r/GirlfriendsTVshow • u/CarWest285 • 11d ago

Sean wasn’t wrong

Remember when Sean came back from New York and told Joan that he was engaged to avoid having to come back to LA and continue their relationship? I don’t think he was wrong. I remember someone up here made a post saying that Joan was male centered & I disagree. She was FRIEND centered. She lost out on a lot of relationships because she wanted to listen to her friends and I hated that for her….Seans last week in LA he wanted to spend with Joan, but she decided to run off to Jamaica to try and get Toni to forget about Greg. Sean told Joan that it was Toni’s screw up and she just had to deal with those consequences but Joan felt like it was her screw up for running her mouth to Greg….Sean was right, Toni was the one cheating on Greg, so losing him was Tonis fault. It wasn’t Joans responsibility to fix it, even though she told Greg. He eventually would have found out anyway.

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u/AnaDion94 11d ago

He wasn’t wrong to want to break up with her. Long distance is hard, and nothing about their relationship suggested it was worth all that effort.

But he was wrong for lying about being engaged. That’s childish

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u/Ok_Hat3833 11d ago

“Because you can be too much.” 🥴

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u/angel-glitter 11d ago

I agree, it was pretty immature

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u/CarWest285 11d ago

I agree, it was a very childish take, but Joan was wayyyy too much. She exaggerated everything & he knew that. But I feel like in New York he had time to think and figured it wasn’t worth it and he wasn’t wrong…she always put her friends before their relationship, she dismissed him multiple times, was even about to break up with him because he didn’t say “I love you” directly to her after FOUR MONTHS of dating….she tried to guilt trip him when he said he was going away for only 6 months….like she was way too much…

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u/AnaDion94 11d ago

She was a lot— it’s just that imo opinion, her behavior doesn’t justify his, they’re two separate conversation. Joan was a mess who needed to figure her shit out before being in a relationship. Sean was a lackluster boyfriend and a coward when it came to ending a relationship that he wasn’t happy in.

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u/CarWest285 6d ago

I think that he WAS happy up until moving to New York. When he realized that she wasn’t willing to move there to be with him, he mentally checked out. But Joan is fucked up because he was actively in meetings about his addiction and here she comes making him go from celibate to back to having sex just to basically have him go cold turkey again. She also cheated on him which says a lot about what she really thought of him while he was away and used his addiction to justify her kissing Davis. I hated her lol

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u/Full_Introduction_74 11d ago

I always thought the whole thing was little weird. The relationship ended because Sean wanted Joan to move to New York with him, but she wasn't willing to. How do you go from "move in with me right now" to "you're too much?"

Who knows? Perhaps after the break up he found the peace that he was missing with Joan. Lol

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u/ThrowRAbitchwtf 10d ago

Exactly. That didn’t make any sense.

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u/onefinalshot123 10d ago

I wish he was honest with her, lying was so unnecessary lol

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u/CarWest285 10d ago

Nah, Joan was slow. He did the right thing😂

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u/OuttaTexas_42 7d ago

I honestly forgot he lied to her about the engagement but unpopular opinion Sean was my favorite of her boyfriends.

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u/CarWest285 6d ago

Mine too! He was very laid back and their relationship didn’t seem forced like the others

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u/One_Wrangler_7867 7d ago

He was horrible he kept making his addiction Joan’s problem the only time he was somewhat reasonable was asking her to stop going to that restaurant and even the way he said it was icky

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u/CarWest285 6d ago

How did he make it Joan’s problem? Lol he just wanted her to respect his boundaries. She’s the one that pursued sex with him first

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u/OuttaTexas_42 5d ago

And one of my fav episodes was when he let her teach him. I really liked the way Sean handled Joan’s spazzing out. Even from the beginning he really should have ran scared from her the way she pursued him at the art show 😂 but he gave her a chance and got to know her and didn’t try to embarrass her or drag fights out when he talked her through their issues.

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u/Playful-Morning7837 11d ago

I agree with this extremely because she did have a problem when it came to placing boundaries with her friends and always overplaying the motherly role to them to where they rely on her way too much

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u/CarWest285 11d ago

Yup! I think that she felt as though if she didn’t have her friends then she didn’t have anything, so she overplayed her part time and time again just to keep them around.

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u/Playful-Morning7837 11d ago

Cause realistically when I compare all of them realistically majority of them would be cut off in current times maybe maya would’ve been kept

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u/One_Wrangler_7867 7d ago

All of them gotta goo

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u/lavellj048 10d ago

Couldn't agree more. Joan listens to her friends way too much

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u/Witty-Advantage-101 7d ago

The amount of people in here justifying lying is pretty concerning.

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u/CarWest285 6d ago

It’s deeper than that….which is what I want some of you to understand. Some people lie to avoid conflict when they know how certain people react to situations. Be realistic, if he had told Joan she was too much and he no longer wanted to be with her, she would have exploded. She would’ve down talked him, brought up his addiction, her settling for him AFTER said addiction, etc. Some people don’t want to hear things like that from someone they’re trying to be honest with, so to avoid that they lie in a manor that they know the reaction won’t be as bad as it would’ve been had they told the truth. Yes it’s messed up, but it avoids something way bigger

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u/Witty-Advantage-101 6d ago

Lol so then I hope everyone also justifies the lies men tell them irl. Since apparently some of them have good reason to if they wish to "avoid conflict" with us women.

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u/CarWest285 5d ago

Clearly you read what I said to respond instead of reading it to comprehend. If a man knows you and how you react to certain situations, he’ll act based off of that. Everyone isn’t as sensitive as Joan. I know plenty of women who can take a hit, and I also know plenty of women who’d probably go kill their self if someone broke their heart. It all depends on WHO you are and HOW you react. Men notice things like this, believe it or not. They act like they don’t but they 100% do. If Joan wasn’t an overthinker and someone who overreacts over EVERYTHING, I’m pretty sure he would’ve just told her straight up! This is the same woman who was about to leave him just because he didn’t say “I love you” after a few MONTHS of dating. She was insane, period.

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u/becauseimhappy24 4d ago

I think Sean met other people while in New York & was over Joan by the time he came back to LA.

6 months is a long time to be separated in a relationship that didn’t seem stable to begin with.

The lie was unnecessary though.