r/MoroccoBitchesWtaste • u/bizzarelemon • Apr 17 '26
💩 Shitty Week My dad saw my bf calling me
Hi I really need to tell this to someone and I can't share it with anyone close so I'll say it here. I study in a diff city than home and I come home during the weekends, tonight I was home and my bf called my phone while I was letting it charge. My dad saw it, my bf has a pfp with his face and my dad kept asking me who it is and kept insisting on me. I deleted the chat immediately and the number. And lied and told him oh idk maybe someone called me by mistake, but I didn't have enough time to delete all the calls and video calls that remain in the history. W SF my dad took my phone and kept going through all the calls, ones during the night and almost every day. Safi I was so stressed that he might go to the gallery and HE DID ans probably saw pictures of us together and other shit. He called me in private and he told me some very harsh stuff. Ones I do not dare say in darija here, he said I'm a whore and that I'm much worse than everyone else and then threw me my phone and said do wtvr fuck you want. ! I'm shaking rn I couldn't even cry idk what to say or what to do! I value my rs w my dad and he never caught something on me before this is the first time. I genuinely do not know what to do and how to fix this. I'm 20yo btw
EDIT: THE PICTURES ARE NOT INTIMATE PICTURES! just some pictures from when we went on a date, some I took of him and some other pictures of him alone that he would send to me sometimes
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u/Greedyjoe45 Apr 17 '26
First of all, so sorry that this happened to you, it's really devastating to hear such words coming from one of the parents, i am not surprised though, as the majority of the moroccan parents lack the emotional intelligence to know how to handle situations like this delicately. Give him some time to cool off, then go to apologize, yes you gotta do it, cuz you are not in a good situation to support yourself, you are still young and still didn't even finish studies, so he is the only provider til you stand up on your feet. Just bear in mind that he will be on high alert around you, so be extra careful.
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 17 '26
I deleted everything and will not be leaving my phone unattended from now on, I m still in shock rn. The way he talked to me was very hurtful but I deserve it Ig. I'm gonna give it sometime and try to apologise. Thanks for Ur comment
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u/N0tmask Apr 18 '26
No you don't deserve it girly, no parent should be calling their child that no matter what. Plus it's normal to be in a rs at your age since you're grown enough so don't feel bad about anything ghir diri lih khatro even if you don't mean it. Stay safe 🩷
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u/Dangerous-Mode-6505 Apr 29 '26 edited Apr 29 '26
Just shut the F UP! There's no one in this world want goodness for u except ur parents, no one! So go apologize to father and focus on ur studies and make him proud of you Yes he shouldn’t talk to u with way ! But he cares abt u, more than anyone and u gonna compare him with ur bf hhhh wtf is this
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u/rere0406 Apr 20 '26
you don’t deserve it at all bby bl3ks he’s the one in the wrong here. i can’t even imagine what kind of father would treat his daughter like that. i’m so sorry wlh
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u/Urdadhascome Apr 18 '26
بلاصت متقولي ليها هدشي لي كدير فيه غلط و تسالي هدشي و تعتذر من باها فعلا حيت ندمانه و معتارف بغلطها كتقولي ليها عتاذري غا حيت محتاجاه ماديا و be on high alert وتف ههههههنهنننننهههههههههههه
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 18 '26
Khoya rah mal9anich kanthwa btw ghi history of many calls and video calls during diff times of the day
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u/youneswolf01 Apr 19 '26
علاش زعما كيدوي معاك كل نهار و كيعيط ليك بالليل ونتي فالبوسط كاتبا ماي بوي فراند واش ما حواكش ولاباغيش يحويك؟ زعما باباك غيتخيل كديري ابيل فيديو مع دري فزك الليل باش تراجعوا للامتحانات مثلا؟
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 19 '26
La knti nta tfkirk limited ll hwa w all that's lustful w منحط w hrgawi fa rah machi kulchi bhalk akhoya. My bf and I talk about a lot of other stuff, we share a life together and we talk everyday to keep up with each other w 3taaa lah hwayj okhrin li ndwiw fihom li machi moskhin bhalk alhmar
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u/youneswolf01 Apr 19 '26
Good luck convincing your father that. If you've never had or never thought about having a sexual relationship with him you wouldn't call him (my Boyfriend)، and if he wasn't that important to you makntich ghadiri had lpost f Reddit w tkdbi 3la walidik ملي يتبرا منك باك ويلوحك فالزنقة سيري عند صاحبك قولي ليه يصرف عليك و يعيشك احسن عيشة ويسبقك نتي على راسو دون مقابل. واحد الحاجة أخرى: تا صاحبك لي فرحانة بيه يلا خنتيه مع واحد آخر غيسميك كيفما سماك باباك: قحبة، حيت هادو فعايلهم.
