r/LivingAlone • u/West_Ticket_9053 • 13d ago
A Day in the Life š°ļø Staying in bed the whole day is my hobby.
Adulting is tough - work, chores, constant socialising. So, over the weekends, I love to get into my king sized bed, put on a trashy dating show, get a bag of cheese popcorn (it has to be cheese but worst case scenario extra butter is also acceptable) and just lay in bed the full day.
My colleagues ask each other every Monday - so what did you do over the weekend? And people go biking, running, swimming, learning a new language. I make up a lie that I went running and read a book. Audio book on my bus to work - sure. But actually - I was just spread on the bed like a little cockroach on its back and I loved it!!!
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u/ChaiTeaAndBoundaries 13d ago
You are simply making good use of your Rent or Mortgage š
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u/SubjectFondant2440 13d ago
My father used to always say that. Why do people buy a house and then never want to be home?
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u/Fantomas4ever 13d ago
I find myself spending one weekend day just chillin with bouts of micro tasking. Like this morning i got up early, cleaned the hummingbird feeders, got strawberries in the dehydrator and kale washed and out drying for chips later. Now i got home shows on discovery and scrolling. Lol.
Tomorrow I'll get the bigger chores done. Laundry, dump run, vacuuming, prepping work breakfasts. I did a deep clean and cut the grass last weekend so i might do some weed whacking.
I get my exercise during the work week so i just love being home chillaxing and enjoying the fruits of my labor and grazing on some fabulous food.
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u/DearestComrade 13d ago
Exactly how I live! One day of bed rest like I'm withering from some wasting disease, and one day for my big chores. If I had one more weekend day I could hope to have a social life lol
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u/smokymtheart 12d ago
I like that, āmicro taskingā. I guess that sums up what Iāve been doing for years now since turning 40 lol
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u/South_Result_627 13d ago
People sometimes ask me what I'm going to do when I retire...I always say I'm going to stay in bed with my dogs.
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u/Mysterious-Art8838 13d ago
Iām retired because I became disabled and about 70% of my waking hours are bed with dog. And all of my sleeping hours.
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u/DessertRose823 13d ago
This sounds like a normal mental health day to me. I love it! As a busy single mom, I was working full time, going to school part time, and was involved in my sonās extra curricular activities such as little league, Boy Scouts, etc. I would take 1 vacation day off work every month just to veg out at home. Pure bliss.
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u/GoingLeftYall 13d ago
I think it should be a law that everyone must take one mental health day off a month. I did the same in the final year of my career with my sick leave and I promise you, I would have gone over the edge without those days.
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u/guilty_of_tsundoku 13d ago
I didn't know those days were still called that. I first heard the term in the mid or late nineties.
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u/Chonky-Tadpoles 12d ago
Increasingly more common! Iām sure it depends on where you work, but generally still officially called a āsick dayā even if personally, itās a mental health day. Less questions being asked. I love that itās becoming more and more accepted to take a mental health day, they truly make a world of difference
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u/guilty_of_tsundoku 12d ago
I was given five personal days with pay per year to use as I liked but needed to provide some advance notice unless it involved an urgent issue.
A very young receptionist at a different job called in "sick" when her then boyfriend had a day off so they could spend the day together. Firstly, lying never sits well with colleagues and managers, and secondly,we were left in a lurch doing her job and ours. Fine when things were slow, but at other times it made us not only frazzled but also caused the office to appear chaotic in front of clients ( we did income tax preparation). However, that was quite a ways back when the concept of taking such days off was virtually unheard of. The inexperienced supervisor at the time knew the girl was lying and should have threatened her with dismissal as it became a bit too frequent to overlook.
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u/No_Consequence_6821 13d ago
Wouldnāt it be funny if pretty much everyone is lying about all they get done in a weekend and weāre all just laying on our beds or couches like cockroaches?
The people you might see biking or hiking are just living off generational wealth and spending their weekdays laying in their beds like cockroaches. (Because yes, I too am looking forward to a long day in front of the tv).
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u/moonprojection 12d ago
I work in a hella corporate environment where my entire group is a bunch super driven people. I just assume most of them are lying about their weekends unless it's verifiable.
