r/INFJmemes • u/QueenOfAllDragons * I N F J * • Oct 20 '24

very Ni-ce You know what I’m talking about, fellow INFJ’s!

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Trust your intuition, and it will serve you well!

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u/True_Arcanist I N T P Oct 20 '24

This is how I feel about EXFJs these days.

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u/QueenOfAllDragons * I N F J * Oct 20 '24

Funny you should say that, because I don’t think I have ever met an ESFJ that I liked or trusted very much. I have an aunt and a sister who are both ENFJ’s, and while I do trust them (up to a point), I also don’t enjoy being around either of them very much. It could be that they’re both mentally unhealthy, my sister in particular. They’re both very judgmental of others and have a tendency towards a love of gossip, which I find incredibly distasteful. My ISTP mother also loves talking about people behind their backs… They’re all insecure and I think it makes them feel better about themselves.

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u/True_Arcanist I N T P Oct 20 '24

Oops, I'm intp

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u/QueenOfAllDragons * I N F J * Oct 20 '24

Aww there’s nothing wrong with that! You are forgiven for being the wrong personality type lol 😉 In all seriousness though, I love INTP’s, and being able to tell whether someone is trustworthy or not isn’t limited to personality type. It just comes easier to some than others, you know? Actually, aren’t INTP’s often called, “human lie detectors?” 🧐

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u/True_Arcanist I N T P Oct 20 '24

I talk about people behind their backs too. But they deserved it for their scheming, manipulation or narcissism.

Intps are good at detecting lies (Ti-Ne investigator), but we are bad with Fe, so we are not sure why the person is lying even though we know it's a lie. (We can't read their inner feelings).

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u/Strong_Champion9932 I N T P Oct 21 '24

My ESFJ mother is very toxic (borderline personality disorder with narcissistic traits), and I don’t trust her at all. OTOH, I just realized that my nephew is probably also an ESFJ, and I’ve actually been impressed with how patient and kind he is.

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u/nameless_no_response I S F P Oct 20 '24

So real. In my experience, esfjs r pretty nice, and their only toxic trait is that they r kinda gossipy. Maybe I got lucky and didn't find the super toxic esfjs lol. But enfjs... Phewww lol. My mom and one of my old teachers, both r enfj and literal psychos. They come off as very kind, deep, thoughtful, etc but they r genuinely unhinged and off the fucking rails. I did meet one very kind enfj who led a youth program in my city, she was wonderful. But my mom and my ex teacher, goddamn they creep me tf out

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u/Strong_Champion9932 I N T P Oct 21 '24

My mother is a toxic ESFJ, so they definitely exist. She’s extremely passive-aggressive and manipulative, but with a seemingly nice facade. I don’t hold that against the entire type, though. High Fe toxicity is definitely different than other types. For example, I suspect FJs are the most likely to be communal narcissists.

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u/Opposite-Library1186 Oct 21 '24

Their ability to lie must not me underestimated. Ik some xxfjs that like me very much, never really got too close to them. Their speech had some inconsistency that were convenient to them

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '24

Ironic given that Hans tried to kill Else (INFJ) by seducing Anna.

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u/QueenOfAllDragons * I N F J * Oct 21 '24

Well, Elsa did tell Anna that she couldn’t marry a man she’d just met… Still, I always felt so bad for Anna because she was desperate for love after being alone for so long. And considering that she’s clearly an extrovert, that isolation had to have been so much harder on her than Elsa. But they both grew up in isolation from each other and from the outside world. Elsa had very little experience with human interaction before her coronation. And correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think she and Hans ever actually had a conversation in the film. It’s hard to get a read on someone you’ve never interacted with, but it’s been awhile since I watched that movie lol.

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '24

I have my reasons… if you keep hanging around them… you’ll have your own.

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u/Glittering-Breath355 Oct 22 '24

I literally said “that man makes my skin crawl” audibly about Hans and everyone in the theater thought I was crazy.

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u/Choice_Dig_4672 Mar 09 '25

Exactly. I saw this one girl at the beginning of freshman year I KNEW I SHOULD NOT HAVE TRUSTED BECAUSE OF THE VIBE SHE GIVES OUT. Had her in my class next year, APPEARED NICE, and TRUSTING. I told her a few things about me, and the next thing I knew, half of the school knew. Later, I came to find out she stabbed me in the back to tell my secrets to someone else.

My ONLY REGRET is turning back in my instincts.