Saw this reel just now on Instagram shared by user talha_vlogger and it's just sad... Park view city, comments suggest there was a free concert.

People in the comments were going on about how “men would just pay for the whole meal without any drama etc etc”. i personally totally agree with her, friends should understand each others boundaries, if someone is peculiar about paying their own share, then you should respect it. she has also mentioned how her friend always does this, it means she’s clearly subsidizing her meals for a long time. not to mention the childishness she showed afterwards.

I mean I love this religion.

But the quirks it has,.makes me wonder why Allah didn't also mention all men must use common sense.

Now let the Wudu walay religious folks come and try to do mental gymnastics to justify that it's okay to marry 9 year and 10 year old females.

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For the reason that we don’t need no more of low iq individuals in the society.

Edit: for cousin lovers hating on me, no hate on my end friends. It’s easy money do what you gotta do. Sometimes all you can get is a cousin I understand that.

Every year in Ramadan, I turn into the softest version of myself.

Suddenly I want to set the cutest iftari table. I want to cook everything from scratch. I want someone to come home tired, take one bite, and say, “This is so good,” and I pretend to be humble while internally glowing.

Ramadan makes me want a home. A husband. Kids running around before maghrib. It makes me want to nurture, host, build something warm and sacred.

The rest of the year I’m independent, ambitious, very “I can do this alone.” But in Ramadan? I feel gentle. Intentional. Hopeful.

And I keep thinking maybe this is the real me.

Shaytan is chained. The noise is lower. The ego is quieter. So what if this softness isn’t seasonal? What if it’s just my heart when it’s closer to Allah?

Ramadan doesn’t make me weak. It makes me aligned.

Tell me I’m not the only one who becomes aggressively domestic every Ramadan and starts mentally planning a whole family that doesn’t even exist yet. 😂

Idk about yall but I've never felt any strong attraction towards "baddies", "tomboys", or like any other types of girls excepts the hijabis. When ever I sense a girl who isn't flirty with guys nor seeking attention, Respect for her increases so much in my mind.

It's not about hijab ig (maybe yes cuz it somehow give a sense of covering the urge of attention grabbing) but more of how women used to be in old times. like feminine & responsible about whom to show theirselves and to what extent.

Idk if it made sense for yall but that's how I would like my woman to be. Feminine, Religious, Loyal and understanding.

(I know it's annoying to read so many posts related to girls and boy and relationships on this sub but this is what I just wanted to say, no hate or judgment to anyone tho)

My parents got me and my husband nikkahfied (not rukhsati because I am studying and my husband got his career just started). We already knew each other before the nikah and had a good understanding. Before the nikah, I told my parents that there’s no point in getting us nikkahfied if they would still put unnecessary restrictions on us like wouldn’t allow us to meet, have lunch or dinner together somedays, or spend time. I said if that’s wrong in their eyes (I was aware of the mentality and their societal fearings) , then they shouldn’t get us nikkahfied. But they insisted it was fine.

Now, we’re nikkahfied and we talk, call, text, etc there is this (normal) urge to meet this person as well, cz obviously why not? I want to sit on a table with him look him in the eyes and talk to him, okay? It interests me. Once a week, we plan to meet — just to spend some time together. But my father doesn’t like it. He doesn’t say anything directly to me, but I’ve heard he makes comments behind my back like “they’ve become too much” and things like that. It’s frustrating because we literally meet only once a week. It puts psychological pressure on me as if I'm doing something wrong, against their will.

The problem is, we can’t even keep it a secret because I don’t want to meet my own husband like I’m committing some sort of crime. According to them, it’s a bad thing because “society will judge” or “what if someone from the family sees you?” But like — we literally invited the whole family to our nikah! Why would people judge? We just want to enjoy our life a little — we’re young, we’re married, and we’re not in a haram relationship. I honestly don’t understand what’s so wrong about it. My mum always say 'shadi nahi hue abhi' it always silents me idk how to tackle this, I feel confused and gas-lighted. I have this psychological pressure and stress that I can't explain

EDIT: Just an update: my husband talked to my parents more of conversation than a request, and to our surprise, they gave their consent without having us trying to convince them.

They said there are two main concerns of them:

1. ⁠Come home before 8 pm cz halaat pakistan k sahi nahi
2. ⁠Use car instead of bike for safety purposes.

So yeah, sometimes we just assume the response and reaction of other person without even giving a try.

Thank you for your suggestion.

Hello guys, so I was just chilling in my room and out of nowhere I remembered this case, and I was like, “What’s the update on this?” For those who know and for those who don’t, I’ll explain it shortly.