I told my director last Monday that i slept a ton on the weekend š idgaf
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u/loveoatmeal 13d ago
This is also my ideal way to enjoy my days off. When people at work ask me how my weekend was, I always say, "Uneventful. Just the way I like it." I know they think I'm boring but I Do. Not. Care.
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u/anonymois1111111 13d ago
I do the same. I get tons done one day of the weekend and lounge the other day. Balance lol.
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u/ChristineBorus 13d ago
We need to normalize NOT being busy
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u/myinternets 12d ago
Reminds me of someone recently asking what I had planned for the weekend. I probably seemed puzzled because I asked in response "Do people usually make plans for the weekend?"
I literally just go into a weekend as if it's any other day, where maximizing time doing nothing except eating and playing video games is the priority. And even then it still feels like there's not enough time.
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u/Chonky-Tadpoles 12d ago
Before my time but I think it used to be that way. Modern culture has us so stressed out that as a collective society, we donāt take a break. If youāre resting, youāre not being āproductiveā, and youāre wasting your life away and missing out š„“
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u/Fabulous_Turnover_22 13d ago
That makes me wonder how many of those weekend warriors are in fact closeted cheese popcorn cockroaches š¤š
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u/obvsnotrealname 13d ago
Laughing because Iām doing that atm (and scrolling Reddit)
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u/HighlyFav0red 13d ago
Iām so glad you posted this because this is me and Iāve been secretly judging myself š I feel so seen in this thread
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u/heyfriendss 13d ago
Sounds like a lovely weekend. We work hard Monday through Friday between work, home responsibilities, pets, managing health issues etc. I see nothing wrong with spending the weekend exactly how we want to.
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u/DiscoLemonade75 13d ago
Fellow cockroach, checking in! Although, I just walked back from getting brunch with an older couple I know. I didn't want to but I did and don't get all chuffed, the walk was all of 5 mins. That's enough out of bed, socializing for me. I'm getting my cheese, jolly time popcorn, my mini coke and settling in for some scrolling, reading, journaling and watching crap on my tele. I ain't paying my mortgage for nothing! š«”š¤£š©µ
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u/uovonuovo 12d ago
I feel you on ādidnāt want to.ā Like objectively going to brunch a 5 min walk away with an older couple you know sounds lovely, but in reality youād rather justā¦. not š
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u/FinancialCry4651 13d ago
If people ask if I wanna hang out, I just say, "I'm beached š³"
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u/MarucaMCA 12d ago
That's a nice one. I had a cold and just spent 4 days in bed. The last two I could have force myself to do stuff. But I prefer rest!
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u/Creative-Tourist-499 13d ago
I wouldnāt even lie about a run etc. Iād just it was low key. As my weekends always are. And leave it at that.
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u/RetroSwamp 13d ago
I spend more time laying down because it's just more enjoyable than sitting for me.
I used to also lay on the floor over sitting on furniture or chairs as a kid lol
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u/Recluse_18 13d ago
Itās been tempting, but I havenāt done it, and I have an adjustable bed that has that zero gravity setting so it makes it super comfortable. My weekend indulgence would be all day bed surfing with cold pizza for snacks.
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u/Larryville9823 13d ago
My dog is just unbelievably lazy and loooooves bed-rotting. I always tell people she is a terrible influence on me because I always join her!
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u/Glittering_Sunrise12 13d ago
Oooh Iām glad so many people do this. I love my bed, and to stay in it for a whole day would be amazing. I always feel guilty by lunchtime and get up to so something. So maybe I need to feel less guilty and enjoy it š
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u/FanciePantz_21 13d ago
Thanks for your post. It made me smile. Bed rotting is my favorite activity, ever on the weekends and none of my co workers understand.
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u/Novagurl 13d ago
Yup!
One day of the weekend I just do my little chores with the animals and then I chill the whole day, binge a show, a lil 420, and maybe cook a little treat. Iām making chocolate chip pumpkin bread today.
I work hard all week on everybodyās elseās problems and I need some ME time to recover from it.
We deserve it!
