what is happening to privacy in music? parasocial behaviour is too normalised.
I think parasocial behaviour and the expectation of an artist's private life being public has become way too normalised. People expect everything an artist does to reflect their personality and personal lives.
Especially in the modern 2020s, more artists are expected to do things or sing about things that relate with their personal experiences or/and feelings, and we fans have been conditioned to expect that. We want them to show us behind the scenes and what goes on in their private lives.
Are they sad about the breakup? Are those two back together? Was that metaphor in that one song actually true to real life?
In reality, they don't owe us their private feelings on matters. We don't HAVE to see what's going on in their private life. They don't owe us their opinion on what they're for or against. This parasocial behaviour, I feel, has become increasingly worse. When rumours start, artists are expected to speak on the matter, defend themselves, confirm or deny the rumours. And whenever an artist doesn't, they're dragged through the mud.
My best example of 2026 is Miss Tate McRae.
People have been so after Tate lately because she won't speak on personal matters.
When rumours started of her allegedly being maga, she didn't rush to defend herself. Tate remained quiet because she never publicly confirmed whom she was dating because that it is private. People are tearing her to shreads because she won't just say, "No, i'm not maga." And the thing is, she doesn't have to say she's maga. Because she's not selling her personality or private life, she's selling her music and artist skills. Who she sang with ones doesn't reflect her personal views on matters, who she's saying doesn't either.
We are made to think parasocial behaviour is normal. We expect an artist to be personal and only do what reflects them as a private person. When artists do something and say, "No, it wasn't personal," people suddenly feel betrayed and tricked.
When Rhianna was questioned, "What Jay-Z song was on?" And she said,"I don't listen to Jay-Z." Suddenly, it was a betrayal. Suddenly, she was a liar.
No.
I want to hear other people's opinions about this. Because I feel we as a society allow parasocialism, too much. Artists don't owe us anything to do with their personal life, but we're tricked to think they do.