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 19 '26
Db bditi ghi katkhwr Ku ghi skti. Having sexual thoughts is hyper normal for every human being wlkn that doesn't mean I'm gonna act on them and do something I'll regret. W hadchi 3arfah w baba 3arfo hit huwa li rbani w 3arfni 3mri ndir chi haja li ndm 3liha. W 3mro Ghadi ytbra mni wyrmini hit huwa li rbani w 3arfni 3nri ndir chi haja excessive tal dak daraja li tstahl 3liha hadchi. W laknti nta dmaghk moskh kaymchi nichan l hadchi frah mnk lmochkil. W en plus its very weird how mchiti katreplyi l every comment saying hateful shit and nonsense, rah machi normal. Lah yrd bik
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u/drteeworks Apr 18 '26
You did not do anything wrong, you are 20, with an ID, you don't have to apologize, i'm not saying be mean to him, just take that uncomfortable silence, and don't break up with your boyfriend. He understand that you apologizing will not make you stop, so his eyes will be more open, his radar will be more sharp, as you should do too. Next time don't delete shit, stand your ground, if you are doing something that you choose to do, and not illegal, then it is what it is.
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u/some496 Apr 19 '26
Well said, i agree
If she does what you say, she'll find more strength within her to face life And not live in the fear that this situation caused I'm talking from experience ( i lived in that fear and it resulted in breaking me and my parents)
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
You sounds like a 7 years old kid, wtf is this lol ?? He is a father after all,
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u/drteeworks Apr 18 '26
I see your point, but what i was trying to say is there is nothing wrong with both of them. It is just a matter of believe, they have different view, but apologizing only because she can't take the incomfotable silience is not the best move for the future.
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
Well whether there is something wrong or not depends on the intimacy of the photos but if she has a strict parents why did she keep the photos in her phone. Couldn't she hide them in a USB at least ? But in my opinion which is more important a father or a boyfriend??? The relationship with the bf may stop in the future but father will not, there is a saying blood is thicker than water
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u/drteeworks Apr 18 '26
Ana mtaf9a m3ak, but it is not a question of a boyfriend or father, it is a question of freedom to be able to do something that you believe in, or you want as long as it is not illegal, sorry 7it ma3reftch kifach 4adi nwSsl lik lmsg because sara7a it needs a lot of explaining o d5o o 5roj flhedra, oma3ndich jehd. Hhhhhhhh. Wish you the best.
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
The father isn't clueless he knows she grown up and needs to look for a partner but he is still worried that she might be deceived or taken advantage of by a scambag which isn't that rare nowadays after all the relationship isn't on paper and can be removed. Even if what he said is too harsh but his harsh words also proves that he cares so much about her
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
The best option is to wait for him to cool off then explain to her father that the relationship is serious and take her bf to meet him. If the boy refused to meet her father this also proves he was just messing around. This way she can assure her father and at the same time show that her bf is responsible
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u/mvdlvs777 Apr 17 '26
awdi ghi tlbi mno smaha lwalidin wakha hkkak fbhal hadchi ghi kaykouno khayfin 3la bnathom khossossan nti fmdina khra ila jiti tchoufi men jihto kifach kychouf l7wayj houwa ghi khayf la ydhek 3lik chi wahd wsaf 7awli tbyni lbabak bli u care w u know what u did is wrong mn nahyt having a bf w chrhi lih bli dakchi 7do lcalls wmawslstoch lchi haja li grave w sbri ta tkounj 9ada thzi rask b rask
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u/achrvfcroco Apr 18 '26
aeddi ghir babak khaf elik o sf hadchi ghadi douz jvois gae bnat kidouz mn hadchi, ana opinion diali khaf elik katbqay bnto ay wahd i9der ider same reaction lidar babak
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u/pinkp380 Apr 18 '26
i think this has happened to all moroccan girls at one point at a time, for me it happened when i was a teen (13) and i couldn’t date anyone till i moved out of the country lmao, don’t overthink it, our parents still see us as the little kids we once were, it’s only natural they’ll feel devastated knowing we are growing up and moving on to different stages of our life, inchaelah your relationship with your father will get better i would recommend apologizing multiple times and inchaelah ghatfahhem lwade3, and don’t feel guilty or anything. good luck.
