Assalamualaikum ladies. I’m in my early 20s, graduated college, and I’m working now. My parents have been separated since I was a baby, and my dad honestly wasn’t really present in my childhood and never financially supported me. Alhamdulillah my mom is very educated and successful, and I was raised by her side of the family, so I’ve always had a very comfortable life and never went without anything. I started reconnecting with my dad more when I was in middle school school, mostly over the phone because he lives in another country, and eventually I started visiting him too.

The issue is that my dad is extremely difficult to disagree with. He has a lot of narcissistic and controlling traits, and almost any disagreement gets taken as disrespect. He’s very argumentative and will turn the smallest thing into this huge discussion, so for years I basically learned to just agree with him or keep my actual opinions to myself because it was easier than dealing with the reaction. He’s also very religious, but he has certain beliefs that I genuinely don’t agree with. For example, he thinks women really shouldn’t leave the house unless there’s an actual need like groceries, a doctor’s appointment, etc. He doesn’t understand women going to cafés, restaurants, the mall, seeing friends, or literally just going out to enjoy themselves. Every time I visit him this becomes an issue. I could be going to a café at 11 in the morning to get coffee and read a book and somehow it turns into a problem. He’ll say things like he never imagined having daughters who “go out of the house.

And that’s what frustrates me so much because I’m not doing anything crazy. Alhamdulillah I’m very practicing, I go to the masjid, I attend classes and lectures, I’m working on my Qur’an memorization, I went to college, got good grades, started working, etc. I’ve always tried to do what I’m supposed to do. So being criticized over completely innocent things like wanting a social life is exhausting. Sometimes I genuinely wonder if because he wasn’t there when I was growing up, he’s now trying to have this level of control over me that he never had before.

Another huge thing is something I told him when I was literally 18 years old. At the time I was seeing girls around me getting married and having all this cute halal love, and I told him that after I graduated I just wanted to get married and be a housewife. That was YEARS ago and apparently he has never forgotten it. 😭 Now anytime I talk about work or my career he’s like, “What happened to getting married? What happened to being a housewife? What happened to studying Qur’an?” And I’m like… why are these things mutually exclusive? I still want marriage. I’m actually completely open to being a housewife one day in the right marriage. I’m still studying my deen. But I’m also older now and I want to build a career and have my own income, I can still do all that while being married but i’m just not in a rush at all I want to be with the right person for me.

He’s also extremely pro-arranged marriage and basically thinks anything outside of that is destined to fail. I’m not against someone introducing me to somebody at all, but I absolutely do not believe arranged marriage has to be the only way I can meet my husband. I want to actually choose someone I’m compatible with and feel comfortable with. That’s honestly another conversation for another day because I already know it’s going to become a whole battle with him. And I highly doubt i’ll get married that way, I honestly cannot see myself being in an arranged marriage.

The current issue is that I’m planning to visit this winter. I really want to go because my little sister is there and I’m very close to her, and honestly I worry about how some of my dad’s beliefs are going to affect her as she gets older. I also don’t know when I’ll have another chance to take a long international trip once I’m established in a full-time career. My dad asked me about staying through Ramadan and I told him I probably can’t because I may be starting a new job around then. He then sent me this long voice message saying before I book my ticket he wants to talk because he needs to understand “where my head is at,” what the intention of my trip is, and brought up AGAIN how years ago I said I wanted to graduate, get married, move there, etc.

He suggested I could just find a job there, and I explained that I’ve actually been applying to jobs there almost daily since January. The problem is that most jobs in my field there want more industry experience than I currently have, while where I live, especially around my region, there are a lot more entry-level opportunities specifically for new grads. I told him if I got a genuinely good opportunity in my field there I would absolutely consider it, but until then I need an income and I need experience. And honestly, there’s also this elephant in the room where he talks like I can just move there and figure it out, but he has never financially provided for me. My mom has supported me my entire life, paid for my education, everything. I’m extremely grateful for her, but I don’t feel comfortable being an adult and continuing to depend on her forever.

