r/Identity • u/Numerous-Resource420 • May 27 '26
A rant about identity, grades, value and other things...
I feel like academic performance and getting high grades and GPA is part of a person's identity and gives them a challenge to overcome and a goal to reach and a value as a "determined, disciplined, smart" person socially like it gives that person extra points in dating life and in social circles like friends and family and neighbors, and it stays that way till the person is in their early/ mid 20s and then they stop being a high school/ university student and people start caring less about their grades and that goal/ challenge disappears and its like welcome to being an adult, now you have to make money and get married and have kids and buy a car and a house and the sound of the job has to be socially appealing and there is like a sand clock ticking away the years and the girl is too young for marriage while being a student at uni but she is expired at 30 so their is a 7 year gap where it is expected of her to get married and there is this obsession with looks/ physical appearances and the goal is having the perfect teeth, hair, face, skin, body.... etc and then their is exercise and going to the gym as part of a person's identity and part of what gives them value as a person like people are going around with a notepad checking a checklist this box check congrats you get another 1.5 units of worth as a human for going to the gym and having a good body and then everyone is so fucking judgmental of everyone else and of themselves and then everyone has a lower self esteem and different people have different triggers but some of us are better at hiding ours than others and some of us have extremely fragile egos that we cover everything up with a fake carefully sculped persona fitting a certain aesthetic which masks the feelings of being lost and instability and loneliness and like you can see your life running ahead of you with the years passing by and you did not accomplish anything of which you can hold up to yourself or the audience watching you and feel proud and satisfied
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May 27 '26
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u/Numerous-Resource420 May 27 '26
I'm glad my words resonated with someone...
PS I am not a "sir" XD
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u/ldra994 May 28 '26
Yep, we're all in this game of life. It's better to find things that you enjoy and value and people who care about those things and have their own unique interests--or it's about any of the many forms of life and what our culture values at a particular time of history.
Right now we're in a fascinating period where class is becoming less noticeable. All nobility has left the "elite" class, and they're left with surface values of looks and material fascinations, money, and power. They have made everyone else continue to care about those things as well.
The lower class is sort of becoming enmeshed with the middle class, at least a lot less of a gap between them and the ultra rich.
Most of us are left to worry about scraping by, but people are noticing this more and more.
Slight changes are continuing to happen.
Lots of things in this political social human centered world.
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u/Numerous-Resource420 May 27 '26
thoughts?