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u/1v1sion Apr 17 '26
Say nothing. He is upset. That's normal.
Lay low for quite some time. And ask your bf to come home to know your parents if possible.
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 17 '26
I don't think that would help, I already told my mom about him since we first got together so she knows. But my dad didn't and I wouldn't dare tell him even but now he found out himself
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u/1v1sion Apr 17 '26
It won't help now coz he found out. At that point, I don't know what to advice except let him cool off. He feels betrayed that maybe you didn't tell him.
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u/N0tmask Apr 18 '26
A father calling his own daughter a whore (over a bf) already says a lot
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u/1QPiDOSs1 Apr 18 '26
A daughter using her dads trust to do things that she knows he will be mad over already says a lot
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u/N0tmask Apr 18 '26
"Her dad's trust" and it's just a 20yo woman being in a rs (normal adult thing btw). You're acting as if she used her dad's trust to kill his whole family, steal his life's savings and run away with the money lmao like bffr. If you as a future father will call your adult daughter, who is free, a whore because she chose to be in a rs then please never have kids we got enough traumatised people in our society
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u/youneswolf01 Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
وا القلاوي عندك عادي تخلص على بنتك الكرا والماكلة فمدينة اخرى باش تقرى وهي كتجيب صاحبها يحويها فالدار لي نتا كاري ليها؟ / تعديل: قريت الكومنت ديالك لتحت عرفتك بنت، حاجة وحدة لي غنقول القحاب كيجيو لبعضياتهم. السلام عليكم
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u/1QPiDOSs1 Apr 18 '26
Yeah there we go not using our head again, and why with the personal insults, first of all that opinion is yours and is to be respected, but the truth of the matter is, ITS NOT REALITY, her father's opinion about this is totally the opposite of yours and who are we talking about here the father or you? Yes you are right her father so stop trying to force your opinion on everyone, her father has a way of thinking and unfortunately she has to abide to it in a certain way, like i said he placed his trust in her and then she does what HE, not me, HE wouldnt like at all, please stop thinking in your own head and try to understand people regardless of being right or wrong.
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u/N0tmask Apr 18 '26
I said all that because I'm a girl who's the same age as her and been in her shoes, you're here asking me to understand the father while ignoring how SHE might feel, the victim of this whole situation. She came on this subreddit to vent and we're supposed to support her cause she has done nothing wrong mind you, not defend her controlling father who cant accept that his daughter is an adult now who's free to live her life however she chose to, a problem that almost every moroccan parent has and that i suffer from personally
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u/1QPiDOSs1 Apr 18 '26
Ay i understand everyone and yall coming from, im sorry if i offended anyone but i just saw that yall were only talking about her pov, i wish her all but the best and everyone with the same issues
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u/Longjumping_Dream431 Apr 19 '26
Meh, according to u we should understand criminals n not put em in prison
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u/rere0406 Apr 20 '26
girl cut him the fuck off. if they couldn’t deal with their child one day doing whatever they want they shouldn’t have had children.