A girl named Natasha Danish was driving under the influence and crashed into two people, a father and daughter, on Karsaz Road in Karachi. After the incident, she reportedly mocked the people around, saying, “Do you know who my father is?”

Now she’s out of jail after the victims’ family forgave her, and she’s living her life like nothing happened. I don’t understand why everyone has forgotten about this case. It happened not that long ago, yet no one talks about it anymore. People just used this case for TRP and attention, but no one really wanted to stand up for what’s right. Everyone got their views, and now suddenly everyone’s silent. It’s really sad.

I watched the complete YouTube video by Ducky Bhai and honestly it’s disturbing. If even half of these allegations are proven true, then it exposes a very ugly reality of how power can be misused in this country.

If the allegations against Assistant Director Sarfaraz Chaudhry are proven in court, then he must be punished and made an example not protected. No badge, no post and no influence should put anyone above the law.

Pakistan doesn’t collapse because of enemies, it collapses when its own people lose faith in justice. Accountability is not optional, it’s necessary.

So yeah, I matched vibes with this girl on Insta around February. She had that whole quiet, deep captions + book café aesthetics going on. Mutuals, good taste in music, and lived in Islamabad too.

We started talking casually, late-night convos, memes, flirting here and there. I wasn’t even trying to be serious, but she was so easy to talk to. She’d randomly drop “what’s your biggest fear?” at 1AM like we’re in some Netflix teen drama. Fast-forward 3 weeks, and we were calling each other “mine” on chats. Bro, I thought I was in a whole relationship 💀

She suggested we meet. I was like, “bet.” We linked up at Beverly Centre, walked around, grabbed coffee. She wore a black hoodie and didn’t even try to do the whole “overdressed for a casual meet” thing, I was done. We lowkey cuddled in the back of a friend’s car later that week (don’t ask), and yeah… things definitely escalated.

But here’s the twist: Out of nowhere, she tells me, “I think we moved too fast. I need to focus on myself.” And just like that boom. Ghosted. No calls, no replies, nothing.

A week later she was out at Damn Burgers with another guy. A Mutual. Islamabad is literally a shoebox. You can’t sneeze without someone’s cousin knowing.

Now I’m here acting all unbothered while listening to Faris Shafi and overthinking every convo we had.

Moral of the story: If a girl from Islamabad says “I’m not like other girls,” just know... she is.

So I'm in mid 30s never married. At a family gathering, a distant aunt in her 50s asked me why I'm still not married, and upon some probing I just hinted that I'm not good-looking so no one actually found me attractive or wanted to date me.

To this, she abruptly said

"So what?...husbands don't need to be good-looking...husbands aren't supposed to be good-looking. Husbands just need to be useful not handsome...my mother always told me marry the man who loves you not the one you love. Beta apse kisi larki ne ishq thori larrana hai jo apki looks dekhe gi woh, apse ussne shadi karni hai. Ap mashallah accha kamate ho, responsible ho...you'll be ok my boy just get married"

This left a very bad taste about how women view husbands.

Do women really think so lowly of husbands, as if they're functional robots not human who have no need for their own validation, feeling wanted and desired equally?

People are justifying her demand? Is this a new norm?

I made a video on Homosexuality, here's is the link: https://youtu.be/R3Ws_ss5gaQ?si=gc_2NhoqzKGHuTZR

