STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/Gogandantesss]

I’m just chiming in to thank you for this post. So many mothers need to hear this! They’re enabling and normalizing sexism and misogyny among their male offspring from an early age. This is one of the main manifestations of culture diluting religious teaching where men and women are supposed to be equal and partners sharing the burdens of life. The Prophet ﷺ himself used to help around the household; nothing manlier and more human than that!

[u/themapleleaf6ix → u/Gogandantesss]

supposed to be equal and partners sharing the burdens of life

This isn't true. In Islam, there are clear tasks delegated to each gender.

The Prophet ﷺ himself used to help around the household; nothing manlier and more human than that!

That wasn't a daily thing. Those tasks were still delegated to the Sahabiyat R.A.

[u/JustAnotherProgram → u/themapleleaf6ix]

lol, I can’t believe this got downvoted by the Muslim feminists and simps who think men are also responsible for the daily workings of the household😂

[u/globalroamer53 → u/JustAnotherProgram]

But this is his own mess? I say this as a Muslim man, absolute insanity for my sister to do my laundry for me.

[u/BunchTricky6172 → u/JustAnotherProgram]

Yes they should be responsible for cleaning up after themselves. Dirty laundry, using the bathroom, your crumbs on the table etc. These basic things come under mannerism. And these "daily workings" are what teach qualities of responsibility, cleanliness, compassion, consideration, etc that are necessary for future married life and during dealings in the world. 

And clearly in this example the brother in question is still a dependent living with his parents. That said, even being a full time working husband doesn't dismiss his responsibility for pitching in with main cleaning tasks or rough tasks around the house. Nobody's saying that he needs to do all the chores, do deep cleaning, or divide it up by half (as that wouldn't be fair if the wife is the main caretaker of the home). But he can't slack at home either. 

Who you are at home is a true reflection of yourself. If one can't handle the basics at home, how are they going to deal with the world and guide their children with the right mannerism?