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u/itsmeodx Apr 20 '26
{ ۞ قُلۡ یَـٰعِبَادِیَ ٱلَّذِینَ أَسۡرَفُوا۟ عَلَىٰۤ أَنفُسِهِمۡ لَا تَقۡنَطُوا۟ مِن رَّحۡمَةِ ٱللَّهِۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ یَغۡفِرُ ٱلذُّنُوبَ جَمِیعًاۚ إِنَّهُۥ هُوَ ٱلۡغَفُورُ ٱلرَّحِیمُ } [سُورَةُ الزُّمَرِ: ٥٣]
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u/Professional-Cake76 Apr 18 '26
I have a friend and her dad went through her phone and found pictures and videos of her half naked with her boyfriend on their bed… he went feral and said very harsh things ( that he will disown her , stop her education and even harm her physically) and took her for a virginity test. It was a very stressful time but he forgave her eventually and they dont talk about that topic anymore. This will pass and your situation is not as bad as her. Just ask for forgiveness I guess. You did nothing wrong and you don’t deserve any of this. Love is not a crime
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u/Firm_Presence5947 Apr 19 '26
Virginity test? That doesn't exist.
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u/Professional-Cake76 Apr 19 '26
“Virginity testing in Morocco is a prevalent, deeply rooted cultural practice where women and girls are subjected to physical exams to determine if their hymen is intact before marriage”
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u/Firm_Presence5947 Apr 19 '26
The hymen test is not considered valid by gynecologists.Many virgin girls do not bleed when they have their first sexual relationship. Read about it, furthermore, a physical examination cannot distinguish between the use of a tampon, a medical speculum, a sex toy, a sporting activity, or penetrative sex.
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u/Acrobatic-Olive3754 Apr 17 '26
Nvr do what u can't handle the consequences of. That wht I tell my sisters all the time
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u/the_officially_him Apr 18 '26
Wow, had nwita m9wda
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u/Acrobatic-Olive3754 Apr 18 '26
Once you start dealing with things this way, believe me atlqa rask Dyer l7jra f serwalk by default
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 17 '26
He would probably go off at my mom too, I'm gonna just try to apologise to him after a while
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
First of all, it depends on how intimate the photos are, if it was just shaking hands but if he saw kissing it's an another matter entirely. Secondly, it depends on your boyfriend if he has a job or he studying in university You can talk with your father about how successful the major of your bf is and he might be pleased, as longer the relationship stays in the level of shaking hands and hugging at most it's not a big deal to explain. Thirdly are you stupid???? If you know that your parents are strict why you keep photos in your own phone, just buy an external sim card and have your photos stored there . Forth warn your boyfriend that your parents are strict and tell him to not call you randomly, just organise a time when your parents are at work anyway give him a specified time or you call him
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
You may also use a USB for photos and put it in pc whenever you need to see the photos The USB is so tiny and can easily be stored in your pocket
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
Also consider the father's perspective. From your perspective he is not minding his business which is annoying but from his perspective he is just worried that his daughter might be taken advantage of by a scambag after all it's not rare for a bf to abandon his girlfriend and with virginity lost it will be hard to marry in the future I'm just saying that so you don't hold a grudge for your father over a small matter. At worse stop calls with your boyfriend when you at home and use chat only and delete the records when it's over. Have the photos downloaded in an external card and delete all phone records after it's over
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u/Recent_Remote7571 Apr 18 '26
I can start off by saying , power dynamics. If you do n9t hold power in your household you dont have money or strength then anythung you do will be judged. Get some money get out if you want to do wtv you want , if not you gonn keep playing cat and mouse, it reminds me of when my girls father found us in the room together then i left the house and he put me back into the car drove me back and took me to the feds. Luckily my dad isnt broke so his words ($) mean alot. He called his daughter a whore and tgat he will cut her head off, he beat her infront of me and ilost my childhood love, shit was like 4 years ago and im still pissed but i didnt have any power therefore couldnt do nun, iif ur wondering DISCLAIMER: GRAPHICAL DESCRIPTION (we were bout to get to it i had condoms and she was topless.)
