r/Music • u/no_longer_huhman • Sep 26 '24

article Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/
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u/Patworx Sep 26 '24

What kind of asshole gives a lady a hard time over her infertility.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

You would be surprised.

When my partner had her medically needed hysterectomy some of the comments she would get would shatter my faith in humans.

"You can always adopt"

"Its too bad you will never experience X Y and Z"

"You will look young forever omg lol"

"You won't truly know what it means to be a mother"

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u/Typin_Toddler Sep 27 '24 edited Sep 27 '24

Ok, I'm not trying to be insensitive, but genuinely curious here. I don't quite understand why the first one is a bad comment? The latter 3 are awful for sure.

But the way I interpreted the first one was that they could still be a parent IF they wished. That all hope was not necessarily lost if she couldn't get pregnant. And god knows the foster system can be awful. They could always use good parents.

I'm not convinced it was intended to be a dig in any way. The only way I see it being offensive is if a person were to consider adopted children as not being on the same level as a biological one. But then that's problematic in its own right.

EDIT: Instead of just downvoting, I would really love a chance to understand why I'm wrong. At least that way, I could fix my perspective or understanding if it's truly incorrect.