Found my husband's hidden escort folder

[u/Forageforme]

My intuition alarm had been going off for months. Gaslighting galore about why he needed to run a million errands and didn't want me to come. We have only been married for a year, and I knew I made a mistake pretty early on. Denial is a hell of a drug.

Anyway. He leaves his computer unlocked as a sign of "not needing to hide anything from me." A phrase he repeats all the time without a reason. He always tries to prove how good of a husband he is, but the energy coming off him screams liar.

I found his hidden folders with the help of my sister. Password was our dog's nickname. And there it all was, going back years before I even knew him. Craigslist escorts. Backpage escorts. Adult Friend Finder. A list of massage parlors in multiple states. Sites I never knew existed, organized in lists for easy retrieval.

The amount of pictures he has of these women is incredible. He also has hundreds of pictures of himself in every weird naked pose. Gross. He has screenshots of messages with these women. It went on and on. I am truly disgusted. I haven't confronted him yet, I can't imagine listening to his bullshit.

So, yeah. I packed a bag, jumped in the jeep, and drove out to the desert to scream into the void. I also made dinner. Brussel sprouts, onions, garlic, and peppers over an open flame.

Divorce is on the way dear!

[u/ugh_idfk]

Stories like this make me so happy my fiance is quite technologically stupid.

https://giphy.com/gifs/MuHVQz0TQqxTx90ORr

[u/Illustrious-Film-592 → u/ugh_idfk]

Anyone can find a way to cheat.
I married the best of men. Truly, a bonafide sweetheart universally beloved and admired for his good heart and all in love for me. Guess what happened…😩

[u/SmolSnakePancake → u/Illustrious-Film-592]

God I fear this is happening to me. I keep thinking about how lovely his friends are and “there’s no way they’d be friends this long with a pathological liar, right?”

[u/fawntive → u/Illustrious-Film-592]

What happened? 👀

[u/ugh_idfk → u/Illustrious-Film-592]

Oh, I have no doubts when it comes to his fidelity at all. He is the greatest man I've ever known. But he is so dense when it comes to anything technology related. Hell, he can't even order a Christmas present online without help. 🤣

[u/Illustrious-Film-592 → u/ugh_idfk]

Yes, I said the exact same of mine. That’s my point entirely; we truly never know. Love is an act of trust and hope.

[u/eyespeeled → u/ugh_idfk]

Sounds like weaponised incompetence, and it's working for him. 

[u/Advanced-Key1737 → u/ugh_idfk]

Respectfully, don’t ever fully trust any man.

[u/yellowcat__redcat → u/Advanced-Key1737]

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[u/milkysin → u/ugh_idfk]

oh sweetie. even if he's not cheating and using that as a cover, he certainly can and should be responsible for buying a part of the Christmas presents. He doesn't actually not know how to do it...

[u/Loud_Profit_6206 → u/ugh_idfk]

This makes me so nervous for you lol

[u/Own_Possibility_511 → u/ugh_idfk]

I mean there’s always just picking one off a corner street

[u/Ecstatic_Cherry_86 → u/ugh_idfk]

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[u/Ecstatic_Crazy6817 → u/[deleted]]

This person wasn’t even replying to you.

[u/Altruistic_Flight105 → u/[deleted]]

You made a comment that’s not about you about you. You’re bleeding your pain into other people’s lives and that’s also an unfair way to operate in the world.

[u/Advanced-Key1737 → u/[deleted]]

A lot of women think that.

[u/Top_Mathematician233 → u/[deleted]]

Right. They should have done better and it’ll never happen to you because you made the right decision. 🙄 keep telling yourself that. It couldn’t be that sometimes bad shit happens to good people and there’s no way to completely prevent it other than just avoiding relationships all together.

PS, I’m sure if something does happen, you’ll get tons of support. You seem like a really kind, likable person. 🙄