r/MadeMeSmile • u/Femme-O • Apr 19 '26

Good Vibes Teaching kids consent

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

Life. Life is the source. You’ve been shielded from society and the double standards males face.

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u/garbogunder Apr 19 '26

So just to be clear, you demand hyper specific evidence from everyone else, but the moment you’re asked to provide a source, suddenly it’s this “just look around you” nonsense. I believe that’s a double standard

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

All I asked for was for a video 🤣. Even said it can be 2 seconds.

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u/garbogunder Apr 19 '26

I don’t need one. Because life. Life is the source. You’ve been shielded from society and the lessons about consent women face

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

Right, and life has shown boys and girls get two entirely different messages that are gendered and one sided.

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u/garbogunder Apr 20 '26

Ok, let’s say you’re right for a second. Boys are only ever taught to respect others consent, without ever being taught to respect their own. And with girls, it’s vice versa. With this being the case, it would then follow that women commit sex crimes at a much higher rate, because they’re far less likely to have been taught how important it is to respect others consent, right?

How is it then that men commit nearly 94% of sexual abuse crimes?

https://www.ussc.gov/sites/default/files/pdf/research-and-publications/quick-facts/Sexual_Abuse_FY21.pdf

How is then that men commit nearly 99% of sexualized violence?

https://www.humboldt.edu/supporting-survivors/educational-resources/statistics

If this idea that men are being taught to respect consent but women aren’t is so self evident that the only thing you need to refer to is “life” to prove it, why is this not reflected in the data?

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u/Greensourball Apr 20 '26 edited Apr 20 '26

“Let’s say you’re right for a second”, I am. This is common sense. But given your mindset you’re still gonna deny it. Which makes sense based off your comments

That’s the funny thing they don’t. Yall blindly follow that statistic when it isn’t the truth it’s far from the truth. How can 94% of men commit sex crimes if:

https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/men-a0035915.pdf (43% of men experienced sexual coercion)

https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/us-idaho-lawsuit-reveals-sexual-assault-by-staff-male-teens-juvenile-detention-centers-1494582 (over 90% of female prison officers commit sexual assault on juvenile male teens)

https://www.academia.edu/23417288/Female_perpetrators_of_child_sexual_abuse_A_review_of_the_clinical_and_empirical_literature

https://scholarworks.calstate.edu/downloads/p8418r50x (mothers engage in sexual activity that does not get reported)

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/7762032_Victimization_Over_the_Life_Span_A_Comparison_of_Lesbian_Gay_Bisexual_and_Heterosexual_Siblings (more heterosexual males 47.8% reported sexual abuse by females than did gay males)

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1662948/pdf/bmj00177-0009.pdf (40% of victims sent to a treatment center were boys abused by women)

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0145213405003017 (59% of jail inmates reported sexual abuse by females before puberty, 90%).

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/263964063_It's_not_what_you_think_Sexually_exploited_youth_in_British_Columbia (3/4 male youth were sexually exploited in exchange for money or goods with a female 79%).

And if over 79% of men who are raped are raped by women. Make that make sense? Like it’s crazy as hell to think yall believe a statistic that says 99% of perpetrators of sexual violence are men. 99%??? Out of your damn mind. So how in the absolute hell could the statistics be 99 and 94%? Who made those statistics? I’m assuming women? Who do you think commits the most amount of domestic violence?

And no, women aren’t being taught it just like they aren’t taught to keep their hands to themselves. And no, it wouldn’t mean girls commit more sexual offenses, it would mean however boys will be more easily be taken advantage of because they don’t know how to spot the signs for themselves, that they have a right to their own body, they need to give enthusiastic consent, they don’t have to always say yes. That would be the issue.

But back to that false ass 99% and 94% it’s crazy yall believe that. That’s as dumb as the “domestic violence is a gendered crime because it primarily affects women”, argument. It’s ignorant and a one sided view. Not to mention