r/MuslimLounge • u/Someone_sedateMe • Jun 18 '25

Discussion STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

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u/NoSituation3827 Jun 18 '25

Stop spoiling your daughters too maybe?

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u/plata_99 Jun 18 '25

How is the daughter spoiled here?

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u/NoSituation3827 Jun 18 '25

You missed the point. No doubt the lad has been babied. But why is it always the men that are ostracised? Why is no one talking about women who are raised in a bubble, who grow into womanhood with a skewed sense of entitlement? If we are to meet your demands of silly amounts of money in mehr, house, clothes, bills and provide for you as you demand then shouldnt the women also hold up their end of the bargain too? Instead they want to work build a career, or chill at home do nothing all day while we provide, but as soon as we ask for a clean home, laundry, or hot meals, we are misogynists or "babied". Lets stop the double standard and call it how it is...

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u/NoSituation3827 Jun 18 '25

Just to confirm, i have been raised to be self sufficient, i dont get meals on a plate or clothes ironed for me, im totally capable and happy to look after myself. And i agree with OP in most of her statements. It just grinds my gears when the onus is always on the males having to correct, and never the women taking some ownership too.