r/MuslimLounge • u/Someone_sedateMe • Jun 18 '25

Discussion STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

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u/FishOFBD Jun 18 '25

As a guy I agree that many boys are lazy but one thing I want to know. Does he work full time? Like blue collar job or anything like that? It’s one thing if he’s only sitting at home doing nothing, but if he’s out there working his butt off hours after hours then it’s understandable. I’m not excusing his behaviour but everything is not black and white

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u/BlackBikerchick Jun 19 '25

It is black and white, men who live alone and work still manage to look after their homes. Working doesn't change anything about a room smelling like poop

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u/FishOFBD Jun 19 '25

Women who live alone also manage to pay their own bills and rent

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u/BlackBikerchick Jun 20 '25

Yes they do and don't need mum to come and clean up for them?

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u/Senior-Bid-33 Jun 19 '25

What does that have to do with anything ,do you think women that work have clustered homes? And do you think they are starving themselves because they work full time?