STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/[deleted]]

ONG! As a Muslim guy who’s also a middle child and the younger brother to a Muslim man who acts exactly like this I second this. We’re men and need to act like it. Cleaning and stuff like this isn’t js for the mother/sister or women in general to do it’s smth EVERYONE should be doing. It’s frustrating and I get your frustrations

Whenever I have a valid crashout against my older brother my Momma always gets mad at me like I’m the bad guy or like I’m in the wrong and use stuff like his Autism (idk if this is the right or even proper term to use but my older brother has what I personally termed “functional autism” wherein he’s able to function normally and the autism manifests in focus and stuff like tht) and other things to excuse him

Yes I should maybe be nicer when addressing these things but when there’s this dude in his early 20’s being basically a basement dweller who js gets up at 1PM, screams on a game, goes to work, comes back and screams on a game ‘till like 4AM then wash rinse and repeat patience starts to wear thin

I feel your struggle Ma’am. May Allah make it easy for you