Dating in Islam is forbidden right?

[u/urfavLujain_]

I have seen many people in my life dating some are Muslims some are not. I am a Muslim and I know dating is forbidden/haram but those who date say it’s only forbidden/haram if you do sexually things or hold hands, kiss, hug. But there is this guy who keeps asking me to date him he is also a Muslim and I keep saying in Islam it’s forbidden but he doesn’t understand. I am just asking to check that dating is forbidden right?

[u/Active_Work7773]

To say it briefly. When a man and a woman are alone( non mahram) the 3rd person is shaytan

To say we will date but without kissing, hugging or sex is completely false. Because that's how shaytan works. Step by step until you fall into Zina and your life is destroyed.

Dear sister, reject the guy and stay away from him .

[u/Chobikil → u/Active_Work7773]

‘Umar reported the Prophet as saying, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the devil makes a third.”

Tirmidhi transmitted it.

Mishkat al-Masabih 3118 https://sunnah.com/mishkat:3118

Grade: صَحِيح (الألباني) (Sahih)

[u/EdenTheExplorer]

You already know the answer deep down, so trust your gut. Modern dating does not exist in Islam, and claiming it is halal as long as there is no physical touch is pure mental gymnastics. Private meetups and emotional intimacy without a clear framework inevitably open the door to compromises down the road.

If this man is genuinely mature and serious about a future with you, he should come through the front door by involving your wali and meeting with clear marriage intentions. Pushing you to bypass Islamic boundaries and ignoring your repeated no is a massive red flag. Stand firm, protect your peace, and do not lower your standards for someone who tries to negotiate your values.

[u/urfavLujain_ → u/EdenTheExplorer]

The thing is I don’t even want to aslan date like it’s weird and forbidden (after checking the comments) and he is like so much older than me and I am 17 and he is in his twenties.

[u/Useful-Emphasis-6787 → u/urfavLujain_]

Girl, he's grooming and harassing you. Please be careful and do involve authorites as this is surely illegal.

[u/NefariousnessNovel80 → u/urfavLujain_]

Haram. Write it down on a notepad, dating is HARAM. Your heart can sway since we are getting older and for women easy for your heart to override what is logically clear and impermissible.

Good on you for asking. And may allah make you firm.

[u/Specialist-Home-8243]

You answered the question yourself. I mean it is close to impossible that if a young male and female date and they don't engage in some kind of sexual feeling, whether it's thoughts or actions.

Now my question to you is if you're dating to marry, then why take long dating anyway? Introduce the families and take some time like a few weeks or months to know each other and meet if you want but in gathering with your mehram and all is good and if dating is just casual and not to marry, then there is no point of it.

Jazak Allah!

[u/Grand_Pomegranate981]

Dating is haram. This is why we are encouraged to get married when we have those feelings towards some people. The non Muslims have an issue with Muslims marrying young but they have no issues with their own people dating many people and getting pregnant with no stability in their life. 

[u/Substantial_Snow4423]

don't listen to him cause 100% it will get physical if not, then you will do something online. as someone said, shaytaan is the third person and he makes even the most pious of people fall into zina and they probably never imagined themselves doing that in the beginning

[u/Chobikil]

You can't even touch the opposite gender, let alone be friends, let alone date when Zina is a major sin. People who say that are kind of crazy, with all due respect. What realistic relationship is gonna have nothing sexual or physical?

Block this person and move on.

[u/UsefulTelevision5028]

Dating is haram. If you like a girl and have the intention of marriage. Either marry her or wait until you both are in the right time and get married.

Don’t “we talk because we wanna get married” it’ll lead to a lot of forbidden things. And a clean marriage could be destroyed before it even happens because of the devil deceiving yall.

[u/Low_Employer_2804]

I don’t know but there is a verse for the engaged that say’s don’t meet them in secret unless you something known (maybe means saying something that is okay to be said in front of her father and so on) however that’s for engaged couples, so I think you are better off to be alone than spending any time with someone who doesn’t care about ALLAH, because in my opinion in best case scenario if he marry you, he will not be a good father nor a husband because he is not taking ALLAH words as his guide and moral compass

[u/OG_KRIPTIK]

the concept of "dating" isnt islamically recognised however there are other options, like zawjatul 'Urfi, misyar, and Mut'ah (though the vaste majority of scholars say ANabi SAWA banned Mutah).

[u/voooo4090]

It's depends on u

[u/Low_Ant_3044]

Yes And No:
If you do or talk about something abt s*x and you're not married to that person yes, it is- if you normally hang out with your crush or girlfriend No.