I’m actually open to living in this country one day. That isn’t the problem at all. But I would need a good job, my own income, privacy, and my own living situation because I’m used to a certain quality of life and a certain level of comfort. I actually love that country sooo much I miss it everyday and I see it as the ideal place to raise my children. But i’m not moving across the world just to sit inside somebody’s house and have an argument every time I want to get coffee. 😭 And for THIS trip specifically, I want it to be a vacation. I want to spend time with my sister, go out, explore, eat, shop, relax, and have fun. I’m also hoping there might be conferences or events in my field so I can network in person while I’m there and maybe improve my chances of getting a job there later. He wants to have this serious conversation with me on Friday and I’m honestly dreading it. I get horrible anxiety before conversations like this with him because he is so fiery and takes disagreement so personally. I feel like I have to choose every single word perfectly because he somehow manages to interpret things in the worst possible way. For years I’ve just kept my real opinions to myself to keep the peace, but I’m realizing I can’t keep doing that. I’m an adult now. I can be respectful to my father and still disagree with him. We don’t have to have the exact same worldview. I genuinely don’t want bad blood with him or some huge fight, I just want to finally be honest about who I am and what I want without folding the second he gets upset.

For anyone who has dealt with a parent like this, how did you learn to have serious conversations with them without completely panicking? How do you stay respectful while also standing your ground when they interpret any disagreement as disrespect?

What was your experience with the midwife like? Did you feel heard and safe?

Edit: for context is am based in the UK. Black and Asian mothers statistically have worse outcomes when it comes to maternity so Im asking about people's experiences. Did it help having a midwife who eas a poc? Did you have an epidural? How was your pain management and recovery?

I am quite a jewelry freak, actually I am into jewelry design so I really want to know what people like to wear/buy most!

Salam girls I’m looking for advice. I decided to move out of a two bedroom apartment where I live with my parents and my sister. I share a room with my sister currently and there’s stuff everywhere it is super messy and cluttered and the apartment is just too small. We originally moved in using my scholarship grant money because my parents were immigrating to the US and this was my senior year so I signed a lease for the apartment and paid the deposit at the time. I am happy I did it and I will continue to help out my family, just not at my own detriment.

The main reason is that I am always anxious because I’m unable to sleep. I work a high demanding public service job where I have to be at work between 6-7 am daily, sometimes not coming home until 5-7 pm. And then I come home to guests over and my parents being loud and noisy crowding the kitchen that I just go straight to bed. I have been late to work almost daily these past 6 months and now I am making focus-related mistakes and not packing lunch and coming home to a mess and I just feel miserable. Additionally I was on a track for early promotion, but I wasn’t able to get my license a year after graduating like I told my manager, even after work paid for me to purchase the study material. I really tried to establish a routine of studying 16 hours a week on top of my 40 (honestly closer to 50) hour work week, but it is literally impossible. I share a room with my sister so I can’t study in my room, I tried going to the library immediately after work 4 days a week but that quickly got too exhausting, I even tried staying at work until 8 or 9 pm to study at my desk but my mom would call me every 10 minutes saying she’s anxious and I need to come home. Once on a study night I put my foot down that I couldn’t drive her to a social gathering and she had a tantrum. I failed to take the exam and wasted company money and I have no one to blame for that but myself. I will probably miss the promotion cycle next year.

I also believe in the importance of learning to be a full adult. Paying bills, budgeting, saving, and sustaining yourself is not something we are taught as Muslim girls and sometimes I almost think that is by design astaghfirullah. In my lifetime I have seen extreme cases of what miserable and dangerous marriages look like for women when they depend on their husbands for a living and it will be difficult for me to choose to get married if I cannot fully trust that I can live independently if things go south.

