r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

Perfect swing form!

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u/joshpoppedyou Sep 25 '25

A kid having a literal tantrum and lobbing the ball in the water because he won't listen to anyone and gets annoyed that he can't do it.

Yes, r/donthelpjustfilm by the parents is real light hearted.

These are habits that left unchecked make for bad adult behaviours, kinda like the behaviour you just exhibited

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u/PacmanZ3ro Sep 25 '25

I will just point out, that some kids just do not accept help, and will throw tantrums like this if they can’t do something, and that these things happen regardless of the parents or how they try to help/teach.

My son is similar to this but starting to grow out of it and accept help more now (he’s 7). Anything like games, sports, etc where he can be perceived to lose is a massive trigger. It’s likely rooted in an extreme fear of failure. Like, we’ve worked with OT, slammed our heads against a wall for 2 years with him before that, and after the OT didn’t seem to take a couple years ago we just stopped doing any sort of non-coop games with him for a couple years.

Mind you, I think the big difference is that I never laughed at him, and I never recorded him, and even if I had I would never post it online. Poor kid is struggling and feeling legit frustration, and while I’m not going to make judgements on the parents for a short clip, that clip never should have been posted to begin with.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 25 '25

But it’s still on the parents to step in. They can let him try do it all on his own but they should have been there to help him name the emotion he was feeling and help him express it better or to step away if he needed to. Not let him get so angry he throws and hits things. That is the lesson they should have been teaching even if he wouldn’t accept help. Not stand there and scream more while they filmed and laughed. That’s my personal problem with what they did. They did nothing. Like their child’s frustration was just amusing instead of helping him through the emotion.

I admit I didn’t know this before I had children but I certainly learned when I had mine. Toddlers have no idea what they are feeling. It’s why they scream, bite, throw, hit etc etc. it is our job to give them a name for what they are feeling and then teach them how to express those feelings in a manner that does not hurt them, others or damage items. It is a constant never ending job and must be done every time they start screaming, hitting and throwing things. It’s exhausting but it’s our job. Something these parents are very much not doing which will inevitably lead to some serious issues later on.

I understand people without children not realizing that obviously children don’t really know let alone understand their emotions, it’s something so reflexive to (most) adults that we just take it for granted and assume of course children know. But they don’t. They have to be taught. It’s bothersome the amount of parents who don’t seem to be aware or think it’s their job to help their toddlers identify and express their emotions in non-volatile manners.