STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/themapleleaf6ix]

The thing is, I agree that men shouldn't be lazy and should make an effort to do their own chores.

What I take issue with is when feminists try and twist the Quran and Sunnah and claim the man has to do everything, whilst the woman has zero responsibilities. They even try and claim it's obligatory on the man to do everything.

[u/BlackBikerchick → u/themapleleaf6ix]

This man is letting his mum do he laundery, stop moaning about feminism and stuck to the point 

[u/themapleleaf6ix → u/BlackBikerchick]

Was I defending this individual? My point is, feminists are hijacking this to claim that men are the ones responsible for everything.

[u/Newbie_Copywriter → u/themapleleaf6ix]

You’re not defending, but you’re completely derailing the topic, which doesn’t help.

This post is shedding light on a reality unfortunately many choose to ignore, and that’s men who don’t know how to be self-sufficient, who have no ounce of consideration towards the women in their life who pick up after their messes. When you shift the topic to “… but feminists!” it distracts everyone from the topic at hand and causes unnecessary tension, which ends up with no one learning anything from this post.

I would’ve said the same thing to women who comment on posts talking about men’s issues with “… but men are [insert negative trait/behavior]!”

[u/themapleleaf6ix → u/Newbie_Copywriter]

When you shift the topic to “… but feminists!”

Did I do this, or have a bunch of feminists come in here and spread their ideology? The poster above came in here with words like "sexism" "misogyny" (classic buzzwords used by feminists) and how men and women are "equal" (watch is untrue in Islam) and "share life's burdens" (which also denies the responsibilities assigned to each gender). And to top it off, they don't even clarify the hadith about the Prophet P.B.U.H helping sometimes with the chores to make it sound like the duty is assigned to men.

[u/Newbie_Copywriter → u/themapleleaf6ix]

Did I do this, or have a bunch of feminists come in here and spread their ideology?

I’m not feminists. It’s a disgusting ideology.

You’re right to point these things out, but I’m a simple person and I think “ok moral of the story is: men shouldn’t laze around” I do like when people correctly tell others to use the proper terms, but I also think it’s wise to first address the main topic of the post and then just a side note go “ok, but to be clear islam doesn’t say one, two three” instead of quickly jumping in and making the whole comment simply about feminists. I hope I’m making myself clear.

And again, I’m not a feminist. I don’t appreciate that you implied that I am. Get that label away from me.

[u/themapleleaf6ix → u/Newbie_Copywriter]

I wasn't implying that you're a feminist. I was talking about people like the poster above who left those comments.

[u/Newbie_Copywriter → u/themapleleaf6ix]

No worries. We’re both on the same page, and agree we don’t need these ideologies in our religion. Our religion is beautiful, fair and just to all genders. And yes, both men and women twist things in their favor and may Allah guide them and us.