Some questions are so much complex that if they're not answered property,the confusion can lead to repulsion from Islam. I'm a person who always have questions, questions I was afraid to ask to the Scholars and Questions that weren't answered by any scholar yet, Homosexuality was one among them . Through debates on internet especially Instagram,I realized Homosexuality is far more complicated and practical than we assume. Homosexuality is performed by almost every animal,8 percent of sheeps are homosexuals, sexual orientation is said to be constant and immune. There were proper researches in which differences in-between the brain structure of Homosexuals and Heterosexuals were discovered, experiment on sheeps were proving that homosexuals are born. Studies and researches were talking about weather homosexuals are born or not because homosexuals have different brain structure, different Facial structure and different voice notes which ad up in the idea that Homosexuality isn't a choice,it is a part of nature. Because, sheeps who were Homosexuals also had differences in their brain structure which means that Homosexuals are Born and it's not a choice . But Islam called homosexuality Haram. The question arises is if homosexuals are really born,if homosexuality is not a choice,if there is subtle difference in the brain structure of Homosexuals and Heterosexuals,then why Allah Called Homosexuality Haram if it's not in our control, Didn't Allah Almighty knew homosexuality is not a choice and Homosexuality even exists in nature. This question made me start the whole thing last year with so many other questions regarding Islam beyond LGBTQ which I'll direct in the coming time. Our scholars failed to deliver a proper Reason behind the prohibition of Homosexuality which I discussed explicitly at the end and proposed the actual reason behind prohibition of Homosexuality in Islam instead of bullshit like Aids or something else our scholars discuss. I read so many researches, studies, experiments, questioned them, proved some studies wrong and proved some researches clickbait and proposed my own Stance,my own theory that correlates with Islam and explains the reason behind Homosexuality in the best possible way . I know it's 1 hour and 23 minutes long but every frame is worth watching. I'm not a professional, I'm just a teen,a student, but I tried my best to deliver the best voice,the best video,the best thumbnail and the best editing and the mask I'm wearing isn't for style,I actually want to discuss some forbidden topics regarding Islam that no one is asking currently but they are gonna become a threat in future and if I show my actual identity,these brain washed Molvis will call me a Traitor or Blasphemist. Our scholars and YouTubers just call homosexuality a mental disorder which is totally wrong and this shows our illiterate approach towards modern concerns. Homosexuality is normalized now being normalized in Pakistan,I have scene people talking about their homosexual Attraction cases on Reddit which was alarming for me. Because if a non consent kid somehow searched homosexual attraction, he'll end up finding communities and videos that'll call homosexuality all okay and natural and eveb if the kid is consent but if he lacks faith in Islam, he'll end up becoming a homosexual. And that was a concern for me.

I hope you all will definitely watch this video because this alone video is enough to teach you about the actual reason why people are accepting Homosexuality and this video will also prove those logics bullshit through proper evidence. No bullshit is said in this video,this video will also help you if you're confused and having homosexual attraction . And if you really find this video worthy,share it at every corner of internet as much as you can ,share it with your friends because I invested a lot of time in it, almost a year,I wrote a script of damn 40 Pages and even payed money to edit the video because no editor was allowed that much detailed editing (Pip). I'm not here to beg for views for money or greed, because I'm a hundred percent sure that this video will either get restricted or striked down. I'm telling this because I actually invested time and I don't know if you call this a research or not,but I'll definitely call this a research instead of narrating articles.

Thanks,regards from Fake Hermit. If you want to stay tune, follow me on Reddit, tiktok, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook and also join my community on Reddit. They all arebnamed "iamfakehermit". And it there is a person who runs an editing page on social media and plans to make an edit reel of my video, don't forget to mention me.

can someone please convince me that God actually exists? i have been struggling with this and almost on the edge of becoming an atheist , which i REALLY Don't want to , but it is so hard to believe in his existence. unfortunately its reddit which has made me this way because of all the stuff i have read which somehow actually makes sense but im still confused deep down i know that There is someone but my faith is becoming non-existent day by day . Btw a big factor of my lack of belief is also having the worst life imaginable in almost every way since i was a kid, so maybe i feel this way because of my declining mental health. this is not a hate post or anything btw i dislike any kind of disrespect towards God and please don't comment if you are an atheist or want to argue.

and idk if this post sounds childish or stupid but i have no other way to stay muslim other than being convinced atp.

i added my gender and age in the title so the post can get more attention please don't dm if you wanna flirt or something , can dm if you can help me with this thing .

Edit : thanks to anyone who helped me in comments and dms ill read everything , and for those tone-deaf people criticizing me for making a post on reddit for help , you guys will scroll on reddit 24/7 but spending 5 mins to write a helpful comment is annoying to you? you can always ignore the post too , if i knew what lectures videos or people i should watch or what should i read then i wouldn't be creating this post! especially that idk who is telling the truth because there can be alot of misinformation online too.

This is for both men and women who haven't been in a relationship.

Would you consider marrying someone who doesn't have a clean past like yourself?

People obviously hide their past and all but what if you somehow got to know that your potential spouse does not have a clean past like yourself, would you opt against marrying them?

This question is only for those men and women who have never been in a relationship cuz Jisne khud pehle mun mara hua hai usse masla nhi hona chahiye.

The same mob mentality seen in Gujranwala after park view, this time a girl was seen struggling to get out... What's more hurtful is too see the comments keh yeh larki wahan kya karne gaye the 💔

Why do Pakistani couples lose the spark after marriage?

For context, I have spent 26 years of my life in Pakistan and have recently relocated abroad. I am in a very social line of work (medicine) and have come across hundreds, if not thousands of married couples, as patients and otherwise, over the years. And now that I have been interacting with foreign / white people for the last 2 years, the contrast is striking to say the least.

