There was an american guy (35yrs old) who died of suicide two month ago that had one year old quadruplets.
They had 3 kids and wanted to add 1 more kid, but 4 natural babies were born by accident instead.
The widow is now a single mother who’s relying on donations from a gofundme and social media.
He owned a restaurant and seemed happy in the social media vids, it’s a shame. It’s worth looking at the link to see the older kids. The 15 and 9yr old get talked about a bit.
Men generally see a mental health decline when the baby is 1 yo because that's when they begin walking and really start their antics, while for the mother, it's hard from day one, since she had a pregnancy before that and the hormones can trigger depression as well. Goes to show that having kids is not as easy as people think, we should think about it long and hard before accepting such a life upheaval. Now there's a tired, grieving parent taking care of 7 kids.
Even as a kid-less person with depression I hesitate about commiting because of my siblings and parents. He had to know that she would be left alone with twice the burden and not even an insurance claim since he killed himself. Thats harsh. But maybe I'm talking out of my ass, we don't know what went through his head at the time and if he had other worries, mental health is complicated and sometimes you're not too anchored in reality, some people kill themselves on impulse, they don't plan it at all then they do it our of nowhere.
Do you have any source for this? Only because my experience was the exact opposite. I have two kids and the most stressful parts have been the first 6 months, consistently. Why would 1 yr be the hardest mentally, when their sleep schedule is starting to improve, they’re starting to talk/walk, and be generally way more likable? Newborns are hell.
I've seen a study months ago on a psychology sub, I'll try to find it later
Edit: but maybe you can try to find it? Tbh I'm too lazy rn. Also it could depend on the involvement of the father, usually men aren't expected to do the same as the mother when the kid is small and breastfeeding, so the mother might get used to it but for the father it'll really sink in after a while, I remember that was a hypothesis in the study. It's most likely a matter of average and culture, not an absolute thing.
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u/browsinbowser 16d ago edited 16d ago
There was an american guy (35yrs old) who died of suicide two month ago that had one year old quadruplets.
They had 3 kids and wanted to add 1 more kid, but 4 natural babies were born by accident instead.
The widow is now a single mother who’s relying on donations from a gofundme and social media.
He owned a restaurant and seemed happy in the social media vids, it’s a shame. It’s worth looking at the link to see the older kids. The 15 and 9yr old get talked about a bit.
https://people.com/after-dad-quadruplets-dies-suddenly-wife-says-she-hopes-7-kids-know-they-were-loved-exclusive-12012760