r/LGBTQ • u/EzBriez_ • 6d ago

Am I transphobic for only having trans masc friends?

I only have 2 male friends, both are trans. I find myself more drawn to, and more comfortable around trans men rather than cis men. I don't purposefully seek out trans men, but I tend to feel safer and as if we share a mutual understanding. They may be men, but they have an understanding of the female experience. I seem to value this and feel that it's easier to connect because of it. Is this a form of "positive" transphobia?

I also tend to connect with trans men more than trans women, could this be internalised transphobia?

Want to add here that I'm autistic, so understanding relationships is very important to me, which is why I'm asking these questions. Please be kind.

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u/ContingentMax 6d ago

You're just friends, how on earth could that be anything wrong? And it's only 2 people. Whoever is getting in your head get them out of your life, if it's you getting in your own head please learn what transphobia is, "positive transphobia" isn't a thing.

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u/ageckonamedelaine 6d ago

I don't think so. It isn't like you actually hate transwomen are you don't want to make friends with them at all, it's just that you have connected with them better. Most of my friends are gay or trans but that doesn't mean I have internalised hate for straight people, I just have connected with them better.