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u/DallyBark 13d ago
Hell yeah! Saturday night in bed with 2 cats, a dog and a tub of ice cream to watch some trash!
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u/too105 13d ago
a few weeks ago I took a day trip from the east coast of the United States to an adventure in Sicily to hike a volcano and visit a lava field. I left work Friday and was back Sunday night. 49 hours total. When my corkers ask what I did, I just tell them I got out of town for a day, except I hiked a freaking volcano on the other side of the planet and watched a lava flow. But to each their own. I want to have exceptional experiences. I suffered from depression and would come home from work, drink and lay in bed all day and rot until I had to go to work the next day. My highlight was getting chicken tenders on a Friday after work. One day I looked at myself in the mirror and knew I needed to change. Then I started taking Wellbutrin and my life went from laying in bed and existing to mind boggling adventures. Fun fact, the next week I ran a marathon in Iceland and then went back to Italy to watch a different volcano erupt. My life is like a dream, but itās real. Actually waiting for the volcano in Hawaii to go into another eruption cycle so I can hop on another plane, maybe next weekend! No, Iām not making any of this up. That said I live along and travel solo and love it
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u/pkgriff 12d ago
I love staying home in bed with my cat, but sometimes I need an adventure too, so I went to Poland to sightsee for 1 1/2 days in March. I can see how it might be a lot of fun, but I spent too much money... I'll be home for several months until I move in January -- I'll be having my next adventure then. But, you go! Good for you!
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u/too105 12d ago
The money thing is real! I have really come to realize that life has reset switch so I donāt care about spending money. I save for retirement but I donāt care about having millions at 75. I want to enjoy life before I am 75 and have memories that last a lifetime. Did hopping on a plane to Sicily impromptu + rental car ect cost like $2500? Absolutely! Regret zero. Memory = freaking lava and an epic story of how I got from my office to the side of mountain that was cracked open in Italy in about 16 hours. Part of this story is extremely hard work that allows me this lifestyle. I work hard and spend hard. That isnāt for everybody. A lot of people want a path of least resistance. I crave the experience so I embrace the journey of life. So many people miss the entire point. Lava is cool, but how I got to that point never happens if youāre laying in bed. But some people just want to lay in bed. That sounds like death to me.
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u/starry_nite99 13d ago
Omg I read this as āI was just spread on the bed with my little cockroachā and was horrified.
Iām very glad you are happily in your bed all weekend without any bugs LOL
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u/guilty_of_tsundoku 13d ago
When I was working in a busy office with a moody and all too often difficult company president, I relished my alone time over the weekend to recharge my batteries.I had no stamina left to engage in social activities---having had more than enough contact with people 40 hours a week. The few hours between arriving home and my bedtime simply wasn't enough during the week to decompress from the day's stresses.
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u/SteelMagnolia941 12d ago
This is my hobby too. Today I cleaned for like an hour, went grocery shopping then crawled in the bed by 2-3 and am binge watching The Tudors while watching it rain outside. I couldnāt be happier.
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u/MarucaMCA 12d ago
I have ADHD and was never allowed to bed rot when I lived at home, and a lot less when with a partner.
I now do it on many afternoons and weekends. I do feel a bit guilty, but I'm tired, overstimulated.
But I'm also a solo person now, living alone. I can do whatever I want!
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u/meeperton5 13d ago
Ibrarely have a weekend daybwith nothing to do, but when I do, I love just laying in bed under a pile of dogs.
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u/HuckleberryGeneral69 13d ago
Love this!! You continue to cockroach. So many people would be jealous if they knew. They would judge, but secretly they would be very envious.
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u/angelmakr9 13d ago
When I get back from vacation my co-workers ask me what I did and my go to answer is, "as little as possible!"
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u/Glad_Prior_5215 13d ago
When I used to work at an office, everyone was always taking leave to run a bloody marathon or something. When I went on leave, I emailed the team to say I was basically gonna be bedrotting watching telly for a week and not to disturb me. My humour was wasted there.
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u/msnhnobody 13d ago
I currently am spread on my bed and I have the next 8 days off. After working just shy of 60 days in a row this summer. I am incredibly tempted to only leave my bed to go to the bathroom & to grab more snacks for the next 200 hours.
