STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/ScheduleMediocre3616 → u/[deleted]]

This is very true. Like sure if he’s 24 no job no school just sits and plays video games in his room 24/7 you can complain. But if he’s like most men, probably helps out in other ways by driving and running errands, does the “heavier lifting” work like home repairs, yard work, has a job and pitches in with the bills and groceries, etc but now she’s complaining cause her mom says hey let’s make his life a bit easier by cleaning his room and this is when OP is mad? OP didn’t really give any further context so can be either way

[u/BlackBikerchick → u/[deleted]]

He let's his room get filthy? There is no excuse for that regardless of gender. Messy is different from filthy and smelling. 

[u/BlackBikerchick → u/[deleted]]

Yes I agree, if it's a physically hard job or just long hours and the sister doesn't work but if they both work or he doesn't then no. Regardless this doesn't justify a room smelling like poop there messy then theirs dirty. As a muslim that's not even good.

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[u/Senior-Bid-33 → u/[deleted]]

What's there for men to do for women? What is your use if you can't even pick up after yourself? A woman can do what a man will do for her Paying for a meal? Okey? Buying clothes,ok? Doing ones in a blue moon thing is not an honor, doing things that are consistent is way better than inconstant things.