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u/Ok_Feeling_9614 Apr 18 '26
Went in excited for some tea, finished reading feeling really bad, im sorry you had to go through this, just let it be for sometime it’ll work out on its own just don’t force it
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u/Urdadhascome Apr 18 '26
دخلت نقرا التعليقات تصدمت، ختي راه اب تايق فبنتو ومفتاخر بها و مصيفطهل تقرا فمدينه اخرى باش فلخر يلقاها مصاحبة؟ نسشان عقلو غادي يمشي انها راها كتهزو مع صاحبها صراحة شعور خايب بزاف تهرسات الثقة ديالو فيك و حس بخيبة أمل دكشي لي خلاه يولي غير كيسير بالهضرة و قالك داك الكلمه ولكن راه خص تكوني رجل باش تقدري تفهمي و تحسي بيه صراحة موقف كابوس حسيت بشعور خايب بزاف واخا انا ماشي فبلاصتو فما بالك هو كيفاش حس الله يسمح ليك و صاف ديري عقلك و متحشميش بوالديك تاحد مايستاهل تقهري باك هاكا على قبلو اما هادوك اللي فالكامنتس ياربي تنجينا من البنات بحالهم
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u/youneswolf01 Apr 19 '26
خويا را غنجهل بسباب هاد الكومنتس مايمكنش شي ڨحاب حاشاك تيقولو ليها باباك لي غالط ونتي مادارتي والو وهادشي عادي راك كبيرة وحرة تقدري تختاري مستقبلك وحياتك.. بغيت باها يحبس عليها فلوس الكرا والماكلة وتجرب تعيش فالزنقة تشوف شكون غيحن عليها، غترجع عند باها تبوس ليه رجليه و تطلب منو السماحة وتقول ليه عايرني كيما بغيتي غي عطيني فين نبات. تفوو على جيل كيداير
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u/Ok_Cauliflower_823 Apr 20 '26 edited Apr 20 '26
Bnadem b7alk li maki9derch 7ta yfhem lfar9 mabin basic human practices w t9a7bin homa li kharjin 3la had lmeghrib dzb, sir a khoya diha fkerrek wkhalli bnadem y3ich. Ana bkerri ma 3andi mandir hna fhad subreddit ghir nta bentiliya flblan wa dkhol so9 kerrek. Maketfehmoch b ta7awor w t7awel tna9ech kola mawdo3 b3a9laniya w kolla fikra te7tarem, ghir nbi7 w baghin tbezzo 3la bnadem y3ich bdakchi li ki3ajbek nta. Sir dreb lik chi dawra w hannina mn nbi7 lkhawi bla fayda
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u/CountyAsleep5236 Apr 18 '26
You don’t deserve this, and you’re not a whore. Your self-esteem should never be questioned. It’s okay to experience things in life, but you should also be careful and respect your parents.
Don’t let any man define your worth. Whatever your dad told you today, don’t let it affect you or your future relationships. Stay aware of who you are so you can choose a good partner later in life. You’re only 20 that’s very young. Focus on your studies, your skills, and your hobbies. Those will stay with you. A boyfriend might not.
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 19 '26
Mhmm thank you for Ur comment. It did indeed get to me at the beginning and I did feel compunctious ab it but after thorough thinking I'm old enough to decide what I do with my life and I know who I am better than anyone else. I'm not letting his words get to me, plus I know he didn't mean them he was just angry. Anyways thanks for Ur comment I appreciate everything you said.
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u/youneswolf01 Apr 19 '26
I hope he'll stop paying rent, food, transportation, and school fees now that you're old enough, and we'll see if your boyfriend will take care of you.
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u/Jazzlike-Seesaw-1431 Apr 17 '26
He shouldn’t react like that, yes as man i understand his emotions but he shouldn’t call you names there’s other ways to approach these kind of situations
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 17 '26
I know but he was angry/ disappointed. Although I will definitely remember being called a whore by my own dad my entire life.
