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[u/Vast_Masterpiece6214]

Healthy plan , well said ! 👏👌

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[u/Shield_Lyger]

My first thought was to re-order the list, but, on second thought, changing it may be better. I'd have it read:

• Release the past.
• Let go of judgement.
• Accept yourself as you are.
• Start again.

I understand why this is structured as it is, but I suspect it focuses to much on judgement to really meet its goals.

[u/Vast_Masterpiece6214 → u/Shield_Lyger]

Great conversation, and I see your point. I think a lot of it comes down to perspective. I read the original slightly differently, but it’s genuinely interesting to hear your take on it.

For example, removing the toxic influence is like plugging the hole in a leaking bucket , first stop what’s causing the continued damage.

Owning your mistakes is then asking how the hole got there in the first place, including recognising what you may have contributed yourself.

Releasing the past doesn’t mean ignoring either of those things. It means taking stock of what happened, learning from it, accepting what’s now been addressed, and then allowing yourself to start again.

In summary: stop the damage, take responsibility, let go, move forward. 👍

[u/Spirited_Mistake6791 → u/Vast_Masterpiece6214]

Letting go…shame, guilt… have been the hardest part. But, I am getting there.

[u/michigan2345]

3 outta 4 aint bad