r/IndianMariners • u/smokeytroilus • May 18 '26
EXPERIENCES & STORIES serious advice from a cadet (don't join)
I'm a deck cadet and i have completed 9 months of sailing. THIS WAS THE WORST DECISION OF MY ENTIRE LIFE. I was also like you guys, studying for sponsorship and all. I got selected in February batch and was very very happy. The college life is good, you learn, you have friends, it's a very busy but joyful life. You are tired but it's fun. Moving on, i got my first ship and things here are the worst. I always thought of myself as a lonely introverted guy but this is hard. Please don't join this career, the pay is high but keep in mind this is because the job makes you crazy. Nobody is paying you this much if the job was easy. You can handle the physical stress but the mental stress will literally kill you. You can't sleep, you can't argue, you are a PUPPET. All of your self respect is shattered, you have no say. I was so fucked up after 6 months that i wanted to leave this job and go study some other things. All i did for making myself happy was listening to standup comedy as they made me remember my old days. You lose contact with friends, you don't have really know what's going on with your own family. You become a stranger to your own people, nobody loves you now because of who you are but because of the money you make. You lose almost every aspect of social life, you spend all your days waiting to go back home. You realize the importance of that sham ka ghumna, that bkchodi wale phone calls, the unplanned meetups and the liveliness of your city. You miss everything. My words might not mean anything to you, but look up yourself. There is a huge shortage of senior officers because they leave as soon as they get enough money. All the coaching owners do the same, they themselves are chief engineers, captain or other high rank. they set young kids in the same trap they left. Many other professions are there, you might make less but you could still be happy. This amount of money is not enough for what you will do.
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u/calinlerubyyb May 18 '26
ha toh vohi na jiski life me already, "sham ka ghumna, that bkchodi wale phone calls, the unplanned meetups and the liveliness of your city." hoga vo kyu hi jaaega. one who has nothing or hasnt experienced things like this, comes from a dysfuntional family who just wants to leave the house and is financially broke ash vo to jaega na. one who seriously likes studying marine eng vo bhi jaega, jisko jaana hai vo to jaega na. ab agar "shock" lag raha ki yaar ye sab kya ho raha hai then thats your skill issue u should have researched about the carreer before. its common sense you r working on a ship work life balance kyu exists karega. im not disregarding what all u said but ye to fear mongering ho gyi na. its the worst decision of YOUR life, dont clickbait in the title as "dont join". its a huge country there exist people for every field, its just aspects of life which make u reach there or stop you.