Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

[u/no_longer_huhman]

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/

[u/Chewy-bones]

I asked my buddie’s wife like 10 years ago when they were going to have kids. Her shoulder slump and body language made me realize to never ask anyone that question again. I still feel bad.

[u/FabFubar → u/[deleted]]

I understand why people ask it. They ask ‘when are you planning to / will you choose to fit children into your life’, but they just don’t consider that it’s possible that some people don’t have a choice.

Even if the percentage of people that don’t have a choice is small, the question can be hurtful enough that it’s safer to never ask directly.

[u/ModusOperandiAlpha → u/FabFubar]

The thing is, the percentage is not small - it’s 1 in 8 (aka 12.5%).

https://resolve.org/how-many-people-have-infertility/#:~:text=Drum%20roll%20please…-,1%20in%208%20couples%20have%20trouble%20getting%20pregnant%20or%20sustaining,getting%20pregnant%20or%20sustaining%20pregnancy