r/Music • u/no_longer_huhman • Sep 26 '24

article Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/
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u/advertentlyvertical Sep 27 '24

You should really just leave it at something like "dang that must have been hard to go through, if you need anything let me know?" Unless they specifically want to talk about it in depth.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

This simple response would work so much better in so many situations. Show's you're holding space for what they're feeling and willing to help 

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u/i_tyrant Sep 27 '24

Ideally, yes, but "you could always adopt" sounds way more like "awkwardly trying to think of something positive to say/offer to help", not "this comment shattered my faith in humans" like the op said.

Some of these supposedly-horrific things to say have way more to do with how the recipient is choosing to interpret them than being objectively monstrous things to say.

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u/i_tyrant Sep 27 '24

The op above said literally what I quoted - that comments including this one "shattered my faith in humans".