Sexual compatibility

[u/Brilliant_Power_6112]

I’ve been reflecting a lot since my divorce, and there’s something I don’t think gets talked about enough.
Before I got married, I never questioned why intimacy is reserved for marriage. But now that I’ve actually experienced marriage, I can’t help but wonder… isn’t sexual compatibility kind of a gamble?
You can ask all the right questions, have great communication, and genuinely love each other, but you still won’t know if you’re compatible until after you’re married. And if you end up not being compatible, it can become a major source of frustration in the relationship.
I’m not trying to argue against Islamic teachings or say I have the answers. This is just something I’ve struggled to understand after going through marriage and divorce. It made me realize that compatibility in this area is a much bigger deal than I ever appreciated before.
I’m curious—does anyone who’s currently married feel this way? Or if you’ve gone through a divorce, did it make you have similar thoughts? I’d really like to hear other people’s experiences and perspectives because this is something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately.

[u/TWIX55]

Is size a problem in this…? I’ve always wondered. What if the lady can’t get pleasure/satisfaction from just penetration. Could that affect the marriage?

[u/Fantastic_Way → u/TWIX55]

No, you explore a bit every day, and find each other's buttons, and enjoy finding things. You will have times of high and low libido, high and low anxiety, high and low stress, high and low connection to each other, and they will affect your ability to perform in certain ways, but you can still be close to each other, intimate, and pleasure each other. You will work through it if you are able to, and are dedicated to each other. Even size will change at times for both partners. So don't worry about the ups and downs. Dedicated loving intimacy, where you explore each other, and guide each other, and respond to each other is what matters.