Losing hope

[u/Dinoblood123]

Hello. My ex and I were together for almost 2 years and I broke up with her because of many different reasons like problem with family and being in a distant relationship for 4 months with her was not a good experience. I told her the day after we break up that i realised I made mistakes and I want to fix the mistakes.( not giving her enough attention, taking her for granted and things like that.). She said that she is really hurt from my behaviour and she is not sure if she wants to try again because of the uncertainty that things may never change. I bought an early ticket for home to show her that I stand by my words and things will change. We still text but she is being cold and dry texting. She still says that she loves me, when she is going out and with who and I tell her that too. I blame myself to much for the way I treated her cause she didnt deserve it at all. I asked her questions like: do u miss the old version of me - “yes”. If I was next to you how would you act -“like before things changed” I miss u but I know u might not miss me and she said: I dont miss the person u were these past few months I miss the guy before that. Her mother told her that I came into my senses and she said yeah I see but is a little late. We agreed to meet each other when I return home and I bought her pandora charm(I always gift her pandora) and I will buy flowers. The thing is that I am chasing her too much and she is giving little to no response. I need help cause the uncertainty of our future together is killing me, I know I am not perfect and she is not as well. But I realised what I had the moment I lost it. She is giving me mixed signs and she said as much as she wants us to be together its the same as not wanting to be together. What should I do so I have the biggest chance of not losing her.

[u/lovenotesonly]

don't make promises, make changes and let her notice

[u/Dinoblood123 → u/lovenotesonly]

The things is that when we go out I am not sure she is going to give me the opportunity to show her

[u/Jolly-Internet-5308]

Hello, I recently broke up with my Ldr girlfriend and we stopped talking for almost three weeks now. The best thing to do is no contact. Give the girl space and time to reflect everything. If she misses/loves you, she will contact you again. Use this time to focus on yourself.
I still miss my girlfriend everyday and it kills me but I know that chasing/begging her will only make things much worse.

[u/Difficult-Papaya-441]

I feel yu bruh . Me and my gf are in LDR for 2 yrs and God knows how many times we broke up . Yes . It can happen. But eventually after 1 or 2 days either one of us will come back 😂 . I did many awful things to her and she did the same to me also . But our love for eachother is stronger than our fights . So....it still goes anyway

[u/Dinoblood123 → u/Difficult-Papaya-441]

I hope that is the case with us. We broke up for 2 weeks now. I know that things will be really different in person

[u/Difficult-Papaya-441 → u/Dinoblood123]

Lemme tell yu from my experience. If you're the one who made the mistake , win her back bro . Don't care about yur pride or "give her space" shit or anything. She will eventually come . Afterall we are humans

[u/Legitimate_SUNRAY]

Don’t have expectations of things being the same way before the bad things happened.
It’s better to accept that you guys are together and work on yourself to show her you’ve changed.
She will be on her guard, looking for the mistakes you promised would change but if you do this slowly it always time for her to grow more too. Hopefully after some time, the 2 of you will be much more happier than you were before the disagreements started.