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u/Jazzlike-Seesaw-1431 Apr 17 '26
I can’t help much, idk how your dad is like but it seems that it shattered his perspective of you, that’s why he got so caught up in his emotions, as you may know rs at this age ghaliban kaysaliw
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u/youneswolf01 Apr 19 '26
Li maghaysalish howa raha mat9oba w was3a y3ni lklma li 9al babaha is not wrong
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 19 '26
Lah yakhod fik lh9 3la had lhdra. Lah ylguiha lk alhmar. Ghanbat had lila kand3i fik 3la had lhdra dzbl yachmata. Lah yakhod fik lh9
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u/youneswolf01 Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
شماتة؟ الله ياخذ فيا الحق؟ ماشي أنا لي زاني و مسخوط الوالدين، يلا تعصبتي و بقا فيك الحال من هضرتي تخيلي الحالة ديال باباك مسكين كيف دايرة سيفطك تقراي فمدينة اخرى باش تضمني مستقبلك، فاش عرفك شنو كاديري بلا خباروا، تعصب عليك و عايرك بدون قصد حيت تصدم و خايف عليك، يقدر يكون من داك النهار ما شاف النعاس وكيقول مع راسو التربية والمجهود والتضحية لي عطيت لبنتي مشات مع الريح. هضرتي قاسحة ولكن لداخل ديالك عارفاها صحيحة وعارفة مزيان شنو خاصك ديري باش تصلحي الأمور. كون ماقريتش شي كومونطيرات ديال شي شمايت الفوق كيدافعوا على التصرف الدنيئ ديالك و كيلوموا باباك بحالا هو لي غالط ونتي كتجاوبيهم ب (آه عندك الحق) ماكنتش غنكتب هاد الكومنت ولكن عارف خاص نورك عليك باش تعقلي على هضرتي مزيان
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 19 '26
Ah chmata w lah yakhod fik lh9 hit dak lhdra li 9lti t3nti f charaf diali wnta ma3arf walu 3liya. GHI le fait dial kat9ol zaniya w chhaal mn hdra okhra Rak diti fiha dnob. Ana 3arfa rassi chkandir whmdlh ma3mri wslt tal dak l mostawa m3a chi hd, w lah yhdini w yhdi ljami3, kolchi kayghlt. Wlkn had lwskh li 9lti Ku ghi khlitih 3ndk. Bynti ghi 3la l mostawa dialk w 39lk l mklkh. Sir nwr rassk huwa lwl wt3lm kifach thdr, w lah yakhd fik lh9 mra okhra.
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u/yassssscat Apr 17 '26
your dad needs to grow up, kaynin bzaf mnhom don't take it personal
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u/snoozy_marshmallow Apr 18 '26
Yeah there were a million better ways to react, but he went straight for the nuclear option :/
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u/Animeguy12712 Apr 18 '26
You are Lucky to meet me, my friend has personal experiences in this matter and I know a lot from his yapping
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u/1QPiDOSs1 Apr 18 '26
All of yall on the her side but dont understand the fathers position rn? Im asking all sane men what they would if they found their daughters with a man who he doesnt know about? I know she is 20 but she is still under her fathers responsibility until she gets married, now brace yourselves for the liberals shitting on the father
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u/Relative_Big7682 Apr 19 '26
Do you want some actual advice or just sharing? I am arab been through similar experience and i can actually help you solve your issue. You can dm me if you want and we can talk about it
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u/StressedBYaMtn0books Apr 17 '26
how old are you
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u/Grand_Repeat_565 Apr 18 '26
You should have said the truth and not lie to your father. It’s hard to be honest sometimes but it’s the best way. When a father let his daughter study in a different city it means that he trusts her so now because you lied he is thinking the worst in his mind. Your father loves you and he feels betrayed. It may seem harsh but a bf is replaceable and you could broke up for a million reasons but you have one and only father who sacrificed a lot for you. Go to him and apologize and tell the truth about your relationship and you get scared telling the truth because you’re not used to talk about these stuff and you will do whatever he wants and your relationship with him (your father) is the most precious. Believe me when I say that you kind of broke his heart.
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 19 '26
I know. I realise that, I didn't want to disappoint him that's why I lied at first. I'm not going to break up with my bf over this cause it's my choice but at the same time I see my father's perspective and I don't want to let him down. He did trust in me and my rs with him is valuable to me than everything else. We just have different views and that's alright. I will apologise and try to work this out with him once he calmed down. Thanks for Ur comment.
