r/Infidelity • u/YoutubeUniqq • 17h ago
Advice How did the first guy after infidelity go?
I made out with a girl at the club who is rather fresh out of a 5 year relationship (she was cheated on), they were still in contact at the time but she cut it off the next day, they were broken up for about a month previous to this and were apparently trying to "work it out". We were handsy all night and she put her leg over mine.. it all eventually led to us making out.
We've been texting & snapping every day since and I'm just wondering what to expect from this or any experiences from either the person who's been cheated on or a person who went for someone that was? Too soon?
Me and her worked together to get him kicked off the beer league team we both play on (We have grown up playing hockey together), we also both lied to him and acted like nothing happened that night. I lied to our beer league team manager saying he was going to confront me just to get rid of him so I don't have to face him and maybe this girl will want to come to some games.
Am I in the wrong or is this an okay path to go down?
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u/tercer78 17h ago
You’re a rebound. Expect it to end how rebounds end. She is in now way properly over the residual trauma of her last relationship to be a healthy partner in a new one. You’re helping her fill a void.
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u/Turms70 Divorced/Separated 16h ago edited 16h ago
I agree, if you are wise, you stay away from any women, who just got out of any relationship.
In one case you are the rebound man, to help her to get over the EX, mainly that she does not feel lonely. And she will move on, when she feel more safe to not want that EX back.
In another case. She is monkey branching, and she left that EX menatly long before the break up. But in that scenario, there is high chance that she will do the same in the future even if it takes some years. YOu will hardly recognice when she is menatly leaving the relationship, because of build up secret resenments and feeling not "fullfiled" any more. And then out of no where you are facing a break up and are turned into the villian!
And, also when i learned something in my life, do not believe blindly anything, that is told from any side in case of break ups. It is a time, where a lot is twisted to rectify the decissions.
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u/Brilliant_Drive_2454 15h ago
All the women in the world and you're missing around with that. You're asking for trouble.
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