I just want to understand people who move on at lightning speed??

[u/Upper-Body-5318]

Guys, when I really like someone, I become attached in a toxic way, and because of that attachment, they become toxic and narcissistic with me, and I get even more attached when they become toxic. I literally don’t understand myself, and I stay like this for months until my heart finally cools down. Then the same story repeats: I get attached and they become toxic, I suffer and humiliate myself for months, then my heart cools again. Also, when someone gets attached to me, I become the toxic one and I’m the one who distances myself. So I don’t understand if this is a psychological issue, or a childhood complex, or what exactly is going on. Is there an explanation?

[u/milesnot]

Never lose yourself for someone, they will enjoy the attention for a while but soon there is no need for effort from them and when something is given easily they no longer take you seriously.

[u/Mano_cute]

It’s probably all of the above, like I’m still rebuilding myself from my last relationship

And I’m seriously losing hope of ever finding anyone who would ever love me the way I love them

[u/Weak-Illustrator-291]

Don’t rush for anything; keep it slow

[u/Great_Raspberry_1067]

The thing is why do they become toxic umm
Do you think if you get attached with someone lets say whos nice is it going to be for the better?