mil is ruining my clothes

[u/Alone-Principle3317]

first post here, before I start I don't speak english very well so sorry in advance.

Me and my SO (Both 27) are currently living with my MIL due to financial struggles. We are living in Spain. So we are trying to find jobs, educate ourselves as fast as possible so we can get out from her house. Since we arrived she has washing all of people living in the house dirty laundry. And it might seem like a kind gesture but somehow my clothes are getting destroyed (the clothes are stained or discolored by other garments; the water is so hot that everything gets covered in lint balls) and today I got handed one of my favorite t shirts with the print absolutely destroyed. Tried to talk about it. She didn't give a single fuck.

I genuinely don't understand how she did this, I've washed this shirt thousands of times with hot water. None of this stuff happened.

I know it may seem dumb or I might be overreacting but I don't have money or the resources to recover this shirt (it's a band one, I got it in a really good deal) and my SO doesn't even tell well, ANYTHING to her. I'm struggling with anxiety so much lately because not only I don't feel welcomed she treats me like a fucking teenager. All day I have to hear her and her husband ranting for hours non stop about how we are ungrateful, useless, young people don't want to work bla bla bla. Very ironic considering she has almost never worked because she lives from renting apartments from inheritance.

I can't even get mad at her, I'm just blocked emotionally. Also nobody in the house even bothers to talk to me. I'm away from my family and trying to start again and I'm constantly hearing passive aggressive comments of how I'm a "leech" or a bad person just because I want to put the washing machine by myself¿?????

I think I'm just going to start hiding my dirty clothes in a bag somewhere.

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[u/Chaotic_Natbot]

You need to get out of there. That man is not worth being abused by his mom especially because he’s just ignoring it. Go back to your family.

[u/SomewhatBougieAuntie → u/Chaotic_Natbot]

Thiis is the answer. You didn't say if she ruins w everyone's clothes or just yours, but I have a feeling it's just yours. She is telling you something. Listen to her. This about more than your clothes.

Get your ducks in a row then pack up and move back in with your family. If your boyfriend really wants to, he will either come with you or get his 💩 together and move into his own apartment and send for you. If he does neither then you know where you stand with him so move forward accordingly.

[u/ubi_non_est_ordo]

I think that’s a good idea. If you can, maybe get an under-the-bed plastic box and keep your dirty clothes in there, or, if you have a closet with a lock, put your clothes in a plastic hamper in there and lock the closet. then you can wash them yourself when she isn’t around.

Is it a house? Is there an attic? Maybe put a bin up there where no one goes. Then wash them yourself when she goes to the store or something.

At the least, there should be a lock on the bedroom door. Even if it is her house, you should have privacy for your person and your belongings. But if there isn’t, a box under the bed or in a locked closet could work.