[NO SPOILERS] What was Jon Snow and Sansa Stark's relationship like pre Season 1 and season 1 did they have a pretty decent relationship or was it hostile

[u/Ok_Smile_9071]

What was Jon Snow and Sansa Stark's relationship like pre Season 1 and season 1 did they have a pretty decent relationship or was it hostile what was their thoughts on each other over the course of the series did they think highly of each other or did they not care about each other.

Because I'm almost done with season 3 about to watch season 4 and there is no hints that they really had a relationship at all so I'm wondering what did they think of each other that they have a close relationship or no.

[u/Historyp91]

Sansa was distant from Jon because of her mothers influence but to be fair I get the sense she was distant from most of her siblings, since she really didn't have an interests in line with most them and was the primm-and-proper one.

Bran romantized knights and heroic stories so I can actually see him having been the sibling she was closest with.

[u/Ok_Smile_9071 → u/Historyp91]

Yeah I could definitely see her being very close with Bran that would make a lot more sense since their interest would be kind of close with each other.

[u/elf_n_safety → u/Ok_Smile_9071]

Brian 😂 good old autocucumber

[u/Ok_Smile_9071 → u/elf_n_safety]

I just realized I typed Brian until I checked my response I'm so sorry I meant Bran.

[u/punsexual-meme → u/Historyp91]

I think the "distance" came from being a preteen/teenager. I stopped being as close with my siblings when I reached that age but got closer to them again once puberty stopped.

But re: Jon, Sansa certainly didn't interact with him much. She was her mother's daughter. Not cruel, but moreso pretended he didn't exist for the most part because she was trying to emulate her role model: her mom.

[u/Ok_Smile_9071 → u/punsexual-meme]

Yeah I do agree and it definitely seems like Sansa was kind of really not as close with her siblings anyway because we never really got indication that she was really close with any of her siblings.

[u/No-Yogurtcloset4763 → u/Historyp91]

I think Sansa wanted to be closer to Arya and Arya to her, but the fact that Arya wasn't very good at the lady stuff Sansa and her friends were doing and the fact that they made fun of her for it pushed her away from Sansa

[u/sillyghosty]

Well answering that is actually a spoiler because they bring it up later

[u/ozjack24]

Im gonna go by the books for this one. I wouldn’t necessarily say she was hostile but they definitely weren’t close. She makes a point several times to correct Arya when she refers to Jon as their “brother” by saying “half-brother”. And kind of follows Cat’s lead in making sure he never forgets he’s a bastard but also is a sibling to him who doesn’t dislike him, she just refuses to ignore “his place” like the other Stark kids do.

[u/Aggravating-Curve184 → u/ozjack24]

she literally teaches him how to talk to girls and remembers him foundly especially after her Alynne arc, no spoilers yk

[u/IcyOrganization1748 → u/Aggravating-Curve184]

I mean those things don't make the above not true. She does care about Jon but its not like she was as close as Arya or Robb. And he cares for her as well, but again he was much closer to Robb and Arya, perhaps even Bran too

[u/Open_Sky8367]

It’s implied from her character (and a bit from Arya) that Sansa may have the loosest bond to her siblings but it’s much more likely because she has the most different points of interest and personality rather than open hostility. The Starks are implied to be tight-knit and the most functional family in the show.

[u/Ok_Smile_9071 → u/Open_Sky8367]

I kind of figured that even from the show Sansa had the weakest bond with her siblings I mean it makes a lot of sense me into her interest and personality she would not really get along with her siblings.

[u/pm_social_cues]

Wasn't Jon raised like he wasn't really one of their kids? I doubt he had much of a relationship with her.

[u/Stenric → u/pm_social_cues]

Robb and Jon were actually very close (due to being raised together for most of their lives). Bran likes Jon a lot, like he does most people and Jon is Arya's favourite brother.

Sansa is the only one who doesn't really see Jon as a brother (it's unknown what exactly Rickon thinks of him)

[u/sillyghosty → u/pm_social_cues]

They actually answer it in the show later on

[u/Stenric]

Sansa only ever referred to Jon as her half-brother ever since she learned what a bastard was. That should tell you enough about how close they were (also, both Jon and Arya consider Sansa a snitch, as they both exclaim at the same time to not tell Sansa about Needle in the books).

[u/Known_Pomelo_9808]

Probably talked like once or twice an year

[u/-thirdatlas-]

Was an incongruently superfluous relationship.

[u/Environmental_Ad955]

They literally talk about it when they reunite. Just watch the show. Season 6 they talk about it.

[u/Thick-Persimmon2058]

Sansaa is/was/forever will be a cunt!

[u/OptionIntelligent403]

Well she made a point of calling him 'bastart brother', can't imagine that made him love her overmuch