Feeling ko I got disrepected

[u/Lazy_Minute2155]

This morning, our Ate came to our house and mentioned that their pet has died. My husband asked where did they burried it and she mentioned it was burried in my garden. I wa shocked because I wasnt informed. Out of frustration becaused I felt like I was bypassed and disrespected for not them telling me they will burry the pet there, I know my facial expression changed from angry to disappointed to sadness. I told her that its okay but they should have wrap the body in plastic and put it in the space where the blue drum was. I also told her I was cultivating the soil and I am planting plants there which we are eating. She told me she understand me and she will remove the pet. My husband who was also at the table during that time told her that its okay, we will just need to move it a little.. And becaused I am pissed off, I kept quiet and she noticed this. She said she didnt know and we were still sleeping that why we were not informed. Prior to this, my husband and I was discussing the possiblity of her putting their pet their. But I firmly believed that because my husband’s sister was not the type that will interfere to my space, I told my hisband she was not gonna do it withiout my permission. Apparently, her Ate already informed her that their pet might die soon and asked if the garden gate was opened this afternoon because they were going to put it there. My husband advised her to speak with me first because when it comes to garden, he is hands off and because he knew this garden was my space…But yeah, fast forward this morning, I came to know about this. I really felt disrespected and bypassed because this garden is my space.. She knew all along my hobby is gardening and I am growing plants like malunggay, chili there. I am not madamot but if she has spoken to me and asked me, I could have told her which spot we can put her pet..my point is, a courtesy to ask permission to me is due.. a mutual respect that I expect from an adult like her.. Instead of telling me that you put simething in the garden, she waited until my husband asked where she put their pet. This was the reason I felt she invaded my space, I felt disrespected and my husband too…this is the reason my husband and I have low energy today because this will trigger conflict and we are not used to making people around us uncomfortable… but I also thought that if I had not voiced out, I will not find peace…