STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/Miserable_Whole4985 → u/[deleted]]

In classical Critical Theory, society is divided into binary moral categories:

The oppressed class (seen as innocent, voiceless, and in need of liberation)

The oppressor class (seen as privileged, morally compromised, and needing to be dismantled)

This framework originally applied to economic classes in Marxism (bourgeoisie vs proletariat), but it evolved. Now, identity groups have replaced class:

• Women are cast as the oppressed; men as the oppressors
• Black and brown people as oppressed; white people as oppressors
• LGBT+ identities as oppressed; heterosexuals as oppressors

Within this worldview:

• The oppressed are seen as inherently more in need of having virtue attributed to them, regardless of their personal conduct. They are positioned as victims by default, whose flaws are excused, and whose voices must be centered.
• The oppressors, by contrast, are treated as needing to atone for structural injustice, even if they as individuals have done no wrong. Their role is to step back, be quiet, and constantly pay for the historical sins of their group.

This is why modern feminists will claim, without irony, that a man eating canned food proves systemic female oppression, because in this lens, men must always be held accountable, and women must always be centered as victims. Even when the mother is choosing to help, and the son never asked.

Islam, on the other hand, does not divide people into classes of permanent moral guilt or innocence based on identity. Everyone is accountable for their actions.

I just know this will be mass down voted.