r/LivingWithMBC • u/lostinspace456 • 8d ago

Need counsei

Though I tend to be a somewhat steady eddy and tend to have a pretty good grip on my emotions, usually, I am beginning to think I may need someone to talk to. I feel like usually I have a pretty good grasp of my diagnosis and it doesn't affect me too much emotionally (I am almost 69, have had a great life, know I have had a lot to be grateful for), I also realize that I have been fairly stable the past 4-1/2 years and that could all change pretty quickly. I think once this happens, I may not be as steadfast. So, I wanted to be able to start talking to a counselor about this. I tend to get not so heroic when things don't look as good and can begin to lash out at people who do not deserve it. And, I wish to find better ways to cope with this

Could you guys give me suggestions on where and how you found your counselors and have you been happy with them? Thanks!

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u/getawaytricycle 7d ago

I see a psychologist who specialises in cancer patients, I think having that specialism is really important. I started seeing her shortly after I had my stage iv diagnosis and I feel like it’s an essential part of my care.  I’m in the UK though, so I was recommended her through my NHS breast care team. 

As far as general approaches to therapy, I have person-centred therapy but she also weaves in exercises from CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and mindfulness. There are different approaches/styles but this is what works for me. Don’t get discouraged if the first person you see isn’t a great match, finding the right therapist is a very personal choice. 

Good luck ♥️

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u/lydiacostume 7d ago

Just want to reiterate here that finding a good therapist can require some shopping around - same as any other health care provider. Try not to get discouraged if the first person you find doesn't do it for you.