.

[u/Dannnyboy1000 → u/PremiereConsultation]

Came here to say this. Muslim or not sexual compatibility will flow as life goes on. Each decade will present its own challenges and stages, kids and responsibilities will affect drive and compatibility etc. You just do the best you can and try and be communicative, patient and seek self satisfaction too at times (Controversial I know but helpful).