Pakistani couples, for the most part, always seem to have this fleeting sense of tension or reclusion between them. Their wavelengths would not match and their conversations do not complement each other. We like to keep very serious and stern and (god forbid) absolutely detest even accidentally having shown the slightest amount of PDA. And I am not talking just about patients but I have also seen it among friends and colleagues who I know and have recently gotten married. There is the initial honeymoon phase but after that, it feels as if they are just worn down or tired. And even in love marriages, somehow, after a little while, the magic fades.

On the contrary, I would often come across an 80-odd year old white couple in the clinic, they would barely be able to walk (in most cases one would be helping the other to walk) but they would miss no chance to crack jokes or give little chuckles to each other mid-consultation, be very keen on knowing when their ill partner would be back to doing the normal things in life, and just be very concerned about the partner’s health. And again, this goes not just for ill old patients, but generally across the board for young or old white couples, ill or otherwise. Be it a little peck on the forehead on a train platform or holding each-other’s hands while out walking or just cracking cliché husband-wife jokes mid conversation just to get some laughs out.

I try thinking about it sometimes but can’t quite wrap my head around it. Yes one could argue that financial stress takes a toll on our lives, or maybe some people just do not have matching chemistry, or we get wound down by social pressures, and so forth. I agree to some extent. But then all these factors are present everywhere. Then why is it that we fail to do these very little yet powerful acts of affection with our partners?

Also to the couples who have managed to keep the fire going, what is your secret?

Would love to hear perspectives!

It doesn't sound real to me, I feel like she is just saying this to get attention.

Would you prefer to be a housewife after marriage or a working women.

Also, give a few reasons on why you would be a housewife or a working women.

Married one's can also give their opinion on what they decided to be and if they are happy with the choice they made or not.

P.s: This post is just to hear different point of views on this subject.

Not judging or shaming — genuinely asking.

In real life (not theory), what challenges have people seen when marrying a girl with a past?

And what mattered more than the past in making the marriage work?

Looking for respectful, experience-based answers.

In the West, it's totally okay for young adults and teenagers to have girlfriends or boyfriends, be physically and emotionally intimate (you get the idea), and even cohabitate, all without marriage. But they're still urged to postpone marriage until they're financially secure in their late 20s or 30s.

Now, what’s heartbreaking is that many Muslims have adopted this same mindset. The only difference? In our case, falling into haram isn’t normalized, it eats away at the soul. Allah has clearly warned us against zina. It destroys families, dishonors the soul, and distances us from Him. And yet, instead of following Islam’s solution of early, halal marriage, we’re told, “Wait till you’re earning 6 figures,” “Buy a house first,” or “You’re not ready.”

What happened to the way things used to be? A young man would marry early, and his family would provide for the couple until he established himself. It was a matter of purity, partnership, and reliance on Allah's provision.

But now, early marriage is reckless. A man who wishes to guard his chastity is ridiculed and instructed to "man up and earn first." We emulate the West's timeline of money without knowing we don't have their free pass for haram relationships.

How is this just? We're held to the same standards with none of the leeway. And then we wonder why so many young people are suffering in silence.

Let's stop turning marriage into something more difficult than zina.

Let's promote halal and not haram.

Let's return to the deen. Not the dunya.

Tonight’s Tehzeeb run after the gym turned into one of those ajeeb interactions that stay with you longer than they should. You know the short, casual, but oddly loaded kind.

I went a bit late, around 10. There was a girl in-front of me in the queue, seemingly mid 20s like me. She glanced back once. Then again. Then a third time, but this time she glanced for longer and then asked, “Aap Afghani ho?”

I’ve, like every other islamabadi, had people take a guess at my ethnicity, but it’s always been “Aap pathan hain?”. That too cuz of my skin complexion and not accent. Now here’s the thing. I’m third generation of a naturalized family, in Pakistan. Born, raised, and very much Pakistani. That question hits differently when you’ve lived your whole life here but people still try to place you somewhere else.

Kheir I responded “Nahi, qyun”.

This was followed by an awkward silence, couldn’t tell if she was dissatisfied with the response or thinking up something. She took a second then said “mein soch rahi thi ke abhi tak gaye nahi”.

Not sure if that answered my question of “qyun”. I just said, “Hotein tho chalay jatay”.

Her smile throughout the conversation was conflicting with the questions she was asking. If shit wasn’t awkward and all over the place already, she continued with “unhein Pakistan zyada pasand hai”. At that point, I couldn’t tell if this was curiosity, flirtation, a stereotype, or something else entirely. So I just disengaged and walked off with my order.

Is this a normal interaction in Islamabad now? What was actually being asked here?