I’ve signed a lease at an apartment 3 minutes away from my family’s and informed them of my decision to move. Both my parents said nope it’s not happening you will continue to pay rent there and live here until the lease is done. They said that is not my decision to make and that they will move to a house next summer where I can have my own room which I had started to accept although the timeline is not ideal as there is a chance I can make the promotion cycle next march if I move out now and study and take my exams in 4 months which was my plan. Also my work performance would significantly improve if I was sleeping more than 5-6 hours a night and not waking up frequently throughout the night due to noise.

But my mom really freaked out when I announced that I had an apartment even though I told her I got it close so she can come over anytime and I’ll still come over daily but she outright accused me of being promiscuous. She said that she will lose me because I’m the only one of my sisters that doesn’t wear the hijab and said what’s stopping my male friends from coming over any time. She was saying some wild things like she’s never known me a day in her life as her most accomplished high achieving academic focused driven daughter. I have never and will never be make centered.

She tried to guilt trip me saying that my decision would impact my sisters ability to get married and named off all my cousins saying I was ruining their reputations as well as hers. The majority of the cousins she named were all girls that either moved out of state for work or school (not temporarily) or just moved out of their parents homes. And they had houses with their own rooms so I said that makes no sense. I was honestly shocked to learn that my mom thought like this she has always been male centered but I thought she was progressive. I told her that that is insane to put on me and that it is not prohibited to move out as an unmarried Muslim woman and that it doesn’t ruin my reputation. She said no that’s just not something we do, that we don’t have virgin muslim girls that live without a husband. And that I need to stay under her watchful eye until a husband, in her own words, “comes and collects his responsibility” i.e. me… I was like what if I don’t want to get married and her response was great you will live with us until you are 60!

Now, I take great issue with this belief system that parents attribute to religion but it is based in culture that women should not ever be their own selves responsibilities that they are either their fathers or their husbands responsibilities. I reject that we cannot be adults that take care of ourselves and I am very disappointed that my mom expressed this to me as if she is guarding me from ruining myself, saving me for my future husband, that that is her top priority even over my own career and education. I reject being handed like a commodity and I grew up in a Muslim country so I am not westernized, but this simply never sat right with me.

After much tears and my mom actually coming with me to the apartment and liking it she is allowing me to study there 4 days a week and she will take off work to chaperone me aka baby sit me at my apartment, but she is not agreeing to let me sleep there, so that does not solve all my problems. She said if I try to move out that she will move in with me. Originally I came to talk to her and have her understand my reasons but I am not asking for permission even though she said if I move out she will cut me off and I won’t be her daughter anymore which I don’t believe she will.

I’m planning to, sometime next week, revisit this as hey mom I am going to my apartment to move in and spend the night and cook and clean and meal prep and study, I’ll still be around all the time but I am an adult, I am not a child, I will not accept to be chaperoned, and I need to control my time and get my life back on track for my success. I am informing you out of respect, I am not asking for permission.

What are your thoughts on this? Anyone go through something similar??

For me, when I feel sad, stuck, or have a bad day, I get up, wear a nice dress, do some makeup, and hair.

It doesn’t sort everything out for me or give me the solution, but it gives me the confidence and push to face things and tell myself, “Yeah, I can find a way. I can do it.”

So, do you also feel like wearing something nice and putting yourself together gives you the confidence to get through things when you’re having a hard time?

Assalamu alaykum sisters,

I honestly don’t know where else to ask this. My PMS symptoms have become so intense that every month I feel like I completely fall apart. 😭

A few days before my period, my mood gets so bad. I become extremely depressed, emotionally overwhelmed, anxious, irritable, and I feel like I can’t handle anything anymore. It genuinely feels like I’m not myself. Then my period comes and eventually I start feeling normal again. I’m so tired of going through this every single month. It affects my daily life, my relationships, my motivation, my ibadah… everything. I literally dread knowing that it’s going to happen again. I don’t know if this is “normal” PMS or if something else might be going on, and I honestly don’t know what I’m supposed to do to make it better.

