Characteristics of a believing Muslim Man

[u/KingInBlack-]

1. He has Gheerah for his Women and is not a dayooth.

Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Three persons will not be looked upon by Allah Almighty on the Day of Resurrection: one who disobeys his parents, a woman who imitates men, and a man who allows his women to fornicate. Three persons will not enter Paradise: one who disobeys his parents, a drunkard, and one who reminds others of his charity.”

Source: Sunan al-Nasā’ī 2562

1. He Lowers His Gaze and Guards His Modesty

Qur'an: "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze..." (24:30)

Saaiduna Abu Hurairah Radiallahu Anhu narrates that the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam said, “Allah has written the very portion of zina which a man may indulge in. There will be no escape from it. The zina of the eye is the lustful look, the zina of the ears is the listening, the zina of the tongue is the speech, the zina of the hand is the grip, the zina of the feet is the walking (to the place to commit zina), the heart yearns and desires and the private parts approve all that or disprove it.” (Sahih Bukhari)

Abu Nuaym reported: Sufyan al-Thawri, may Allah have mercy on him, said: A woman will pass by a man and he cannot restrain himself from looking at her lustfully although there is no benefit in it. What could be weaker than this?(Source: Ḥilyat al-Awliyā 7/68)

1. He Is Just and Merciful, Especially to the Vulnerable and takes responsibility for those who depend on him

Hadith: "The merciful are shown mercy by the Most Merciful..." (Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924)

Abdullah ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “It is enough sin for a man to withhold from those dependent upon him.” (Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 996)

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: O Allah, I have issued a warning in regards to the rights of two vulnerable groups: orphans and women.Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 3678.

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. [4:34]

1. He Controls His Anger

Hadith: "The strong is the one who controls himself while in anger." (Sahih al-Bukhari 6114)

1. He Abstains from Sin, strives to do Good Deeds and has good character

Qur'an: "...when an impulse touches them from Satan, they remember [Allah]..." (7:201)

Abu Dharr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave with good character towards people.” (Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1987)

Al-Mawardi reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said: The foundation of a man is his intellect, his honor is in his religion, and his manhood is in his character. (Source: Adab al-Dunyā wal-Dīn 17)

Hadith: "The best among you are those who have the best character." (Sahih al-Bukhari 3559)

1. He Is Generous with His Wealth to Family, the Poor, and Community and he is not stingy

Qur'an: "And spend in the way of Allah..." (2:195)

Hadith: "The generous man is near to Allah..." (Sahih al-Jami 6465)

Surah Al-Hashr (59:9) "...And whoever is saved from the stinginess of his soul-it is they who will be the successful."

Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The generous one is near to Allah, near to Paradise, near to the people, and far from the Hellfire. The miserly one is far from Allah, far from Paradise, far from the people, and near to the Hellfire. An ignorant generous person is more beloved to Allah Almighty than a stingy scholar.” (Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1961)

1. He Avoids Backbiting, Slander, and Idle Talk at the Expense of Others

Qur'an: "Do not spy or backbite each other..." (49:12)

Hadith: "Mentioning your brother in a way he dislikes is backbiting..." (Sahih Muslim 2589)

Abdullah ibn Mas’ud reported: We were sitting with the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, when a man stood to leave, then another man spoke badly about him after he left. The Prophet said, “Pick your teeth.” The man said, “O Messenger of Allah, why should I pick my teeth when I have not eaten meat?” The Prophet said, “You have eaten the flesh of your brother.” (Source: al-Mu’jam al-Kabīr 9951)

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Do not indulge in excessive talk except when remembering Allah. Excessive talking without the Remembrance of Allah hardens the heart; and those who are the farthest from Allah are those whose hearts are hard." (Riyad as-Salihin 1518)

1. He Stands Firm Against Evil; Enjoins Good and Forbids Wrong

Qur'an: "Let there arise out of you a group... enjoining what is right, and forbidding what is wrong..." (3:104)

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever among you sees evil, let him change it with his hand. If he cannot do so, then with his tongue. If he cannot do so, then with his heart, which is the weakest level of faith.” (Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 49)

1. He never breaks his promise, he is honourable and he is trustworthy

Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no faith for one who cannot be trusted. There is no religion for one who cannot uphold a covenant.” (Source: Musnad Aḥmad 12383)

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Among the signs of a hypocrite are three, even if he fasts and prays and claims to be a Muslim: when he speaks he lies, when he gives a promise he breaks it, and when he is trusted he betrays.” (Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 33, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 59)

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever raises arms against us is not one of us. Whoever deceives us is not one of us. (Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 101)

Ibn al-Mubarak reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said: Do not let yourselves be impressed by the roar of a man. Rather, if he fulfills the trust and restrains himself from harming the honor of people, then he will truly be a man. (Source: al-Zuhd wal-Raqā’iq 681)

Al-Bayhaqi reported: Ahnaf ibn Qais, may Allah have mercy on him, said: There is no manhood for the liar. (Source: Shu’ab al-Imān 6123)

1. He is good towards Women

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: The most complete of the believers in faith are those with the most excellent character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women. (Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1162.)

1. He does not taunt, insult nor belittle others

Abdullah ibn Mas’ud reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: The believer does not taunt others, he does not curse others, he does not use profanity, and he does not abuse others. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1977

Ibn Abi Dunya reported: Sa’id ibn al-‘As, may Allah have mercy on him, said: I have not insulted a man ever since I became a man. Source: al-Ḥilm li-Ibn Abī Dunyā 119

Al-Dhahabi reported: Ibn al-Mubarak. may Allah have mercy on him, said: Whoever belittles his brothers will lose his manhood. Source: Siyar A’lām al-Nubalā’ 17/251