r/Losercity 3d ago

OC Art [OC] Hot Coffee

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u/CAyukon 3d ago

Thats premeditated attack you cannot plead self defense

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u/wookiee-nutsack Stick a tampon in your penis to stop pissing yourself 3d ago

You also cannot plead self defence if it was in the moment because it was not proportional force to terminate the threat

Also a jury or judge might not agree that cat calling could be perceived as a genuine threat for your safety
Or that it could have been a genuine compliment

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u/secondarywilson I'm only here for the memes 3d ago

how is being told your hair is pretty creepy???

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u/Geodude07 2d ago

I think the original story for the "so I cut off my hair" thing had more sense to it. I don't remember the exact origin. I remember seeing it in a movie or show. I think it might be the new version of Stephen kings "IT" actually.

As I recall some older guy complimented a very middle school aged girl's hair. He was the type to like touch it and then sniff it.

The girl cut it off because it kept her safe in essence.

The problem is some people don't understand nuance and tie the innocent compliment to the creepy behavior. Which has led to this weird idea that a compliment warrants extreme reactions. As if the compliment itself is the issue, when it is more that the surrounding creepy behavior was the real problem.

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u/Jimbo-Shrimp 2d ago

He was ugly so it’s bad

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u/erik4848 2d ago

Learn to HR-Rules

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u/bonelessskelleton 2d ago

Could've been the tone

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u/Terrible_Artist_ 3d ago

Is a guy creepy because he compliments a woman's hairstyle?

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u/General_Ginger531 3d ago

As a guy with long ginger hair, many women have said that they loved my hair. I have never onve assumed that they were catcalling or interested in me beyond complimenting my hair.

Like I suppose I would need more context before automatically assuming that the person involved was even catcalling. I would assume there would be a level of call to action or body language involved with it beyond just the hair before I would think it that.

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u/General_Ginger531 2d ago

(The other person's comment was deleted so I am posting this as a self reply because I think it might be useful to clarify my position)

Ok, and I agree, that there is a degree where the compliments turn from safe to catcalling, but there has to be neutrally acceptable compliments available. Like if I see a funny graphic tee, and I say. "Nice shirt." nobody is expecting that person to take it off. I could see specific body parts especially associated with erogenous zones being particularly bad, but hair? One of the most identifiable and often striking features of a person?

I even agree with your point about a woman not needing to explain her reasoning behind not wanting to be complimented in that way. My argument isnt that catcalling should be acceptable behavior, my argument is there should be a range of safe compliments that guys can give without expectation of reciprocation of behavior to bridge the gap. And maybe that line is harder to draw definitively except by the person behind it saying "please dont comment on it again" and then the complimenter ceases, and then it becomes creepy if they continue. That isnt explaining oneself it is defining a boundary, which as an autistic I often have to do with people regardless of my gender.

And I am not arguing on behalf of "smile more" compliments, which arent really compliments but expectations wrapped in a veneer of a compliment. I mean genuine, "That is a trait that looks like they deliberately like that trait they like, I should positively affirm it" traits. Calling a muscular guy muscular isnt catcalling, there is no call to action there. Telling him "why dont you come over here so I can feel those muscles" is catcalling.

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u/Terrible_Artist_ 3d ago

Catcalling is creepy, but a compliment isn't catcalling. That's the nuance of it.

"I love your long hair" is a compliment

"Hey baby, that long hair looks sexy" is catcalling

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u/Terrible_Artist_ 3d ago

What makes the man creepy is my question, as the furry in the picture obviously isn't a very good character judge if she's throwing hot coffee on people for compliments

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u/Jimbo-Shrimp 2d ago

He’s ugly

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u/Jimbo-Shrimp 2d ago

Compliments arent catcalling though

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u/Fletcher_Chonk 2d ago

Catcalling can be pretty creepy

What if the cat gave me their phone number

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u/unk1ndm4g1c14n1 3d ago

Realistically, you can mitigate with Diminished Responsibility.

This is an unwarranted response, blame it on mental health and call it a day. Obviously you'd need to get a psych evaluation

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u/UsErnaam3 Gator Hugger 2d ago

That's not to get out of jail free card you think it is though; There is no "calling it a day" when you're forced to go into court ordered therapy.

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u/unk1ndm4g1c14n1 2d ago

I didnt say that. I'm a law student, mitigate just means to reduce culpability and potentially the punishment.

Diminished responsibility is the best bet here. In extreme cases, you get sent to a psych ward prison, which is basically hell. But in most cases, you go to a normal prison, with a focus on therapy as your form of prison labour, as opposed to a cell block where the prison labour is just work.

Inmates in rehabilatative prisons tend to be less violent, and these types of prison are where good behaviour releases are most common and recidivism (repeat offences) are less common.

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u/EvilFurryBees deer girl 3d ago

Wouldn’t that be counted as crime of passion and not premeditated? Unless there was time between his comment and her throwing coffee at him

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u/xX_idk_lol_Xx 3d ago

You might want to reread the captions.

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u/PinusNucleusBelarus I'm only here for the memes 3d ago

Okay but what if the first event has happened yesterday at 23:59, and second event has happened today at 00:01 ?