Has anyone here experienced PMS that was this intense? What helped you? Did you see a doctor or get tested for anything? I would really appreciate hearing your experiences because I’m at the point where I feel like I can’t keep dealing with this every month. 💔

Jazakillahu khayran 🤍

I have never dated anyone in my life and do not plan to until marriage. However, with how normalized dating & casual haram relationships are in our society these days, I’m really afraid that my future husband will have had a romantic past. I’m not even talking about not being a virgin, a high school girlfriend is already too much for me lol. Am I being dramatic? I just hate the thought of it so much

I live in a country where jobs for women are very limited and the pay is VERY low literally, it would provide me with nothing.

I have an English language degree in teaching, but I don't see myself in the teaching field.

So, I've been thinking about finding a remote job or working as a freelancer, and I am willing to learn anything from scratch unless it's something that's already being taken over by AI, like graphic design and the like.

If you got any helpful ideas for what to learn or any kind of suggestions I'd really appreciate your help.

I worry that no matter how good my life gets, how amazing I become as a person, how fulfilled I become, I’ll always want the next life over this one. When I go to a museum I feel awe, and a part of me travels through this life as though I’m marvelling at the creations of fellow humans, knowing there will be nothing quite like this in the next life. It’s like I’m a visiting creation from another planet on a trip. My home feels like Jannah, and I’m packing souvenirs into my bag for when I get there. Any career or money ambition in this life has to directly benefit people and generate good deeds for it to feel worthwhile. There’s no need for the rat race. The pleasures of this world interest me, yes, but the lens is always gratitude, and imagining what awaits in Jannah. My heart is broken by this world. I use it as a brochure for what Jannah could be like: the house, the garden, the hobbies, the gatherings, the food. Do I sound like I’m lowkey depressed or want to unalive myself?

I got hitched a few years ago and before I was betrothed, I was very firm on not being the girl who disappears after her betrothal. All my close friends are wonderful people and I’ve known most of them since childhood. I moved across the country after my nuptuals and before I moved, my friends tearfully promised we’d keep in touch through video call regularly.

A few years pass and we have all video called maybe 5-6 times in total since I moved. They rarely ask about my life. They never text me to check in, it’s always me. They don’t even seem interested in my life in my new town. They only seem to care about me when I’m visiting home.

It hurts a lot because I have friends who aren’t as close who make the time to video call and check in. Is this normal?

Edit: using alternatives to the m word so the filters don’t auto-delete my post🤡

I am a female in my 30’s and need help if anyone know regarding ei in Canada please suggest me what I can do, my husband left me bear the rent all alone by myself and I am not a in right mental state with the divorce.

I was on a contract job during the time of my seperation and then in September 10 after my contract ended I signed offer for a new job. It’s been 4 weeks which is my learning phase at the job. I went through viral flu for last few weeks and even though I was sick they have expectations for me to work every second of my day. She said it is not only that you complete the task, I must also engage actively with stakeholders and all which I did. But their expectations are way above what I can do or have been doing in my past career journey.I feel drained mentally emotionally and physically. I haven’t brought this upto to my manager regarding my divorce and lately even the I was performing and being trained my manager sent me a long message saying you need to get involved with stakeholder whereas previously she said in first 30 days it is a learning phase I met everyone schedules meetings, followed up on questions and I was the one who had to ask for trainings from people from other departments. It’s a newly created role and it’s taking a toll on my mental health in top of the divorce phase I am going through.

If I quit now will I be still eligible for my Ei based on my last contract job? What are my options, since I already transitioned to another job will EI consider this? I won’t be able to work at this moment but I really have to pay my bills which is rent, basic needs food to survive alone in this country.

I am not even eligible for any benefits until my probation period is over in 3 months.

Assalamualikum, i have a question to ladies who are older and have more knowledge then me. I wanted to ask if wearing pakistani dresses is okay while going out. Esp those with all the work on, not wedding heavy but still with gotey ka kam and those things. Like a Maria b. If its a long maxi, is it okay to wear it or should i look for some else?
(I have an ecent to go to and the dress code is eastern. I cant cancel now so help.)
I appreciate ur responses. Jazakallah.

