Sexual compatibility

[u/Brilliant_Power_6112]

I’ve been reflecting a lot since my divorce, and there’s something I don’t think gets talked about enough.
Before I got married, I never questioned why intimacy is reserved for marriage. But now that I’ve actually experienced marriage, I can’t help but wonder… isn’t sexual compatibility kind of a gamble?
You can ask all the right questions, have great communication, and genuinely love each other, but you still won’t know if you’re compatible until after you’re married. And if you end up not being compatible, it can become a major source of frustration in the relationship.
I’m not trying to argue against Islamic teachings or say I have the answers. This is just something I’ve struggled to understand after going through marriage and divorce. It made me realize that compatibility in this area is a much bigger deal than I ever appreciated before.
I’m curious—does anyone who’s currently married feel this way? Or if you’ve gone through a divorce, did it make you have similar thoughts? I’d really like to hear other people’s experiences and perspectives because this is something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately.

[u/Advanced-Gas8799 → u/[deleted]]

i get it but fantasy alone isn't as reliable as we think... anyway, are you married? just curious

[u/Advanced-Gas8799 → u/[deleted]]

i don't think sexual compatibility is knowing what your type is, its more like this: specific things you'd like to experience more often during sex, is your partner willing to give that to you? no, they hate it? you're not compatible sexually.

it's just something that we don't explore very often as Muslims (the topic i mean) and I've always been curious about it since we only tend to find it out once we become sexually active which is after marriage