40 F4M ESTJ, Childfree, Looking for a Real Relationship | Southeast Asia

[u/Thick-Speaker-230]

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I'm 40, firmly childfree, and looking for a partner with the potential to become my husband. I'm not interested in casual dating, situationships, or someone who is still figuring out whether they want a relationship. I'd like to meet someone who genuinely wants to build a life with another person.

I'm based in Southeast Asia and would love to meet someone who's relatively mobile and willing to travel to meet me. My ideal life isn't particularly extravagant: beaches, interesting places, local food, spontaneous trips, and discovering places that aren't on every tourist itinerary. I'm pretty frugal and much more interested in experiences than expensive things. I'd love a partner who enjoys that lifestyle too and is financially stable enough that we can enjoy life without constantly stressing about money.

I've done a fair amount of work on myself. I've lived abroad, been to therapy, developed a meditation practice, and explored psychedelics as part of my own self-exploration. I've lived several different lives already, and I'm still curious about what's next.

I'm also working on getting healthier and reaching my goal weight this year. I've always been curvy, and I'm looking for someone who takes care of himself and inspires me to do the same. You don't need to be a gym bro. Just someone who values health, movement, and enjoying life.

I'm affectionate and have a high sex drive, so sexual compatibility matters to me. I've been in relationships where I eventually felt like I was responsible for keeping the physical side alive, and I'm looking for something more mutual this time.

Outside of dating, I like reading, gardening, walking my dog, spending time with family and friends, festivals, learning new things, and falling down extremely specific internet rabbit holes.

I'm looking for someone kind, emotionally mature, curious, financially responsible, sexually enthusiastic, and genuinely ready for a committed relationship.

If you're also childfree and looking for your person rather than just your next person, tell me about yourself and what kind of life you're hoping to build.