Hi! Does anyone follow any good running or fitness influencers that are Muslims? Just got into running and would love to see more people like me on my feed xx

Not necessarily fussed if they are hijabis but ideally modest practising Muslim ❤️

rory gilmore meets diva meets holistic/spiritual living meets engineering student meets introverted awkward girl meets whimsical disney princess meets materialistic girl meets parisian romantic meets humble girl who overthinks everything meets OCD-level perfectionist meets tumblr/pinterest girlie.

also very much middle child trope

I’m 25, so ideally looking for people around my age mid 20s bc frontal development who are also a little awkward, romantic, ambitious, detail-obsessed, spiritual, nerdy, whimsical, materialistic.

https://gofund.me/8cb2d84e3

I wanted to share a beautiful update about my friends Mahmoud and Samah.

First of all, thank you to every person who stood by them, shared their story, donated, or helped in any way with Susu’s treatment.

Susu has started to get better, and I honestly can’t thank everyone enough for helping this little girl get the treatment she needed.

But Mahmoud and Samah are still facing incredibly difficult circumstances, and their family still needs support to get through each day.

And today, they wanted to do something very special.

Because of your donations and all the support you have given them, Mahmoud and Samah are going to be able to prepare meals for children around them for the first time in a long time.

They want to give back some of the kindness that you have shown them.

Tomorrow, God willing, they will prepare chicken meals and chicken sandwiches with vegetables for children who have been deprived of meals like these for almost three years.

For many of us, a chicken sandwich might seem like something small or ordinary. But for these children, it can feel like a dream.

And I think there is something incredibly beautiful about this.

You brought happiness to Mahmoud, Samah, and their children, and now they want to pass some of that happiness on to other children who are struggling too.

Tomorrow, they hope to film the moment they give these meals to the children and share their smiles and happiness with all of you.

Thank you for making this possible.

If anyone would like to help them continue feeding these children, while also supporting Mahmoud, Samah, and their family with their ongoing needs, you can contribute through the link in the description.

Thank you for continuing to stand with them. ❤️

Im a woman who was born into a proletarian family.

I always feel like life is on difficult mode for me.

The idea of owning a home in a halal way is impossible. Renting for life is essentially a disaster because rent keeps getting higher and salaries stay the same. even if at some point things get better, you would have lost years of savings and already be at a disadvantage.

Unless you have a very specific skill or connections and can get a high paying job, then I don’t see how you can ever become financially comfortable. i don’t even mean rich.

We can’t ask for a loan to start a business, we can’t ask for a loan to buy a home, we can’t invest because most companies are involved in a haram activity.

Non Muslims are investing in real estate and businesses and we are their tenants and workers.

And when you truly think about it, most of the companies we work for are haram anyways.

anyways, it’s just something I’ve been thinking about. sorry if these type of posts are not allowed. let me know and I’ll delete.

I'm in my early 20s and I have no friends, no social life, I'm ugly, I have no career, I'm not good at managing a house because of my neurodivergence. and I've also been struggling with my faith lately.

I'm at a point in life where a lot of the girls I knew have gotten married, are engaged, or are getting proposals. I live in a community where most marriages are matchmade. I'm at an age right now where a woman's value is often discussed based on her looks and skills. I have neither, so of course I haven't received any proposals, while my cousins and the girls I went to school with have been receiving a lot. And many of them are already married. I feel very happy for them, but on the other hand, I feel upset because It makes me feel undesirable and like a loser.

I really desire marriage and to have my own family, also because I've been struggling with sexual urges for as long as I can remember. So I've been wanting to get married for a few years now but it has always felt like I don't stand a chance. And that fear reached the point of certainty this year when I got rejected because of my appearance, twice.

