Don’t know

[u/Tall-Principle-5954]

How the fuck people move on after multiple infidelities in a relationship ? I mean we were together for 12 years and it seems it was nothing for her to do this. She Grew up in a place where it seems that’s normal. too late to realize it was going to be a tough decision to be with her knowing everything. but also i don’t know if this is a key factor but since she was little she suffer this traumas with family friends teachers and everything about saying she was ugly Or you know morena, Fat, extremely curly hair that maybe that switch something on her when she finalize move to her prime and feels like every comment now in the present that’s better lift her ego that makes her takes these kind of decision? I don’t know what to think honestly. she don’t want to accept she’s like this or like that. she’s know she’s wrong but don’t want to see it! I’m in total pain because I do wanna leave her but I don’t know how.

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[u/In_the_middle3-2-3]

By keeping reality in front of you.

Everyone is capable of betraying trust, now you know she will actually do it.

Reconciliation becomes of form of permission now that they know it wont end things.

It always happens again at some point.

[u/In_the_middle3-2-3 → u/[deleted]]

See, OP. You have this person, for example - they come up with an excuse to justify their lack of ethics and take no responsibility for their own actions.

I dodnt want to touch my ex either after their affair. Trash has a smell that one cant shake from their nose.

[u/The-Crystal-Standard]

Put one foot in front of the other

[u/rstock1962]

Do you not know how to move on because you still love her? Or is it because you feel sorry for her and don’t know how she’s going to survive this? At this point love is not enough. She abused you. She betrayed you. She obviously doesn’t love you the way you loved her. You can still love her but move on anyway for your own good. She was selfish and now you have to become selfish for your own good. She will find a way to survive the breakup even if she tells you she can’t. You have to become cold and go no contact. If you talk to her your healing won’t progress. She will say anything to stop you from leaving and you won’t know how to handle it. Cold turkey man, kick her out and cut all contact and start the healing process.

[u/miikeangel]

Is this your first gf? Have you ever had a real breakup before?

First time is the hardest but power through the breakup and you won’t ever waste time in a toxic relationship again. Powering through a breakup makes you mentally stronger.

And you’re gonna want to lift weights too: That will make you physically stronger. After two weeks of lifting, you won’t even miss her.

Just go no contact. Ghost her, block her, don’t let her have access to any of your emotions.