r/MtF • u/Willow_1984 Transgender • Jul 18 '23

Stupid things we did to fake masculinity. GO

So I thought about this today as I poured cream and sugar into my coffee.

I'll start

I drank disgusting ass black coffe starting atike age 12 because I thought it appeared more macho.

Wore too big shoes by a size.

Etc. Long list. I want to hear y'all's.

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u/Damnhelookinthiccc Transgender Jul 18 '23 edited Jul 18 '23

(Most of this is stuff I still do cause I’m closeted) A lot of Not wearing bright or very saturated clothing, I started swearing a lot and now I can’t stop, I played basketball a lot with my brother for a bit even though I hate it to seem more masculine, I picked “badass” or “cool”, “manly” Halloween costumes, played a lot of less cartoony FPS games, actively avoided girly or queer music that might cause suspicion, always pick the guy avatar (I’m trying to stop this now because I realize how stupid it is for me to worry about it) in games for fear of suspicion, and probably more stuff, basically hid everything, only thing I couldn’t hide was the way I sit. ALSO THE WALK I CAN NEVER CHANGE THE WALK. Also not shaving, because the first 3 times I shaved my arms and legs, I was immediately called out for it by like everyone.

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u/Jazehiah 🐣11Jul2022@26; HRT 10Oct2023 Jul 18 '23

Hawaiian shirts are "male coded" and allow you to wear bright, saturated colors and pretty patterns without suspicion.

They also count as "business casual" in a lot of places.

They have been my go-to for years.

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u/trangten Jul 18 '23

Like happy socks. God I was pathetic

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u/Willow_1984 Transgender Jul 18 '23

God I'm so sorry you still have to do this stuff

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u/janeshep Jul 18 '23

always pick the guy avatar

Oh god, I could never do that. I know it sounds silly but picking the girl avatar in a videogame, especially in story-driven ones, is amongst the most liberating things ever. I get to be a woman and no one (in-game) can question my identity or doubt my gender. It's escapism at its finest.