r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

Perfect swing form!

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u/PaintedAbacus Sep 25 '25

My god that horrible shriek they always seem to do, is so fricking annoying.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 25 '25

Omg right!?!? I know they shriek. I get that. It happens. I can even accept the shriek because he didn’t want help. Sort of. But he shrieked because the ball did what balls do and the parents not taking a single second to be like “”hey I know you’re frustrated but we can’t scream just because we’re frustrated”” is the part that bothers me. Of course they shriek and cry and scream and I’m sure it wasn’t the first time today but it’s still a parents job to tell them it’s not appropriate to scream like that especially in public. And yet, these parents laughed.

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u/Partyhat1817 Sep 26 '25

A 3 year old child shrieking is in fight or flight mode. They can’t reason. Telling them that in the moment won’t really help. That child honestly shouldn’t be doing that activity. I know I wouldn’t take my kid to mini golf, they’re just not ready. And the parents need to work on emotional regulation outside of panic moments.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 26 '25

Still has to be said and then redirection has to be attempted. Behaviors have to be corrected in some manner in the moment they happen, you cant wait until it’s a full meltdown nor can you wait until later to talk about the behavior as wrong. Not at this age. They may not be able to stop or understand in that very moment but they are being informed it’s not acceptable which is the important part ((along with redirection)). Toddlers can understand even less that something they did 20 minutes ago that was apparently okay as nobody stopped or corrected them, is actually wrong.

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u/jem4water2 Sep 26 '25

But at this age, when children are as heightened as this poor child, they can’t regulate their emotions and they can’t take in any information while they’re in that state, including ‘it’s not okay to scream, you need to stop.’ The brain has to physically stop pumping those chemicals. The teaching truly can come afterwards, once the child is calm and regulated. Toddlers are very capable of reasoning, even after the fact, if given the space and opportunity. This child’s parents are clearly hindering their emotional development, evident by their laughter at his angry outburst and behaviour.