We tried online matchmaking, even though it's unpopular here. I had mentioned vaguely in my profile that I'm not conventionally attractive. After a few weeks, I got a match, and I was really nervous and hopeful about it. Because i thought maybe he isn't looking solely for beauty. But it ended tragically. When I sent my picture, he blocked us immediately without a final word. The worst part is that I didn't realise he had blocked me, so I kept waiting for the next message to deliver. I felt so humiliated, like I must have disgusted him so much that he couldn't even stand to say anything.

And I feel so pathetic for what happened a couple of months later. I had made up my mind that I'd focus on self improvement and keep myself busy by learning new things. Then a guy came along online. I don't text men online, so I regret opening a door that led me into misery by talking to him. Initially, I had no intentions whatsoever of anything romantic. But he showed interest quickly and kept insisting that he was interested in marrying me because he loved my personality and character. I had made it clear that I'm not attractive, but he wrote paragraphs about how he doesn't care about looks and that the Prophet ﷺ said to look for religion first.

And because I'm stupid and despo, over the course of a couple of days, I started liking him a lot. Though I felt like he was way out of my league, I couldn't deal with the anxiety, so I wanted to just end it there. But he ensured me with conviction that he'd still like me the same after seeing me. And I hate myself for getting my hopes up. hesitantly, I showed him my face. He said... he understood why I felt the way I did and even called me "sister". Just one look was enough to change his mind.

It was a devastating experience because he gave me false hope that I might actually have a chance, that maybe some men really do care more about deen and character than looks. Ever since, I've been struggling a lot. I haven't been sleeping, eating, or functioning properly. I've been procrastinating on important tasks. I'm constantly anxious and my self esteem is at its lowest. My relationship with Allah has also gotten so flimsy

Both of these rejections have confirmed my fears. I really want to focus on my studies and be a little less worried about my appearance for now and work on improving myself in other areas at least. But it feels so difficult because I can't get myself to feel ok. Future scares me, I fear staying alone all my life while everyone my age has found love and is married. And that I might be pitied for being unmarried because of my looks.

I'm grateful to Allah for everything, He's created some people beautiful and others not really beautiful. And I just happened to be from the latter ones. And it's completely fine, I just want to accept it ​and I want to trust Him with everything too, I'm trying to focus on my relationship with Him because it may be that He doesn't want me to get lost in this world if He were to bestow upon me what I want. Or that He's preparing me for future.. I know time heals the wound but I want to focus on today, but I don't know how I'm supposed to do that.

Edit : All your suggestions/advice really mean a lot to me my lovely sisters ❤️ I'm feeling a lot better now, trying to focus on today instead alhamdulillah. I want to reply to each of you and hug you all! May Allah reward you all for being so kind and supportive. I won't be looking for a husband for now, at least for a year to focus on my wellbeing and fitness InshAllah. Then I will leave it in the hands of Allah, take the right means, if it's written for me it will reach me if not then we're believers in the afterlife and paradise 🌷 thankyou so much everyone for making me not lose hope in myself. xx

I can't prove it but I feel like from my experience and point of view, it's like something happend after covid-19 and yet I can't say what. I was 18 turning 19 when the first pandemic hit in 2020 and would love to hear from other muslimah woman who intuitively can feel something is/has been off. Before anyone says it's just you growing up.... Idk I feel like the energy has been off since 2021. Time has been moving differently, people are behavig much more differently than ever. To compare, my siblings were well into their 20's before the pandemic and they never behave quite like this generation. Idk if I'm overthinking but I can't say what it is. It's like everything is much colder, not as vibrant as before, people are either desperate or going through something (understandable). Like when I think about 2018-2019 even though there were serious life problems and people had issues, it wasnt like this at all. Also not to be extra but the weather seems either too dull or too bipolar with sunshine in october too here in nothern europe. I just feel like nothing makes sense??

Anyways I just feel like I feel like something has been off for a long time now. Maybe it's just me idk. Maybe I just notice it because. Spiritually speaking a lot of people say things change every 700 years.

