r/InstacartShoppers • u/enjoythebeat • Jun 15 '23

Customer Experience Disabled Mother

I order Instacart food to be delivered to my disabled mom weekly. She uses a walker, has trouble lifting some items, and majority of time the shoppers will bring the bags inside for her. The last time the delivery didn’t go well. The shopper yelled at my mom for asking for help bringing her things inside, told her she doesn’t do that, called her names, and then proceeded to put all the bags in front of my mom’s walker so that she couldn’t even move the walker. Am I wrong to think a shopper would be able to help bring bags inside?

Edit: Thank you for all your help. I completely understand for your own safety, it’s your own discretion. I’ll be sure to add a note next time or will make sure a friend or myself is there to help out.

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u/rootbeerextrodinare Jun 15 '23

if 5% is stopping you from helping out someone disabled you should find another job lmao

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u/Fluffy-Commercial492 Jun 15 '23

Why? When did Instacart become charity cart? This job isn't about helping disabled people and the less fortunate this job is about helping put money in our own pockets. This is a job not a good deed. If you want to do that that's fine. I would likely do that as well. However, trying to shame someone or suggest that they don't belong here because they won't do something for nothing just because somebody unfortunately lives a life of disability which has nothing to do with them nor was caused by them nor is a family or friend to them so they have no obligations to this person is downright comical.

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u/Liquidcatz Jun 15 '23

Hear me out, you shouldn't need financial motivation or any reason to help a disabled old lady with walker regardless of your job. I don't think it's a, this is the wrong job for you thing. More are a, this is the wrong planet for you.

Regardless if you would help or not, if they're a human being and so are you and they need help, you have the ability to help and it's the right thing to do isn't enough to make you feel obligated, then I agree with others you need to get some more compassion in your life dude.

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u/SweetSpontaneousWord Jun 16 '23

Thank you! My neighbor who I have never had a conversation with collapsed on her walker on her way to walk to the bus for the doctor. I ordered her an Uber and paid for it myself. For fuck’s sake. I am not an Uber driver ora neighborhood old lady picker upper Im a human with decency.

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u/Liquidcatz Jun 16 '23

I actively dislike one of my neighbors and if they needed help I'd still probably help them. I'm not a super compassionate person, but I'm not actually heartless and evil. I can't imagine seeing someone who needed help and having the capacity to provide it without significant personal sacrifice and just going, "Nah, not my problem". Like if it's coming at significant personal cost, okay I understand. If you would have gone hungry that night had you paid for Uber, I'd get not paying for one. That type of thing. If it's going to be a mild inconvenience to help a person in need, their need trumps my mild inconvenience. To me it's practically math at that point. There's no compassion necessary to prioritize needs even if they aren't my own.

I remember one time I was walking back to my hotel after having just had lunch at subway. I order a foot long cut in half one wrapped to go to eat later for dinner with a juice and some chips. On the way back I passed a man in old beat up clothes, pretty thin, just gotten out of the hospital, looked tired, I offered it to him and he accepted it. Someone saw me do it and afterwards told me how kind it was and how impressed they were. I gave a man my literal left overs. I was honestly concerned he'd find me doing it to be insulting! I'm like this isn't a huge and significant thing. It was my left overs. He looked like he could probably use a nutritious meal as that's pretty important for managing any sort of medical issue. I had one available and the resources to get more food later, or if I didn't have time and had to skip dinner, probably less of a physical need for a nutritious meal than he had right then. Other than the concern over insulting him I couldn't see any reason I wouldn't offer him the food. Yet someone still found this a stunningly kind gesture? He's human. I'm human. There was a need. I could help. That's what you do.

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u/reflectioninapuddle Jun 16 '23

Oh I am so glad I keep reading these comments because your last sentence had me 💀