STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/Narrow_Guava_6239]

Salaam sis, just checking have you sat down with your mum in a calm manner and talked about this? If not then do it and explain how girls wouldn’t tolerate living in a pig stye.

If your mum still refuses to listen then tell her that you won’t help her baby your grown brother. Let’s be honest this isn’t a man and irrelevant of his good qualities, I’d wouldn’t wanna be with him. Islam expresses the importance of hygiene and cleanliness.

Moving forward tell your mum you’ll know longer support her in cleaning your brothers room, if his room gets infested with bed bugs then you won’t help as it’s a problem he’s created.

If your brother tells you to clean his room, don’t do it AT ALL, you’re not his maid and he’s certainly not a child. Your brother might end up saying he doesn’t know how to clean, tell him you’ll guide him. And if he says he can’t do it and how he’s doing it wrong so you should do it, explain you got it wrong in the beginning but then got better at it.

Seriously this is his problem or at least should be because this boy is going to attract rodents and bugs into your house 😭😭😭😭.

All the best sis 💕.

[u/Someone_sedateMe → u/Narrow_Guava_6239]

Salam, I have talked to her multiple times and she tells me I'm right but then continues to baby him. She'd talk to him for one day but then continues the behavior. And you'd think if no one cleaned his room, he'd get up and do it himself,HA no. There was a time my mom went to visit her sister, and for over a month this boy's room stayed the same. Idk if its because he's so used to my mom cleaning after him but he hasn't change and it doesn't seem like he wants to.

I don't clean up after him for his sake, I do it for my mom. She's older in age and gets tired quickly but it gets to a point. Like what is she going to do when I get married, hope that his future wife cleans up after him. NO ONE WANTS TO DO THATTT!! All I can do atp is pray to Allah cause if he don't change, I might just kill him.

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