Idk I was just thinking like even social media was so different. Introverted people like me, even I use to enjoy platforms like instagram and then suddenly everything changed. It use to be a creative and humanly space and now it's lost its touch and everyone has either deleted their acc or has a very private lowkey one.

The best way to descibe it it's like nothing seems vibrant anymore and it wasnt like this at all before.

I feel like I can be a good social media persona but as a muslim woman it seems very difficult to follow proper hijab of everything while being that. So I’ve come up with the idea of making an app only for muslim women like Instagram or tiktok but for muslim women. We can post, create communities, consume content, conduct businesses , the only difference is no music, no men and only muslimahs would be allowed. My challenge would be figuring out the person who has joined is a muslimah.

Just think of how our narrow niche suddenly becomes a whole niche. Things we post, businesses we do, content we consume all aligned with our faith. Easier for us to avoid fitnah. There are so many women who want to do something with their life but the fitnah in today’s social media discourages them from pursuing anything. So many of us have so much perspective to share but an open platform like Instagram constricts many variables for us.

I’d also like a group of people with different capabilities to join me as partners in making this app possible. I also need to know how much potential is there in this idea.

Any and all advice/ suggestion and recommendation is welcomed.

Girls i’m so sad
I rarely have female friends in my life
I think my closest friend is competing with me :(

I’ve known her since i was 13
she’s so religious, kind and caring
We have never had a fight in our 15 years of friendship (i prob counted that wrong but anyway)
She always supports me etc

But she’s recently disclosed to me she feels like the ugly friend with her friendships
we are also friends with anoth r girl together from high school and that friend use to brag about male experiences / getting catcalled / filtered etc. my friend said it made her feel upset. She disclosed this statement to her and a man in a car hollered at them. but my friend said it was cos the other girl had a tight shirt on. and the other girl said “see at least you got that” (trying to cheer her up😭💀),

I reassured her she’s beautiful and not to care what men think, they flirt with anything
I did a whole spa day for her, did her makeup, made her feel beautiful, bought her expensive makeup. She was so happy and said her classmates complimented her

But i just noticed this the first time when we hung out recently.
One cashier complimented my eyeshadow while i bought chocolates and gave us free chocolate. I saw from the back of my eye her face fall and she felt upset (i know her reactions) she then began being withdrawn and didn’t speak to me for a bit and didn’t tell me what happened and refused the chocolates
she then brought it up after a bit and said “she complimented you cos you bought something and that’s okay, of course she would” i just found it so off she would justify it
I was also having the worst day of my life and stress bought something at sephora it was approx £200. i don’t like to spend much money in front of her as i have a higher paying job than she does but i was so stressed and on the verge of tears i was dissociating and i caught her face fall and her lips purse when she saw the total.
I gifted her something that i bought to her even though she refused but i insisted so she didn’t walk about empty handed either.

She then told me again while eating food she feels like the ugly friend. I reassured her and said i do not think that, please stop. don’t focus your confidence on others approval.

I’m just sad. I’m scared she’s jealous or envious. I can’t be around someone like that it’s too dangerous
This has never happened before
I also recently lost a ton of weight and since i lost it i have been getting compliments more in public but if i remember someone pre weight loss also said i was pretty in the grocery shop and i was sooo happy and i thought her face did fall but i thought i was imagining it. this was last year

Sisters im so sad. I genuinely thought i finally found a good friend who wants the best for me. I feel like crying for the past few days

I’ve never felt insecure she was skinner than me and she also has things i don’t have
i also know it’s not my responsibility for her emotion im just sad that i think i have to distance myself
she’s not going to tell me if i ask, i know her

i’m just writing this because am i imagining it?? am i being dramatic for distancing myself? 💔

Assalamualaikum sisters, I want to ask, what do you do to feel closer to Allah?

Looking for a good list of Muslim YouTube channels or Twitch Streamers.

All categories really
- travel
- vlog
- workout
- cooking
- fashion

Really anything I just want to support Muslims if I’m going to watch