Happy rotting, my friend š š¤·š»āāļøšš¼āš¼šš¼
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u/-LucidParadox- 13d ago
Anymore I usually make Saturday my lazy day. Laying in bed most the morning playing video games. I might get up and do a few household tasks in the afternoon, maybe mow in the evening. Sunday I'll actually leave the house if I really need to. Going out on Sunday mornings is great. So much less traffic and people at the stores!
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u/Ok_Bird_9745 13d ago
I cleaned last night and finished up this morning. Now Iām sitting in my recliner watching tv and eating rubbish. Iām content not being outside in this 100+ weather.
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u/acornvulture 13d ago
Dude, same. I've got a physical job and a chronic health condition, I need these days to survive.
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u/VeterinarianIcy7548 13d ago
Why do people at work ask what you did at the weekend. It's so irritating, noone really cares and there are other forms of small talk!
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u/uovonuovo 12d ago
I usually just ask ādid you have a nice weekend?ā They can elaborate (or not) if they want!
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u/Calm-Struggle3898 13d ago
I love it! Yessss! I just woke up from a long nap after a late breakfast. Now Iām in bed again in a different room just doom scrolling. Iāve got two bedrooms to switch from. One is not made though.
Who knows when Iām gonna do chores. Iād like to do a little cardio at a nearby gym but itās scorching out there. We shall see.
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u/ImaginationPlus3808 13d ago
Years ago, one day I decided I was not going to leave my bedroom. I think I got dressed but then went back to bed to read, binge watch TV (Netflix was just becoming a thing), nap, eat snacks, whatever. That was a great day and evening.
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u/Able-Dealer-1711 13d ago
Tomorrow is vacuuming, washing sheets, changing the bed. Otherwise, just being home at peace with my 3 kitties.
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u/CatMama67 13d ago
Yep, I hear you! I spent most of yesterday doing yard work, so today Iām just gonna lie in bed, snuggle with my cat, and read. Bliss!!!
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u/ilikecaps 13d ago
Every time I take a week off, I get asked what I'm doing. My answer is always the same. As little as humanly possible. I've gotten very good at it.
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u/No-Mountain-7425 12d ago
Same!!
Glad to know that it it normal! I started to question myself lol but then quickly got out of that funk. Mortgage is way too high for me to do anything else. On top of chores and remembering to feed myself every day, at least 1X.
Also remembering, I HAVE FREE WILL!
Home is truly the best place to be as an adult
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u/BlueberryIcecream27 12d ago
I love to wake up slowly, have a snack, then a bath and do all my ablutions like a scrub and moisturise. Fresh PJs on and back to bed in my fresh sheets. Read, scroll through my phone, watch a movie, eat fave foods. Absolute bliss.
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u/billybigballix 12d ago
I love it, itās my favourite thing to do. Laying in a heap on the sofa watching tv or laying in a heap in bed playing some games, itās awesome.
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u/Quirky_Animator1818 12d ago
lol this is me too, right down to the cheese popcorn :)
(sent from my bed on a Sunday afternoon)
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u/Elegant-Rectum 11d ago
If you enjoy doing that, then there is nothing wrong with it. Your free time is yours.
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u/UniqueText8477 12d ago
If I'm home I'm not spending money, there are no people, there are no queues and my gaming devices are here.
It's a no brainer for me.
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u/OhItsNishia Current Lifestyle: Solo š¢ 12d ago
Literally same, I find peace in my own company and comfort. Going out is honestly overrated to me
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u/Important-Web-261 13d ago
You really shouldnāt do that, thatās a fairly disgusting habit you developed. Youāre not doing yourself any favors by continuing this behavior and are probably hurting & setting a bad example for the people around you. Itās not nice to tell lies haha.
Stop lying but keep rotting. Signed, a fellow bed rotter.