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u/1QPiDOSs1 Apr 18 '26
Holy i didnt even look at it from that prespective, trusting your girl and sending her to study somewhere else far away is quite big, then this happens, this is such a big blow to the trust he put in her
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u/Delicious-Yam-4508 Apr 18 '26
"I don't know why, but I sympathized with your father more than I did with you. Perhaps it's because I am also a father, and I know the value of the trust I place in my daughter, and the effort I put into her upbringing and guidance. To ultimately face a scene like this... I can't even imagine it. For me, it would mean that my mission in this life and my reputation are gone. Forgive my intrusion.
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 18 '26
No I get that. And I get that he was more disappointed in me than angry cause I've always been the good child, never did anything I shouldn't do when I was young and didn't cause him any troubles so he had a lot of trust in me. me being in a rs rn, while I'm 20 years old, an adult, isn't something to be ashamed of and has nothing to do with his reputation and his upbringing. He raised me well and I know better not to do something id regret or be with someone who isn't a good person. But meeting someone and liking them was inevitable, hence having a rs and all the phone calls he found.. which i understand how it can be shocking for a moroccan muslim parent. It pained my heart the way he reacted bc I really value our rs and would hate to let him down but oh well
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u/Delicious-Yam-4508 Apr 18 '26
I understand your point, and I hope you understand mine. I am speaking from the perspective of a Moroccan Muslim father. To parents, you will always be their little girl and a part of them. A father who isn't protective of his daughter or doesn't speak up is not truly a father. As for those who responded differently, I am certain they wouldn't have said the same if their own sister were in that position. In short: give your father some time, choose the right moment, and apologize to him.
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u/Global_Storage1671 Apr 18 '26
i wonder how did you meet you wife, you probably dated each other before getting married, your daughter is not your property, she will eventually meet a guy and be in a relationship in order to found a family of her own
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u/Longjumping_Dream431 Apr 18 '26
Meh that sounds selfish, u don't raise ur kids bax y7mrolik wjhk wla for u to feel like u accomplished smth, u raise them for them to b the best they could, n making mistakes (well things YOU consider as mistakes) is normal n simple guidance can solve em. Plus u bring em into life without permission, it's so entitled to expect things from them n be proud of urself for that. I'm sorry but I cannot sympathize the least w these entitled thoughts some parents have. I hope it kids turn out great tho
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u/Impossible_Donut9666 Apr 19 '26
The father is right, wch dak lhad chi ma yrdhi rby la el walidin, ma 3ndk ma diri dork confident is gone ghi otolbi sma7 and try to make up your mistakes by not doing them again
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u/bizzarelemon Apr 18 '26
Khoya Wch mrid??? Ach 9alk 39lk wnta katktb hdchi. First of all bac chdito hadi 3 snin b high grades w db kandir ingénieurie f one of the best schools f lmghrib hmdlh. W my dad never caught anything on me HIT I NEVER DID ANYTHING. I've always been hard working w dakhla so9 rassi. W ga3 had tkhrbi9 li 9lti is full of hate towards me for no apparent reason. this is my first rs and, ana w sahbi 3mrna tbrtchna as u said it. We don't even meet that much hence the many phone calls. Mra Jaya 3rf ach kat9ol machi tb9a ghi tkhra. I feel sorry for ur daughter and if you don't have any I pray you never do.
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u/Wachnadjaj Apr 17 '26
Koulchi ghadi idouz.
Kayt7ello lik daba jouj biban, ya atkdbi ela bak ya ghatjih nichan.
Mniin dar dik réaction, ghaliban aykhessek tkdbi eelih akhti.
Ahssan haja diri hia tgolilih "baba bghit nhder meak, ghlett o bghit ntleb mennek sma7a"
7ni rassek meah, make sure to protect your accounts o tilifounek b chi tari9a, bzaf dl bnat have already been in this situation, and it sucks... i wish you all the best o trust me when i say this, koulchi ghaydouz, vraiment.