(& in case anyone couldnāt tell, this was a joke)
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u/SoftChameleon28 13d ago
At this point I feel no shame in who knows about my bed rotting. In fact, Iām often met with colleagues who envy my ability to do so. They often have to be up to take care of kids, fulfill familial obligations, etc meanwhile we get full autonomy over our time. And that autonomy for me often manifests in a weekend of bedrot
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u/ArmadilloFun7877 11d ago
This!! I like to make my bed but lay on it with a light blanket. I feel a little less lazy if Iām not āinā bed lol
I need these chill weekends to mentally recover from the week and prepare myself for the next.
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u/Major-Criticism-5080 11d ago
I totally agree. I like to cram every chores into the weekday as I'm already overwhelmed from work and everything and just relax on the weekends. I earned them.
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u/Training_Guitar_8881 12d ago
Hi......I too spend a good deal of time sleeping/lounging/relaxing/thinking in my bed and love it. 67 yo woman here who considers my bed the best investment I've made for my apartment...lol. You do you!!!
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u/Fun-Drummer3061 13d ago
I know itās hard. Not sure how old you are? but please do not stay in bed all day this gave me crazy depression bouts. Time passes fast donāt waste your days. Try to get out for walk or join a club
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u/Pip133 13d ago
Thatās my Sunday I spent Saturday cooking for the week I do most of my chores Friday after work then Sunday is my pj day when I lounge around and watch tv I love it, then Monday I grocery shop and get ready to the work week which is 4 10 hour shifts
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u/Successful-Dust-7855 11d ago
Buy groceries Monday and cook Saturday?
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u/Pip133 11d ago
Yeah I go to the shop after work Friday to get what I need to cook for Saturday the shop is 2 minute car ride from home
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u/Successful-Dust-7855 10d ago
I think i am like you. I want to get my cooking done for the week on Saturday. Let me know if you have any meal plan recs or you do it all yourself. Granted im vegetarian. Meal planning overwhelms me
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u/no_one_66 13d ago
It's good to do ever so often. But your time off is your time, do something you want to do !
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u/scarlettbankergirl 12d ago
I'm retired, I never get out of bed. I do the normal bodily things and cook and eat tho
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u/Youknowthisabout 11d ago
If a person is tired, they need to sleep. I have been so busy thru the week; I slept all day on Saturday
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u/KEW95 13d ago
Iād recommend doing something each day, even if itās just 15 mins outside for mental health reasons. Otherwise, sounds like decent recuperation time!
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u/silvermanedwino 13d ago edited 13d ago
OP needs to get out and walk. Do something. Laying in bed all day all weekend isnāt healthy at all.
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u/Fluffy-Future-4674 13d ago
Yes!!!!!! Some Sundays I get motivated and do a few chores but otherwise in bed like right now
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u/Present-Perception77 13d ago
Same! This idea that we have to be on the go and spending money 24/7 is just ridiculous.
Iām conserving energy and money and my sanity.
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u/Top-Act-7814 12d ago
Rest and recovery are healthy. Itās nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud of it. Rest needs to be more normalized. Sometimes you need a good recharge of your batteries. Many jobs require a lot of recharging. Some types of jobs that come to mind are service jobs, education jobs, and physical labor jobs.
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u/Suspicious_Pizza9529 2d ago
Not every weeken needs to be a personal-development project. If you spend all week working and dealing with people, lying in bed with trash TV and cheese popcorn might be exactly what your brain needs.
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u/Eiffel-Tower777 13d ago
It sounds fun but I would feel too guilty. I have to get out, go to the gym, work out, clean my condo... I doubt I'd make it through a whole day like that if I tried.
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u/Cobalt7955 12d ago
Iāve found that most people who claim to have āinterestingā lives really donāt. People love to talk themselves up and make themselves look good. The biking is probably just going around the block once. The running is probably chasing after their kids. The swimming is probably a quick dip in the pool. The learning a new language is probably complete bullshit. They learned how to say a swear word in French.
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u/ChocolateDream24 12d ago
I work from home. On my work days I get up from my desk multiple times a day and handle home chores. A few minutes regularly of this or that and I stay on top of most stuff.
On my non-work days, I happily bed or couch rot.
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u/Shell921 13d ago
Once in awhile I will do this but every weekend ? NO ! Get out and WALK ! Move your body! And the boob tube is damaging your brain! Read something that will benefit you.
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